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Irie
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since 1999-12-01
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Washington State

0 posted 2002-02-28 02:07 PM


DRIVE ME CRAZY!


I live in a private community in a rural area on 2 ½ acres.
We are a ways back, off of a private, dead end road and share the long gravel drive with the neighbors.

These neighbors have become the biggest nuisance in my life.

Let me just recap on events leading up to the present
Some of the things I am going to mention I know are petty, but when they continually happen the molehill becomes a mountain and makes me want to scream.

She, the wife, openly flirts with my husband, and any other man that comes around.
Insisted she WOULD be in the delivery room when my son was born (which she was not),
Calls me at least once a week, asking me to run next door to see if anyone is home because no one is answering the phone, (not even an emergency).
Calls to borrow things and doesn’t return them, and when I ask, claims she doesn’t have them or gave them back. (no, I no longer lend things)

He, the husband, speeds down the driveway, and claims its not to fast.
Ignores important issues that should be taken care of (children out of control)
Calls to borrow BIGGER things like the VCR, lawn mower, and video camera…etc.

The three children that are left living at home, all boys, continually tear the driveway up with their motorcycles and quads. I have my own dirt bike and enjoy riding it, but I don’t tear up my property with it, let alone theirs or anyone else’s.
Now the boys are all old enough to drive and they are destroying the driveway even more so, and drive at ridicules speeds. What’s worse, their friends do it too. Not only am I annoyed about the driveway; I am concerned about my 4-year-old son’s safety, as well as our pets.

I have talked with the boys, the parents and their friends, and no one seems to respect our wishes as it continually happens. I have asked nicely, screamed and yelled over and over again.

One boy in particular keeps it up. He has drove though part of my yard, sprayed mud all over my fence, ran over plants & flowers, knocked over a whiskey barrel full of flowers and burns out all the way down the drive causing more damage to it. I would think that since they have their 6-year-old grandson living with them they would also be concerned, but they don’t seem to care.

I have recently learned that SEVERAL folks in the neighborhood are having trouble with the boys. They have also called and spoke with parents and the boys and they too, have not seen an end to it. Mailboxes have even been blown up and have had fires set to them.

Needless to say we contacted the Sheriff’s office and stop WILL be put to most of the problem. I don’t know what I can do with the neighbor boys from trashing my driveway other than call it in as vandalizing private property by use of vehicles. Then again, part of the drive is theirs too…

They don’t even offer to help keep the driveway up and looking good. In fact, my husband and I have decided (even though it kills us) to not put another penny or a lick of effort into it. That is until they can start pitching in. Why should we keep it up and spend money on it only to have them trash it.


The worst of all;
My Husband came home one day and headed for the bathroom. As he was walking out, he saw a silhouette in the shower, via the mirror. His first thought was to get a gun, but didn’t want to do that with my son in the house. So he took the phone and son, walk out side and called the police. After they showed up, the person in the shower was caught peeking out the window seeing if my husband had left. Turns out is was my neighbors 16-year-old son. Turns out he has been doing this for over a year. Why you ask? He’s been breaking in and using MY computer to look at porn on the net. What did his parents do? Not a damn thing. In fact, it took them over three weeks to contact us, and it was the mother, not the spineless dad. They acted as if it was no big deal. Still haven’t heard an apology from the son either.

You know, there is so much more to this, I could almost write a book.
I just wish they would move before I end up completely hating them. Just disappear

OK, thanks for listening….I feel a bit better now, sort of!

~Sheri

"The things that come to those that wait may be the things
left by those who got there first"



© Copyright 2002 Sheri - All Rights Reserved
Sunshine
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1 posted 2002-02-28 02:34 PM



I think its time to get more than the Sheriff involved.  Can't SRS be called, and any other law enforcement agency you have in the area?

"Sheesh" is too light...

Any chances you and your family can move?  Are these kids NEVER in school?  


Alicat
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since 1999-05-23
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Coastal Texas
2 posted 2002-02-28 02:55 PM


I know it's probably to late to do this, but next time that kid breaks in, have him arrested. I can think of at least 3 counts that could be levied. I'd do the same with your property...No Trespassing, Punishable by Law. That would ential trespassing, destruction of private property, vandalism, endangering a minor (your son), recklessness, and assault with a motorized vehicle. (Even a feint move can be qualified as assault.) And even though I don't like this word to much, SUE for damages, lost property, and stolen property, as well as the aforementioned charges. Why should you have to move for their actions? It's past high time for those adults and young adults to learn to take responsibility and accountability for their actions, and sometimes, fiscal renumeration is the only way for some people to understand.

Alicat

Irie
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since 1999-12-01
Posts 1493
Washington State
3 posted 2002-02-28 03:41 PM


Sunshine & Ali,

I'm not sure what "SRS" is.
We've thought about moving, but we LOVE where we are at, with the exception of the neighbors.
And yes, the kids are in school most of the time. The problems usually occur after school hours, unless there is school break of some sort. They do this kind of thing when parents are home or not. The parents are blind as bats or simply don't care. And what kills me is she came running over one day yelling at my husband because of friend of ours, who was towing a boat, drove over about an inch of the grass. And at the same time she was yelling at him, her boys were riding their quads right down the center of the lawn. That's what I don't understand! LOL


As far as having him arrested, I wish I would have. I asked the police not to charge him, because at the time, I liked the kid and wanted to give him a chance. I see now that giving him a chance has only hurt and didn't help him any at all.

I agree with you as far as moving. Why should we should move becuase they are idoits? They almost had to move when he lost his job. In fact, talk about the responsibility issue. He stated that he didn'y care if he found another job or not. He said he didn't have much to lose, just his house, cars, boat and campers. Just material things he said! I about fell out of my chair when I heard him say that? And part of me hoped that he didn't find a job so he wouldn't have to move.
Sorry, I'm on a roll again.

Anyway, thank you both for you comments and suggestions. I think I will give a few of them a try and keep you posted on any out come.



~Sheri

"The things that come to those that wait may be the things
left by those who got there first"



anonymousfemale
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since 2000-02-02
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Limbo
4 posted 2002-02-28 07:02 PM


ARGH! I'm sorry to hear this. Honestly, some people just don't know when to stop.

Have you ever thought about getting Lawyers involved? They usually scare enough people into backing out of your life and in your case, off your property. From a personal experience, the harsher the letter, the better the outcome for you. There is more than enough compensation to be received from this situation. On the other hand, if you don't want to, have him arrested the next time (lets hope there isn't a next time...) or buy a paint gun. It's not a lethal weapon and it'll make a point.

::Most people never listen::
Ernest Hemingway

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5 posted 2002-03-01 03:59 AM


whew. Irie, I think they crossed the line from annoying into illegal. I'm not sure what to say to you, but you have got me wondering about our decision to move from a neighborhood we love in search of a larger home. We love the neighbors and they love us back. Well, there was ONE obese neighbor who used to run around almost nude, and sometimes totally nude, depending on his varied state of inebriation, but I didn't really consider him a nuisance, just unattractive. (He's now deceased.) But somehow I don't think waiting for that day is an option in your case.

By all means, I would look into legal action. I would also look into the shower before entering. GEEZ!

Sunshine
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6 posted 2002-09-24 07:21 AM



Now, everyone can catch up on part I and proceed to Part II with a little more understanding.  A fence around your acreage...is a lot of fence!

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