A Romantic Heart
Forever In Your Heart
First of all I want to say, I admire your decision to bring this life into the world.
You have already shown great maturity by sacrificing your body, your time, your future for your son or daughter.
Enjoy every minute of you pregnancy, you will miss feeling the baby kick inside of you, and when you go to deliver, You will cry at seeing such a miracle of life.
It is so awesome to see a part of you so tiny and to know you carried that baby, you gave it life...a chance to live. This is one of the most memorable times of your life, enjoy it to the fullest.
Don't worry about being a great mom, as long as you have love, unconditional love, you won't be selfish and you will always think of your child first. I can see that you are already that way.
Just follow your heart...give to your child what you wanted as a child..give lots of love, hugs, kisses....and what ever you put in that little heart...is what reward you get back someday....
If you want your child to love you..teach it love...give it love..if you want it to respect you..teach it respect...etc.Let them be their own person..not a copy of you or to fullfill your dreams that you never got to do...I didn't stereotype my sons...I allowed them to be free in their thinking and choices. One thing I so despise..is that men should be raised a certain way...etc. That is bull! Men need to cry..men need to be taught as boys how to be loving and kind, how to cook..etc.How to show emotion and talk about their feelings...Just because my boys were male..didn't mean they had to play with guns and be macho...besides I am against guns in my home...and I never have let them play with toy guns..I feel it promotes violence.(some choices are limited, because you are the parent, the wiser, but just like kids, no child is perfect, no parent is perfect either.)
Books and advice from friends( You will know whatis good advice, what is not) helped me alot..but mostly I followed my intuition, my heart..just like any other relationship..you will know what to do and create that bond.
But unlike any relationship..the love from your child is so depending and trusting, you are their role model. The innocence and love is so rewarding...you will feel so loved, unlike love you have ever known.
I have two sons..I had one at the age of 23..the other at the age of 25. Just by natural love, my sons around the age of 3 or 4 would go out into the yard and pick flowers for me and come inside , hug me and tell me that they love me....that made EVERYTHING worth it...The first time you hear "Mommy, I Love You"...WOW! and when they throw their little arms around you....when they want bedtime stories and for you to sleep with them...so many rewards that money can't buy!
There are going to be bad days too...as with life...you have good and bad days...but love will make you strong enough to cope...life is about balance and change..adjusting to that change...
We are always changing, and it is how we adapt and adjust to cope with that change...each stage of a childs life is rewarding and challenging....but that is what makes life..life..exciting and new.You are LIVING A LIFE.
Love is the key...money..don't worry, money can't buy happiness...Teach your child to love himself and to love others....love the world.
You will be a great mom...I know your feelings are very sensitive at this time...just be strong and let what people say go through one ear and out the other.
You are giving life...giving love...and you are special and beautiful!
One last thing, I may add, you are going to come into a big change, and after your child is born, you will see the world even more differently, you will notice more and you are more sensitive to things around you, things you never had seen or noticed before..it changes your perspective about life..and you become more mature...children help you to put everything into focus.
Love and Hugs
Open your eyes, open your mind, open your heart, let me come in and show you love.....~ARH