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gracianna
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0 posted 02-24-2002 04:03 PM       View Profile for gracianna   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for gracianna

Oh man! Muchos problemos here....this girl at school keeps hitting me, "not very hard" as she claims. It keeps leaving bruises, and the people at church keep asking about them! ARGH!!! I just want them to leave me alone! I HATE talking, or "discussing" as they call it, my life! It's none of their business, and they just won't drop it! I HATE talking in general, and to quote a favorite movie of mine, "My goal in life is to be invisible...and I'm good at it." Why can't they just leave me be?? If I tell them about this girl, they she will get into trouble and make life even more miserable then it already is. We are both 8th graders, and I have 4 more years of school with her!! Gr....sorry, just had to let off a little steam...

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1 posted 02-24-2002 08:30 PM       View Profile for SEA   Email SEA   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for SEA

if you let her hit you, she will. Bottom line. Hit her back or tell someone....or let her hit you. Those are your choices. If you were my daughter, which you are a year older than my oldest, I would give her the options and let her make a choice....what do you want here? Do you like her hitting you? Does it interfere with your life enough that you want it to stop? If you answer yes, then you have to change it. Try ASKING her what her trip is, why she hates you so much to hit you like that? If she is just a complete jerk, well, others will probably tell me what horrible advice this is, but if it was me or mine, I'd hit her back...defend yourself...tell someone who will make her stop....stop her yourself, or let it continue...it is up to you. I hate to see you getting hit. And God help the child that hits mine....you may not want to tell someone, but if this is more than you can handle, then you need to. Suckin deal sweetie, you need to make a choice....I'm here if you want to email me. (((hugs)))
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A peer 'hitting' you isn't something you should be putting up with.  This person is nothing more than a bully who is imposing a dominant/subservient understanding between the two of you.  You're being physically wounded.  This isn't acceptable, gracianna.

This won't get better in the next four years, it'll get worse.  Your self esteem and your safety are both at risk.  I can't stress stongly enough how important it is for you to find a way to put a stop to this.  

Avoid this person, first and foremost.  If that doesn't work, find help... from someone.  The people who are encouraging you to get help have only your best interests in mind.  You could find yourself in real danger if you don't stop these behaviors now.  Please do something to stop it?
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3 posted 02-24-2002 09:03 PM       View Profile for gracianna   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for gracianna

That's the problem, though. I can't hit her back, because I will get in trouble at school and at home. I can't tell someone I know because they will get someone to stop her, and she'll make life a whole lot worse than it already is. I suppose I could just let her get on with it, but that won't stop people from bugging me at church!
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4 posted 02-24-2002 10:44 PM       View Profile for SEA   Email SEA   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for SEA

not buying it for a second.....you have to stop her. Hitting her back may not be an answer, fine.....I'm great with that. However, you assuming that it will get worse if you tell really freaks me out. It will put a stop to it. How much trouble do you think she will get in? She could get expelled. Schools have a no tolerance policy and she will be gone, and then through at home. I highly doubt she will bother you again. Not to mention the legal factor here.....your parents could sue hers....people who work together can sue for harassment, students can too now....there is no reason good enough to NOT put a stop to this. Maybe if you tell, then you can go to another school, don't say you can't. Seattle is huge....you may not like to tell people what is happening, but I can darn near guarantee that if you tell the folks at church, they can help in keeping you protected. It is your choice, no one can do this for you, but if you want it to stop and hitting back in self defense isn't an option, then girl, quit playin....TELL SOMEONE really, please tell someone. You don't have to put up with her abuse.
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5 posted 02-24-2002 10:52 PM       View Profile for gracianna   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for gracianna

okay. I'm still not all that convinced that this is a great idea, though...
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6 posted 02-24-2002 11:12 PM       View Profile for RosePetal   Email RosePetal   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for RosePetal

Definitely tell someone...This girl may be bullying other girls around as well! I understand that you don't want to hit her back, but she hits you because she knows she can get away with it! Please tell someone...like the principal..or an administrator. No one has the right to put their hands on anyone else, don't stand for it! What if one day she hits you hard enough and fractures or breaks your jaw? Then it will have to be wired shut for six long months to heal, do you want that? Really Gracianna you need to to take some form of action, I beg you to!

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7 posted 02-24-2002 11:20 PM       View Profile for SEA   Email SEA   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for SEA

honey, I know what it means to be hit.....
I didn't tell for two years, and when I finally did, I was free...and I haven't seen him for almost 9 years....you do make it better when you tell. But when you tell them, tell them loud and clear, and TRUTHFULLY....leave nothing out....give dates and times all that stuff...Be direct, tell them how it is making your life a hell. This is something you DO NOT have to put up with, not for a second. Good girl good for you...tell someone
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8 posted 02-24-2002 11:21 PM       View Profile for gracianna   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for gracianna

Don't have a heart attack!! I already said that I'd tell! You don't have to worry about me so much. Why should  you bother? Besides, today's Sunday....no school till tomorrow. *sigh*
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9 posted 02-24-2002 11:29 PM       View Profile for SEA   Email SEA   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for SEA

fine, no problem....I wish you good luck in your situation....
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Ys I strongly agree with what has been suggested.  Now I would be the person who would have just enough of one thing happening and making a statement by putting it back right in their face literally.  However there are people who aren't like that, and I can fully understand that.  Something must be done, whether it be one of these suggestions, or something more creative and effective.  I hope something ends this brutality soon, its just is not healthy.  If you need to e-mail me or something, i would be glad to talk, if you need, don't be afraid.

     Randy Meador

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gracianna
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11 posted 02-24-2002 11:32 PM       View Profile for gracianna   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for gracianna

Thanks again guys for reading my venting and caring.
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12 posted 02-25-2002 12:04 AM       View Profile for Poet deVine   Email Poet deVine   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Poet deVine

My dear, when you go to school tomorrow, you'll have all 5000 members of Passions in Poetry behind you. You've joined THIS family now and we care about what happens to you.

If the girl hits you, tell her you're going to the principal. And then do it. Walk away from her and walk right into the office. Ask that she join you there for some mediation into this problem. Good luck!!
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13 posted 02-25-2002 12:07 AM       View Profile for serenity blaze   Email serenity blaze   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for serenity blaze

She is hitting you. This is assault. Her assaults are leaving trauma upon your body and emotions. This is not only immoral, it is illegal. Please, contact whatever authority is appropriate. Hugs you.
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14 posted 02-25-2002 12:08 AM       View Profile for gracianna   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for gracianna

ok... God, I'm scared...I'll probably be on later tonight...Insomnia and all that fun stuff...
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15 posted 02-25-2002 03:06 AM       View Profile for Christopher   Email Christopher   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Christopher

insomnia - i know all about that (s'why i'm here right now when i should be sleeping)

Susan - you're like on this whole crusade thing lately! Been taking your vitamins!

Wholeheartely agree with almost all that's said here. I was alittle guy in school, and for some time after i was removed from private school and placed into public school (right about your age) i was the focus of several bullies. My course of action was to fight back. at first i had my butt kicked a few times, but i figured since that part was already happening, no biggie - pride is by far more exacting than bruises of this magnitude. after a while, upon realizing that i wasn't easy meat anymore (i learned how to fight - both experience and martial arts taught me to use my smaller size to a definite advantage). after that, there was an almost grudging respect and all but complete stoppage of the bullying. it's not fun for the bully if the target is able to fight back - bullies by nature look for the weak.

not always, but often, victims are such by choice. i'm glad to see you're going to take a different path.

peace,

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16 posted 02-25-2002 07:31 AM       View Profile for Nan   Email Nan   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems   Click to visit Nan's Home Page   View IP for Nan

It's Monday - be strong - To to school - Don't hit her back - That won't solve it.

Choose carefully who to tell - Bring a friend with you if you need to do that.  Go to a guidance counselor or a teacher that you trust. Start somewhere that feels safe.  Don't worry - please... This is only the first step to your freedom. It'll work - and you'll be smiling again...
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17 posted 02-25-2002 09:35 AM       View Profile for gracianna   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for gracianna

I'll be on after 5PM today, (8PM EST) and let you know what happened...*gulp* I leave for school in a half hour...
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18 posted 02-25-2002 11:23 AM       View Profile for Christopher   Email Christopher   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Christopher

uhmmm... just to make sure in case i misrepresented myself: i wasn't suggesting you hit back. though i disagree that violence doesn't solve anything, there's a time and place for everything. i think your choice to take it to the authorities is definitely the best in this situation.

peace,

C
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19 posted 02-25-2002 06:04 PM       View Profile for SEA   Email SEA   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for SEA

I hope it went well for you....
and no, violence isn't the answer to things, not always but there are times when it becomes necessary....the hope is to be able to handle it other ways and it should always be a last resort...

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20 posted 02-25-2002 07:49 PM       View Profile for Irie   Email Irie   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Irie

I realize that I might be too late with a reply as it's already Monday but.....

When I was in school, for years the same girl terrorized me to a point of almost no return.
Then to my horror, she moved six houses away from me.
One day at the community pool she approached me and gave a rash of her usual self and I stood up to her.
I told her (shaking in my boots) that if she wanted to kick my butt to do it now and get it over with, that I was sick and tired of her crap. So just do it and be done with it.
And you know what, I think it scared her because she just stood there and stared at me. I walked away and told her I'd be in the cabana if she changed her mind. She never followed up and she never said a word to me until 3 months later and to my shock, she was actually nice.
Just another approach to think about taking.
I hope it all works out for you.

~Sheri

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left by those who got there first"


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21 posted 02-25-2002 08:10 PM       View Profile for gracianna   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for gracianna

Well...it didn't go all that well. Girl X was bothering me, and I told her I was going to the principal...anyway, she didn't take it that well...She's gone, all right, but I have two black eyes to remember her by. I never knew that there were so many cuss words! I think she was swearing in other languages as well...anyway, thanks for your help. Jeez, now I'm scared to even be at home!! Oh well...it wasn't the worst thing that could have happened...
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22 posted 02-25-2002 08:25 PM       View Profile for RosePetal   Email RosePetal   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for RosePetal

Oh my gosh, she gave you two black eyes?
Where was everyone when this happened? No teachers witnesssed this?!?! My dear you really must have your parents phone the school and report it to your adminstrator or principal! I can't believe the nerve of this girl...If I was there I would knock her out for you...i'm sorry but at some point you have to fight back sweetie or at least take legal action. (hugs)
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23 posted 02-25-2002 08:44 PM       View Profile for serenity blaze   Email serenity blaze   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for serenity blaze

Two black eyes? Number one, get medical attention, and two, a police report--AND an attorney if necessary. OR....you could send me an airline ticket and I will personally escort you to school...grrrrrr...
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24 posted 02-25-2002 08:45 PM       View Profile for gracianna   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for gracianna

Chill, chill...she did this in the principal's office. She was arrested, and expelled, all in a split second!

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