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Pip
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0 posted 12-18-2003 01:21 AM       View Profile for Pip   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Pip


Why do doctors (sorry, if you're a doctor and reading this...no real offense meant) always have to make things so god darn difficult?  And what does it could be cancer mean?  Well, to me it means go home and be depressed while we try to decide what to do for about a week, and then we'll call you and tell you that we have no idea.  Then I can be depressed for a few more days while they try to think of something else, and just because of a could be?!  So, I'm supposed to drop everything and emotionally unload because I "might" have cancer...and, then "maybe" I won't have cancer, which would, of course, be just wonderful, but I would have dropped EVERYTHING (which, right now, is a whole whole whole lot) for nothing.  Or I could have cancer...  and I don't want to think about that right now.  So I'm just going to be mad at the damn doctors for awhile because I think they are stupid.  
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lighting candles, saying prayers, and holding your hand.



c'mere you.

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Smile and go on. When the Doctors give you the news, if it's good, rejoice. If not, then put on your fighters shoes and smile. It has been beaten you know! Don't be afraid to cry or get mad and throw something. If you need to talk, I'm here.....
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3 posted 12-18-2003 02:55 AM       View Profile for Mysteria   Email Mysteria   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Mysteria

Why?  Because they don't know until someone tells them for certain.  You wonder if it is better they say nothing, rather that mention the "c word."  I can remember waiting four days for my news on a biopsy, and thought I would absolutely lose my mind.  See, cancer is a damn scary word, so it is okay to be darn mad at the doctors, I was too.  The waiting drives you nuts right?

When the news comes and it is good you will never feel better in your life, now should it be not so good, well then you try to remember that this is 2003.  The advancements that have been made are absolutely incredible, so try not to worry as that leads to thinking the worst.  I hope that you will lean on family and friends for support.  It is a proven fact that if you think positive, positive things happen. Sharing here was a step in the right direction and you have to know you will get support in here, that is what Ron made this place for and what it is about - a circle of friends.  Hang in there!
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4 posted 12-18-2003 08:44 AM       View Profile for Nan   Email Nan   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems   Click to visit Nan's Home Page   View IP for Nan

Geesh - and don't forget to have a Merry Christmas, eh?  Hang in there, m'friend - I'll track you down later & give you a cyber-hug...
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5 posted 12-18-2003 02:53 PM       View Profile for Ringo   Email Ringo   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Ringo

Pip,
Believe me when I tell you that I can completely and totally understand where these toughts are coming from and what this question means to you. I was mis-diagnosed with Leukemia at the age of 12 and went through all of the treatments that were available at that. Then I was told it wasn't, and then I was told again that it was, and then I was told that it wasn't... My father was also diagnosed with a "possible" case of brain cancer that took 2 brain surgeries and 3 doctors to confirm. When you are faced with the greatest crisis any human being can face, the uncertainty of what is next, and the possible loss of their life, it is VERY easy to become depressed.
To answer your question about why the vagueness of the medical profession... liability and the wish to be completely wrong in a diagnoses. If a doctor tells you tht you have cancer, however they want to run some more tests to confirm it, and you spend a couple of weeks depressed, and maybe you do yourself harm because of the possibilities, and it turns out you DIDN'T have the illness, then your family owns the doctor. If you don't harm yourself, then YOU could sue the doctor because tof the mental strain and the pressure he "needlessly" put you through. I am not accusing, nor am I judging, I am simply stating the facts.
If the doctor DOESN'T tell you and then you get to the stage where treatment is not an option... then you own the doctor.
It is very simply a CYA for the doctors... plus, the doctors don't want to be right ever. By telling you maybe, there is always the hope.
As for what to do next?
Lots of prayer, if that is your thing. Positive thinking, and imagining yourself to be well, and to have this taken from you.
My thougghts and prayers are with you in this time.


We are all equal but we’re individually different
and able to reach the impossible if we try.

[This message has been edited by Ringo (12-18-2003 03:14 PM).]

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6 posted 12-18-2003 03:06 PM       View Profile for Mysteria   Email Mysteria   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Mysteria

Hi again, just wanted you to know I am still here with the rest of the gang for a leaning post should you need one.  Waiting it out is tough!  

Ringo is right about the liability issue as well, I remember asking and the answer they gave me was legally they are not allowed to say a word until a diagnosis is confirmed.  Sad part is - the medical profession too is run by humans, who also make mistakes.  It is always good to get a second opinion on something that requires it, and when dealing with "maybe it's cancer", I think it is a good idea, yes?

So, just hoping you are having a good day I guess.

                    
Let there be peace on earth,
and let it begin with me.

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Sometimes, even third opinions are required.  IF you have cancer, there are wonderful places you can get to, quickly, that will help you get through, and over, this scare.  Keep us apprised, as soon as you hear...

meanwhile, I've got you in quilted prayers...
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8 posted 12-24-2003 04:07 AM       View Profile for Mysteria   Email Mysteria   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Mysteria

Hey Pip, just wanted you to know I am still praying for you, and sincerely hope you are able to enjoy your family, and friends this season.  Merry Christmas!
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9 posted 12-27-2003 07:54 PM       View Profile for Temptress   Email Temptress   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Temptress

**HUGS**
Praying and hoping here.



I didn't see this til now.  Sorry.

All of my impurities are right here on my sleeve. This is Me"---Faith Hill

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10 posted 12-27-2003 08:56 PM       View Profile for wintertao   Email wintertao   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for wintertao

Just know you are not alone.....something like 40% of the US population will have cancer of some kind at some point in their life...Every year that goes by the survival rate goes up. Stay Positive.  Lance Armstrong's book is very moving.

[This message has been edited by wintertao (12-27-2003 09:56 PM).]

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11 posted 01-15-2004 07:42 AM       View Profile for Sunshine   Email Sunshine   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems   Click to visit Sunshine's Home Page   View IP for Sunshine

Check in, please, with status update?
 
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