Saluting with misty eyes
Cloud- You are speaking my son's life, as well as my ex-wife wwith your words.
My ex's father bailed when she was about your daughter's age. A single working mother is one of the most difficult jobs to have... My mother in law did it, and her three daughters came out the other side mostly OK. Of course, it is almost 36 years later, and NONE of the girls will talk to him.
My son's bioplogical idiot came in and out of my son's life fso many times that it wasn't even a joke any longer. This last time, my son has officially given up on him, and refuses to even discuss him any longer. He could very easily be a very bitter, angry, and destructive young man, yet with the love that his mother and I gave him, and the hard work we did leting him know that he was NOT the reason for these things happening, he has turned into a basically well-adjusted 16 y/o who has some anger that needs to be dealt with.
Keep lovbing your daughter, and NEVER talk badly of her father in front of her, or where there is a chance that she might be able to hear. Eventually, she will get the idea of what happened, and will make up her own mind about what to do. All you can do is to stand by and love her even more.
If and when you have another man in your life, and her father comes back around... expect the new man to catch all sorts of grief as she tries to settle things in her mind. If your ex leaves her again, then be prepareed for him to catch even more grief because she can't be mad at her father (he's not there, and he is her father). Eventually things will settle into where she knows what's going on, and life gets better.
Wishing prayers and peace in your life during these difficult times.
They took pictures of our dreams
Ran to hide behind the stairs
And said maybe when it's right for you, they'll fall