Member Rara Avis
… in the real world I don't believe in doing away with people for their wrong doings
So, you don't believe that someone who robs a bank should ever have to face the risk of prison?
Everyone makes their own decisions in life, and each of those decisions will have consequences. You can never eliminate those consequences, but can at best shift the burden of bearing them to others. In my opinion, that's usually a mistake. Every parent wishes they could absorb all the pain for their children, but none can, and the wise ones soon realize they shouldn't even try. Remove the pain of the flame and most children would grow up with badly charred fingers.
Misplaced compassion and ill-considered idealism do no one any favors.
Society punishes people who rob banks or shoot their neighbors, in large part, because it's the best way to deter such actions. It works very, very poorly, to be sure, but is still much better than any second closest choice. The man who walks into a bank with a sawed-off shotgun makes a choice, fully aware of the possible consequences of his actions. He will go to jail. He will spend the rest of his life branded as a convicted felon, with all the attendant restrictions of that brand. Were we to simply make him put back the money and send him on his way, the consequences of his choice would only be shifted from him to the bank around the corner. Someone always has to pay. Justice is best defined by insuring the right person gets the bill.
Our Moderators are all volunteers. They put up with a lot of real crap, usually from people who should have long ago learned to make better decisions. In all but the most egregious circumstances, those people making bad decisions are given ample opportunity to learn to make better decisions, essentially shifting the burden of consequences from their shoulders to the shoulders of our Moderating team. Ergo, the crap. Part of my job is to decide when the crap gets too deep. Part of my job is to decide when protection of the community must supersede protection of the individual.
Frankly, it's not a job I much like, nor one I would recommend. Registrations to the forums have been disabled for several weeks now simply because I got tired of the job. They will remained disabled until I can again stomach the job. Or, perhaps, until I can learn to do it a little better.
Our rules are pretty simple, probably too simple considering our growth, and the consequences for breaking those rules are equally simple. If we fail to set rules and establish consequences, the results are inevitable anarchy. If we set rules and establish consequences, but then fail to uphold either, we become liars and cheats. When you joined pipTalk, you promised to follow the rules. Implicit in that social contract is our promise to enforce those rules.
People make choices, and in a just system, each will bear the consequences for the choices they make. Posting at pipTalk isn't a right. It's not like breathing or voting or speaking out against your government. When you enter someone's home, you do so by invitation. You make the choice whether to accept the invitation and, at the end of story, you also make the choice determining how you will leave. I can't make either of those decisions for you. The best I can do is to do what I say I will do. The best I can do is to keep my promises. Your choice always determines which promise must be kept.
It's all comes down to choices. Promise made, promise kept.