navwin » Discussion » The Alley » Employer Brutality
The Alley
Post A Reply Post New Topic Employer Brutality Go to Previous / Newer Topic Back to Topic List Go to Next / Older Topic
fractal007
Senior Member
since 2000-06-01
Posts 1958


0 posted 2003-08-28 03:13 PM


Has anyone here had the experience of working a summer job that sucked, not because the work sucked but because your employer was a jerk?

Recently I worked on a farm where our boss treated us like morons most of the time, calling us stupid while knowing full well that he had NOT even finished highschool while half his workers had and were now college and university students.  I mean, yes the pay was good and I can appreciate that I was there to work rather than to be pampered and treated nicely, but this guy took the cake.  Apparently this guy was/is so bad that he has a hard time finding employees since just about everyone in his Christian circles has heard of him and his brutalities.  Furthermore, since his workers are usually Christians, people in other churches end up hearing about him, making hiring even harder.  

Well, I have digressed to give that example from my own life.  Let's hear some other rantings and stories!

2+2=5 for sufficiently large values of 2
--Smit
My Creations

© Copyright 2003 fractal007 - All Rights Reserved
Miah
Senior Member
since 2002-08-26
Posts 1062
Pennsylvania
1 posted 2003-08-28 03:29 PM


Too bad you can't report him.  Don't you love bosses like that.  Power hunger, they like to make other people feel small, because they feel small.  My boyfriends one manager is like that, he never has a nice thing to say, and always makes Jason do unecessary things just to be mean.  I guess they are everywhere.  I wish you the best of luck!
Sunshine
Administrator
Member Empyrean
since 1999-06-25
Posts 63354
Listening to every heart
2 posted 2003-08-28 03:45 PM


It's quite possible the "farmer" felt inferior to the "high school and college" men.  Insecurity and feeling of inferiority can lead one down the path to acts of aggression, and shows of "I'm the MAN around here".  It happens with women, too.

Looking at it from that angle, and if you re still in his neighborhood, what could you do or say to him that would minimize HIS feelings of threat from the "younger/stronger" men he had hired.  

Story:  My father, with a sixth grade education, never "seemed" to be bothered by younger, stronger, better educated men.  Once, when he was about 50, some male teens challenged his "abilities" and the talk led to a footrace. He took them on, not as a team, but one by one.  And there were three of them.

After he beat them all fair and square, he shook their hands.  Did they let him win?  I doubt it.  But he certainly earned their respect for being just an "old man with a sixth grade education."

How could YOU help the farmer gain YOUR respect?


Kaoru
Deputy Moderator 1 TourDeputy Moderator 1 TourDeputy Moderator 1 Tour
Member Elite
since 2003-06-07
Posts 3892
where the wild flowers grow
3 posted 2003-08-28 04:13 PM


I worked as a dishwasher for almost a year..

Now, I understand that cleanliness is a very important factor in the food industry.

Except, my boss was a very insulting jerk about it. When I started the job I got little "training", meaning I hadn't been told where everything was located, and what I'd be doing beside dishwashing.
I remember once being told to mop up a spill in the middle of the restaurant, and I had no idea where the mop was! So after he told me to do it, I asked..

His reply: "Do you ever *bleepin'* listen Meghan, are you *bleepin'* stupid or something? I don't have the *bleepin'* time to tell you how to do your *bleepin'* job".

And then he proceeded to walk away without giving me any direction as to where the mop was. I eventually found it, of course.

At first I thought he was just frustrated, this was only my fourth day on the job.. But I found out as time progressed that he was like this ALL THE TIME. He'd also have "special projects" for me to do, like mopping up fecal matter after a pipe had burst downstairs. Vacuuming the catering van five times before it was "good enough". All the while he'd insult and tell me how imperfect a job I'd done.. Sometimes he'd eventually just get so mad that he'd tell me to forget it and go home.

On my 18th birthday, which happened to be the busiest day of the year, the dishwasher broke (which I was promptly blamed for) and I had to bring every dish down stairs to use the other dishwasher, and then bring them back up. I had to do this for 5 hours straight and also inch my way through the closet sized dishpit upstairs to gather them, and refill cracker barrels and get soup for customers.

I almost got fired that day because I left without asking.. I was just that angry. I never got a raise, and I was making less than minimum wage by Wisconsin guidelines. I also walked 4 miles to and from work.

Shows how appreciative some people are, eh?

Sorry, this was long, but it's valid.

Ringo
Deputy Moderator 10 ToursDeputy Moderator 10 ToursDeputy Moderator 1 TourDeputy Moderator 1 TourDeputy Moderator 1 Tour
Member Elite
since 2003-02-20
Posts 3684
Saluting with misty eyes
4 posted 2003-08-28 05:41 PM


I have to agree that it is quite possible that your boss is insecure and is treating everyone that way to make himself feel a bit better. (By the way... did you realize that boss spelled backwards is Double SOB??)
I spent three months getting physically, mentally and emotionally abused, however at the end of it was being a Marine. I realize it is two different scenarios, I am just using it to show you that you need to figure out the detriments and rewards for your present situation and decide from there if the payoff is worth the aggrevation. Above all else, you MUST be true to yourself.

We are all equal but we’re individually different
and able to reach the impossible if we try.

fractal007
Senior Member
since 2000-06-01
Posts 1958

5 posted 2003-08-28 08:15 PM


I dunno if this is out of a sense of inferiority.  It is quite possible.  But even if it is, it is unlikely that the problem could be resolved.  He, like others I have met who have been "uneducated," often puts out a huge slew of rationalizations for not getting a good education or filling one's mind with information.  These include things like "we don't need to know that" or he objects on the basis of "practicality", that ever popular excuse for ignorance.  "If it won't help you in life you don't need to know it."  Of course what angers me about people who make that statement is the fact that they often lead lives that are so miserable and simple-minded that no one envies them.  Maybe I'm just being unreasonable here, but it angers me how some people[including this guy and many others I know] can be so stubbornly ignorant and at the same time claim that what they say about things such as contemporary issues is intelligent in any way.  This guy was a fairly conservative Christian.  I don't hold that against him really.  Everyone is entitled to his/her own beliefs.  But acting like an ass and treating his wife like an idiot as he often did are not things that make his Christianity look good.  I am sorry if I've turned this into a religious debate for anyone but I felt I should respond to some of the replies I've gotten.  Perhaps I should also allow my emotions to cool and more responses to reach this post...

2+2=5 for sufficiently large values of 2
--Smit
My Creations

TasteOfOctober
Member
since 2003-06-24
Posts 94

6 posted 2003-09-30 07:53 PM


yo, so give him the finger and walk. or did you? Idon't know, didnt read all the way through, but thats really the only solution to anything, just give him the finger and walk, I wouldn't suggest running and dont swim after you eat for at least an hour, just not a good idea see what I'm sayin? yup, well then there you go.
Midnitesun
Deputy Moderator 1 Tour
Member Empyrean
since 2001-05-18
Posts 28647
Gaia
7 posted 2003-09-30 08:37 PM


Sadly to report, I've had a few PhD's who treated me as badly, and treated everyone around them as if they were of no consequence. I think it has much less to do with religion than with egos.
Don't let him push your buttons into reacting in a less-than-dignified way.
Hah, I say this, even as I remember spitting and cussing over a similar incident. LOL, don't listen to me, I am still a beginner.

Post A Reply Post New Topic ⇧ top of page ⇧ Go to Previous / Newer Topic Back to Topic List Go to Next / Older Topic
All times are ET (US). All dates are in Year-Month-Day format.
navwin » Discussion » The Alley » Employer Brutality

Passions in Poetry | pipTalk Home Page | Main Poetry Forums | 100 Best Poems

How to Join | Member's Area / Help | Private Library | Search | Contact Us | Login
Discussion | Tech Talk | Archives | Sanctuary