Reb~ Oui, je parle le français, mais aucun Monsieur peut venir à ma maison avec moi.
When I worked in an office, men were constantly judging each other by how "whipped" the other was by their wives. (behind the back) and would further the sting with "She's such a (negative label)" and then they would proceed with "I'd never let my wife tell me what to do, blah blah, establishing himself as the alpha male, blah blah" Then the phone would ring for that man. "Honey, pick up some cat litter while you're out."
Women deal the same ugly cards, but in your face, one way or another, and it's hard to work around it, unless you're tough skinned.
Larry~ Great! "It's a beautiful day in the neighborhood....won't you be my neighbor?"
Stephen~ No, we agree, not womanly, destructive and undermining to the very fiber of a woman, especially when it's unwarranted.
A man, who has relations with any of the labeled women, can sit back and watch her be torn apart by other women as if he's a spectator at women's sports.
Except for the second list which is laced with negativity/abuse. They are still acceptable and worthy aspirations within society.
I was a female athlete, and I was called a female homosexual, more than once, by my peers who played the same game. Dumb, huh? But very real. Did it stop on the playing field? No.
Though there are some who consider these behaviors "manly".
"Behaviors," is the key word there, for me.
We are well aware of the double-standards.
Standards of behavior, social deviances, usually require both male and female involvement. This is where I go out on a limb and suffer more attacks from women.
Do I blame men for double-standards? No. They are well enforced by women.
Is it men's fault that we compete in so many ways we can no longer fit our own idyllic/idealistic mold?
No. And I won't get surgery to do it, either. Nor will I hide behind my door afraid of what the world might do to me or think of me.
Besides becoming a man, the only option for me is to be the best woman I can be, by my standards. The world will eventually tire with labels when my body becomes too aged for them to adhere. I will officially be OUT of the playing field.
Porn stars and prostitutes are examples of womanhood derailed
Perhaps someday, it will also be an example of manhood derailed as well. And no, I don't think you feel that behavior is manly. But it is a good example of how women are stigmatized over and above the men in the same video/alley.