Member Rara Avis
quote:Come now, Ron, please.
Ah, I misunderstood your concern, Christopher. It's not that brainwashing someone with "no substantial means of rational objectiveness" is bad, then, so much as it's just a job that should be left to the parent?
I would most sincerely be interested in a method of rearing children that would ensure they weren't brainwashed, mistreated, ignored, abused, etc., etc., etc. Of course, we can write something into the constitution, homogenize our culture and live in harmonious sameness until society crumbles around us for lack of stimulus or growth.
Or, we can take the opportunities we have and do the best we can within our individual belief structures. Does that mean I support parents who take their children to church at young ages? Absolutely - that's something that fits within their beliefs. Does that mean I think they're right to do so? No, but what I believe should have no bearing on the rearing of another's child, should it?
In my house, we focus on questions and understanding, on working on problems and thinking things through. I mention some of these things to people I work with and they kind of laugh, pointing out that my son is only two and really doesn't have the cognitive capability to reason things through. They haven't seen him in action though, so it's understandable. He amazes me constantly with his ability to approach a problem and work on it, usually achieving some plan by which to resolve it - that it's not always tenable doesn't negate in any manner that he thought it through.
I suppose there could be some argument to say that teaching a child to think for themselves is a form of brainwashing, but I don’t believe it would hold much water. I support actions such as asking a child “why?”
“Why is that wrong?”
“Why do we not hit the dog?” (we ask this a lot, he still disagrees with the reasoning as to why this is a bad thing, lol)
“Why do we say thank you?”
I have sworn to myself to never drop a “because I said so,” or “that’s just the way it is,” or – the worst, “do as I say, not as I do.” I believe every question by a child should be answered (and boy is that tiring sometimes). But I would prefer some questions come at later times. I really don’t want to try to explain religion to my son when he’s three or four. Nor would I want to explain sex to him that early either.
Can I get everything right? Probably not even most. But why should my job be made more difficult by someone else’s interference? Why should I accept someone else’s toys or rhetoric that will counter my wishes just to make them happy that they’re forwarding their own agenda? Where does freedom of speech and religion translate to freedom to interfere?