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TradingSpaces19
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0 posted 10-29-2002 05:59 PM       View Profile for TradingSpaces19   Email TradingSpaces19   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for TradingSpaces19


Okay see I have a lot of friends but I have this one friend who just dumped her boyfriend today during sixth hour and she didn't want to hurt him yet she did. See her boyfriend was very controlling and he didn't understand that she didn't want to be with him anymore. I didn't know what to tell her, so I just listened and let her get it all out. What advice should I give her tomorrow? Please help. thank you.

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1 posted 10-29-2002 07:02 PM       View Profile for Poet deVine   Email Poet deVine   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Poet deVine

Sometimes it's just nice to have someone listen to our problems. A good listener is hard to find! If she asks for your advice, tell her you're still thinking about it - if you give her advice and she doesn't like it, it could hurt the friendship. If she takes your advice and then something happens that she doesn't like, she'll blame you. Just smile, tell her you're there for her and will listen but that you want to see how things work out before you give advice.


(Are you TradingSpaces because you like the TV show?)
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2 posted 10-30-2002 01:08 PM       View Profile for TradingSpaces19   Email TradingSpaces19   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for TradingSpaces19

Thank you for your advice; I will try that. Yes I like Trading Spaces! I love that show! If you would like to email me my email address is TradingSpaces19@hotmail.com. So Thank you again.

Andrea
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Ditto, just be there and listen, 'advice' might only muddle the issue, and most people resent it when given anyway.
I think it's a very mature reaction on your part, to stay as neutral as possible.
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4 posted 11-19-2002 07:07 PM       View Profile for quietlydying   Email quietlydying   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for quietlydying

riiight.

/jen/

i'm so bitterly disappointed.  betty, i think it's time you leave now.

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Let her know that no matter how hard it may be to hurt this guy, its for the best if it makes her happy.  Obviously she wasn't happy with him or she wouldn't have wanted to end the relationship..so its for the best. Besides, she's still got a long way to go.."This too shall pass." It's usually not worth stressing over..
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