A Romantic Heart
Forever In Your Heart
We need to take our problems to the Lord and put it prayer....How would our heavenly father deal with this situation? What would Jesus do? How would Jesus treat the offender?
"Forgive them father for they know not what they do!" He is our role model and example to live by.."Do unto others as you would have them do unto you"
"Love thy neighbor as thy self"...forgive and it will be forgiven unto you"....
"Love thy enemies" "Pray for those who persecute you"....To the woman caught in adultry who was thrown out of the city and going to be stoned to death....Jesus said to her.."Your sins have been forgiven","Go and sin no more"(Jesus knew her heart and knew she wanted to change..this is the key)....he told the others doing the stoning.."He who is without sin himself, may cast the first stone" ( note: all the stones were dropped..because no one is without sin..no one is perfect....)
I will Pray for peace and wisdom in this situation...
My theory is..most people who are mean by choice are so for some resaon...and most of the time..it is lack of love and understanding(somewhere throughout their lives)...to me this is a soul crying out for love...this soul wants love but doesn't know how to correctly receive it..so one acts out to get the love the only way they know how...even if it is attention from being bad....most have had some traumatic experiance in their lives that has caused their hearts to be filled with hate and bitterness, causing a hardened heart.
Maybe when a person is being mean on purpose we should send loving ecards to them....
Tough Love is the key...yes sin has its consequences..but there is also forgiveness...
The balance has to be to discipline...but to discipline with love....Love the sinner..hate the sin...
I think there should be a room...like a password room..and as soon as the topic or person posting mean replies etc..logs in..they are taken to this room to work issues out..and the post is locked.Maybe emotion icons beside our name(This could be choosen as we log in) explaining what kind of mood we are in so if we had a bad day....everyone would know...etc.
Sometimes it may be a matter of lack of understanding..and sometimes it is choice to be bad....through discussion and communication in this room, you can get to the bottom of the issue and nip it in the bud before it snowballs and is viewed for the public. Maybe a chat room? this way the issues can be discussed and after the discussion all of it disappears....maybe there should be one person gifted in people situations that could be a moderator just for this type of situation only...like therepy room....cooling down room...and when let out of the room and back into the forums..after three times ...then ban them ..because
1. The first time, is forgivable..(maybe temper, anger, bad day, lack of knowledge and understanding...)
2. This time they knew what they were doing, so it is a CHOICE...then a warning..They choose to do this against you willfully knowing to do better.Then it becomes personal.
3,This time they have received the warning, made the CHOICE and they continue...then they should be banned.(maybe allow them to post poetry but not replies, because poetry is therapy for most people)
There are those who will never change...who come to attack..and destroy..and I say ignore them(them meaning attackers, not curious debate or discussion)..ignore their post(just like the media when serial killers want attention)...silence is a killer and the way to make a person leave is to not acknowledge them at all...then they would get bored with it and soon...go away because it isn't fun anymore..sometimes I think we fuel the fire...
I know dealing with kids you have almost the same issues and I would suggest reading a book for the solution maybe "Tough Love" by James Dobson...or to ask Dr. Phil from the Dr. Phil show?
Just throwing ideas out for a solution.... so we all can be on common ground...
Maybe just poems could be posted and the replies be hidden...or sent to a private email box...we could still read eachothers poetry and everyone would be equal..not basing the poems on the number of replies...etc.
I may be wrong but to me the poetry being posted is not as much as a problem as the replies to the poetry?
When the replies are hidden one is less temted to post a mean reply..because the attention is not there for everyone to see..
Just my thoughts on the matter...I can see both sides...
Ess wants to love others( teach others love to change them not shun them or throw them to the wolves,and how can one learn how to love without been given love to change them?)..and so does PIP members....love comes with responsibility, respect, and forgiveness. Some people as children are never taught this....and then grow up as adults....until something teaches them or changes them.(but they have to desire change and want to change)
Some people never learn...some learn after it is too late...some let their pride get in the way and will not admitt to their mistakes....
Some are stalkers...perverts..etc..and this is where banning is needed!
Just as America cannot be the world police...PIP cannot be the the physicologist for the internet.
Jesus said there is no perfect world but heaven..and no peace here on earth..as long as there is good..there is evil...why would we need heaven if we could all have heaven here on earth?
It all comes down to choice..to do good or evil....
Open your eyes, open your mind, open your heart, let me come in and show you love.....~ARH