I'm accused of that very same thing myself at least once a month, Ethel. My justification is "truth is happiness." I'd rather myself not be decieved into happiness, nor would I wish that of anyone else... so I ask people questions, I try to get them thinking about their situation, to help them realize what they might really want... ya know?
I do it for myself, too. Whenever I'm happy I look for an angle. It's not "misery loves company," it's just prioritizing truth over happiness. I guess not a lot of people would want to do that, though? Makes a jerk out of me.
Faith is a fine invention
When gentlemen can see
But microscopes are prudent
In an emergency.