Saluting with misty eyes
I have been in enough classrooms to recognize you just don't see paddles lying around anymore. That tells me we've evolved from that, we in general just don't believe in that form of punishment anymore.
It is true Noah, that most schools do not have paddles lying around any longer, and it is also true that behavior in many schools has deteriorated to the point where... well, we all know. Could there possibly be a connection? I am not advocating the unbridled butt-whuppin's that might possibly be suggested by Mr. Cuningham. I am however making a point for occasionally placing a firm hand (or paddle) on the seat of the problem.
When I was in school, (albiet Catholic school), I was a total dunce one day, and forgot my tie (I waas totally brain dead in those days) and when I was called on it, informed the teacher that I was done with those stupid things, and sisn't see the need for it, thank you very much. And that if she didn't like it, she could go to my house and get it for me. Well, after Sister finished applying her solution, she sent me to the school disciplinarian who provided me with his own particular brand of counselling. (sp) All I got was ONE swat across my clothed backside, and I promise you that in 1 more year of Catholic school, and 7 more years of publicx education (not including college), I never once even considered talking back to a teacher, and thought twice about talking back to an adult. Pretty strong re-inforcement for a crack from a frail old nun and another by a wooden paddle.
I'll never spank my children in disciplining them when I become a father in the future
With Respect, I can promise you that you don't know for an absolute what you will or will not do. I was of the same mind the enitre time I was growing up (and I didn't stop growing up uintil I had kids... and my ex would say not even then). However, my son was (and is) a strong-willed, bull-headed, gonna-do-my-thing- regardless kind of a boy. His mother and I tried yelling, grounding, taking away the Ninetndo (or other), taking away everything except his right to breathe, and sometimes it just didn't work. I only hit my son maybe twice, (and only once each time) however the infractions that I was reduced to corporal punishment for, he has never done in my presence again. The only other thing that I have ever done that was of a physical nature is when my son decided he was bigger (which he was) and badder(Which he wasn't) than I was (an inevitability in life), and pushed me. By the time he realized something was wrong, I had him in a headlock and was rubbing his face in the dirt, and he was screaming for mercy. It didn't hurt him, however he realized that *I* ws still in charge and that *I* made the rules. To this day, even though we have eveolved into more friends than parent/son, he still treats me with respectI do not suggest that anyone do such things, however, you have to fit your rearing strategies to each child individually. Dr. Spock forgot to teach us that.
BTW.. my daughter very seldom requires more than a stern warning, and a raised voice will usually stop her in her tracks and upset her. For her, Dr Spock has something to say.
In the wooden chair
Beside my window
I wear a face born in the falling rain