Listening to every heart
Ironing...only cotton, left untended, needs to be ironed...
I have a technique that simply wraps my hubby into a knot. I let everything go on the first cycle, and then come back and give it another 15 minutes on the "low" end of the cycle. Everything comes out pretty much unwrinkled if I pull it out the minute I hear the buzzer. If I don't hear the buzzer, and it waits for another hour or so? I give it another 10 minutes. I don't mind ironing, IF NEEDED. But I'll skirt it if at all possible.
Now, as to cleaning, housework, and preparation of food, etc., as to being gender-bendered...
We all come from a long history of "this is the way it's done" attitude. Men hunted and gathered. Women bore children and prepared meals. Period.
Someone got a case of itchy lice, and cleaning the living area was born, because a thought was brought on by eyeing the lice, an equation was met, and someone said, "ugh, dried food, look at the crawly things....ugh" and pitched it out the door.
I think that when a husband and wife, or a couple living together, can find what works for them, and they don't complain as long as it's pretty much equal in all aspects, then no one should throw stones at what works. What if the man loves to cook, and the wife does the books? It gets done.
Drauntz, we can't overlook the fact that some folk just cannot come forward in their thinking. But, Kudos to those who can!