Member Rara Avis
moondust - you're right, it's not as simple as that... if only because of all the 'bleeding hearts' (and i use that tongue-in-cheek) who make it their business to 'help' those in need. the reason i put the word 'help' in quotes is because a lot of times what ends up happening isn't that the people are helped, but rather, hurt by the actions of the very people trying to save them. terry goodkind, for all his failings as a writer, has come up with some damn sensical morals in his books - one, which is appropriate here, is the one that likens 'helping' people out [who are homeless, poor, beggars, etc.] to allowing someone who's broken their leg to remain in bed while you cater to their every need. if you feed the person with a broken leg, wash them, care for them, that's ok. but there has to come a point where you start having them do things for themselves, or their legs will atrophy, and there will be no need/desire for them to get up and get better. in the long run you end up hurting them far more than you helped.
and i'm with Ali on the discrimination issue. not to deny the existence of such, but for the most part (in this country at least, unable to talk about others) discrimination has turned from being a real issue to being an excuse in many cases. again, somewhat tongue-in-cheek, but the discriminators are now the people who think they're constantly disciminated against. my op is that a lazy person works a lot harder to find ways not to work than s/he would if they were just to work - making excuses is a favorite pasttime of people like this. if you can convice yourself (or others) that you can't get a job because: you don't have a car, are discriminated against, hurt your ankle five years ago, whatever, then you can justify not working. it's sad, really, and i've seen far too much of it to suit me.
lady in white - feel free to comment as much as you'd like. i'll take any words you care to share! (oh, and thanks for pointing out my typo! )
rosepetal - i've heard stories like that... i have to admit that i am somewhat skeptical about them, as they seem along the lines of the typical urban legend stock. still, every lie has some truth at its foundation.