Member Rara Avis
Your email and posts, bklynboy, have gone unacknowledged because it's less rude to ignore someone than it is to tell them to mind their own business. Your posts and emails, as well as those of others, have not helped Michele in the least. On the contrary, taken in conjunction with her own, as a continued mimicry of her words, you have only hurt her position. Trying to compare Michele's conduct to that of others is fruitless, because each are confidential matters and, by definition, you know too little to offer a valid opinion. You did not receive any warnings sent to the one, and you won't likely be CC'd on warning letters to others either. Disrespect for our simple rules is accumulative. Your support of a friend is admirable, to be sure, but what you don't see is far more than what you do see.
Garfield, we try not to publicly tout the mistakes of others, and precisely what Michele did to warrant suspension isn't very important. Besides, if I went into detail, I'd just have to edit myself.
I'm confident you would never do it, but you can rest assured that if you did do it, you wouldn't be suspended. Your comment would be edited and you would be privately told it was inappropriate. And unless you really went spastic on us, that would probably happen at least a dozen or more times before you seriously had to worry about losing your posting privileges. And you would certainly know that consequences were imminent before they were invoked.
Our goal is to have a place where we can all be comfortable posting, but that is not our only goal. It's not even our primary goal. We know that not everyone in the world values what we value, but we sincerely hope they can LEARN to value it when they see it in real practice. Until we are utterly convinced our efforts are futile, people will be given every possible opportunity to learn that Respect and Tolerance actually work to everyone's benefit. We very much want people to understand, and every time we are forced to permanently turn someone away, we have failed our primary goal.
In Michele's case, we haven't failed yet. She was reinstated this morning.