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Why is cleaning and housework considered a woman thing?

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Drauntz
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"Why is"?  Shouldn't that be "Why was"?
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It is?
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*smiling sweetly*

My husband thought it was too.

He said that the "outside" of the house was his job, and the "inside" was mine.

So? I threw the dirty dishes out the backdoor and onto "his" porch.

*shrug*



?
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Uhm, would you mind letting my wife know about this bit of information... I'm not brave enough!
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I'm not sure.  You tell us.

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Okay, I know what a woman is.

What is cleaning and housework again?
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I have a monster in my closet. Jabba the Laundry Hutt. All clean. I hate putting it away, hanging it, sorting it, so it grows and grows like a fresh scented mulch pile of clothing.

it's MY thing.

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Your Majesty,
I would love to listen to your marvelous explanation of  "Self-sacrifice has to come from within" to me.  I am very interested in knowing how? from beginning to end before I present my humble words to you, and honored!
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Dear SB, you made me laugh so very loud.
I will remember this joke. you are sooo smart.
life is so much easier if we season it with humor.

love you.

and thank all.
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Huh? Not at my house...

If tears could build a stairway and memories a lane,
I'd walk right up to heaven and bring you home again.

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Shhhh... don't tell my kids -- they think it's just chores!

Hey-  Regina -- nothing quite slays that Jabba like a teenager who wants allowance!!

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lol laundry is my pet peeve. I have to have it all be done. No piles of dirty or clean. It has to be done and put away, and the ironing has to be done,.I'm not too uptight about the ironing, I get about 10 then I have to iron.
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My husband thinks that he can do cleaning and laundry better than me. Why would I argue? It works for me!

I gave up after he went behind me re-doing everything from vacuuming, dusting, folding laundry, rearranging the stuff in the dishwasher, etc.

On the other hand, I take care of all the household finances and his business finances (ledger entries, invoices, billing, desposits, expenditures, sales tax filings, etc.) He'd be lost without me!

I'd say we both have more than enough to keep us busy, and we both seem to do what we are good at doing.
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Reb: I'm gonna have to hire out for a Jabba slayer. Sighs. My son's all grown up & out in Germany. My daughter made a break for freedom this year out on her own.

I miss my kids

we used to make such a wonderful mess together.

Sea: You Iron? I spray my stuff with wrinkle release and toss it in the dryer for 5 minutes. Voila! Now. If it only worked on faces.

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Karen, you kill me.

Drautz- I'm confused, as you were talking in the Atlas Shrugged thread about how housework makes women more womanly? So maybe you should be fielding your own question here?
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Regina? Dryer, for five minutes? I live in an apartment, and for 4 precious laundry quarters you get the whole 45 minute dryer cycle- not available in increments! so... if hanging it in the bathroom for a couple shower's worth of steam doesn't work, and it's too painfully wrinkly to wear (and I'm talking WRINKLY- Like, it has to look like I slept in it for three nights instead of looking like I just slept in it for one) it just gets tossed back into my own jabba the laundry hutts pile.
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hush: That stinks.

in essence, they've got you in a barrel.

Laundromats. I remember those days. I have good memories of the mat. I had to carry my son in a laundry basket to the mat cuz I couldn't carry the bags of laundry and him too down 4 flights of stairs, so I improvised. He liked being in the mini-pen and we'd play peep-eye with his baby blankets. When he got older he had to supervise the washing of his "softy." He was a Linus. The drying tested his patience and he paced the entire time. When that dryer stopped, he'd climb up on a milk crate and sling everything out into a buggy till he found his blanket. He'd smell it and wrap himself in the warmth as if he'd not seen it in ages.

it's funny but women even dressed up to go to the laundromat back in those days. Sometimes we did each other's hair or nails while we waited. That's where we'd chat and catch up on things. Occasionally, a single man would venture down into the basement (where the machines were) and I'm sure he felt a little out of place.

before that?

Every Saturday was Wash day. Wringer-washer, no dryer. Clothesline. Mamaw washed everything including the tablecloths, runners, sheets and rotated the blankets.

The ironing took days (she even ironed the handkerchiefs and boxers) and I remember saying, "When I grow up everything will be polyester so I never have to iron again. Laugh!

so what if some consider such as women's work. There's some good memories and achievement there.
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Pre-wife, I had a tendency not to do laundry... instead, I'd just go buy new clothes.

Of course, that was before we had a kid and a mortgage and 2 car payments and insurance and... in other words, back when I used to have money.
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Ironing...only cotton, left untended, needs to be ironed...

I have a technique that simply wraps my hubby into a knot.  I let everything go on the first cycle, and then come back and give it another 15 minutes on the "low" end of the cycle.  Everything comes out pretty much unwrinkled if I pull it out the minute I hear the buzzer.  If I don't hear the buzzer, and it waits for another hour or so?  I give it another 10 minutes.  I don't mind ironing, IF NEEDED.  But I'll skirt it if at all possible.

Now, as to cleaning, housework, and preparation of food, etc., as to being gender-bendered...

We all come from a long history of "this is the way it's done" attitude.  Men hunted and gathered.  Women bore children and prepared meals.  Period.

Someone got a case of itchy lice, and cleaning the living area was born, because a thought was brought on by eyeing the lice, an equation was met, and someone said, "ugh, dried food, look at the crawly things....ugh" and pitched it out the door.

I think that when a husband and wife, or a couple living together, can find what works for them, and they don't complain as long as it's pretty much equal in all aspects, then no one should throw stones at what works.  What if the man loves to cook, and the wife does the books?  It gets done.

Drauntz, we can't overlook the fact that some folk just cannot come forward in their thinking.  But, Kudos to those who can!
 
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