British Columbia, Canada
I sure do agree that certain habits I personally don't happen to have are indeed cultural, and personal choice and do accept them. No where have I seen in any culture that smelling bad makes you the Big Kahuna. Some human customs do require an acceptance that is unconditional for sure. However I do have a tiny problem with those unshaved legs and armpits women sport and yes, that is my problem not theirs but, , not to mention unkept feet, hand and toenails, or a rat's nest for hair, but that is just me. I do accept personal art of any kind a person feels they have to do to make them happy, as this is truly the only thing we have control over in this life, ourselves. But, I figure when someone's nasty hygiene habits invade my space it gives me some right to mention something to them "tactfully," but then would only do that if I was almost certain they were not aware of it, or could do something about it. That would depend on what country I was in of course too. I would not go up to some poor, unfortunate person living on the street with my idea of using Mitchem deodorant, and fully understand their restrictions, but a person I was around quite often, or worked with, I sure as heck would. They may get mad for a bit yes, but I bet it would leave them something to think about. Like I said earlier, when I did this very thing, the person was grateful actually as he didn't even know, and finally figured out why people may have avoided him his entire life, and excluded him.
Oh and by the way Ron, remember I told you how nice you smelled (your cologne?) Yes you did, and as glad as I was to meet you I have to tell you that if you had knocked me over with more than your charm I might just had to haul you aside and mention something to you, yes I would, now you know I would! I don't think I would have liked the feedback I got but I still would have done it. Heck I would have hated to draw straws as to who was going to sit next to a cute guy like you. By the way, good thing you did smell so darn "purty" in that theatre, because with your stubborn streak, and not moving I might have turned you in you "stinker." *smilin here*
Karen I still have to agree with you on this one, as I am tolerant of almost anything on any body except ignorance of bad hygeine. I find it leaves 3 choices; to say something nicely, avoid them at all costs, or rub Vic's under your nose for the rest of your encounters with them.
I have a tattoo by the way, a big colored one to boot, and could care less what people think of it. I rather like the silly thing and was thinking of getting more even to "express" myself. However, if I smelled like yesterday's cabbage - I am pretty sure someone would tell me, and hope to goodness they would think enough of me to do just that. So after all that rambling, I am glad your daughter is like you. and I bet her friend is too.
[This message has been edited by Mysteria (07-28-2005 01:43 AM).]