Okay, one thing I'm growing very, very tired of...
I'm not sure a lot of people will agree with me on this one, but I'm gonna give it a shot anyhow, see who understands what I'm saying.
I am SICK and TIRED of how dying makes people a hero. For example, let's say there was some mean guy named Pablo. Everyone might hate him, tell him this frequently and avoid him, talk about him behind his back, and just generally treat him really poorly - and yes, perhaps he deserves it! Perhaps Pablo's a jerk.
However if Pablo were to die, everyone would suddenly turn into weeping idiots, talking about what a wonderful person he was.
Seriously, do you think it matters to HIM anymore? He's dead now!
A girl died in my junior high school. Admitted it's sad that she died so young, but she was just an average girl, she had yet to do anything really outstanding or mark herself as something at all unique. After she died, the next morning there was an announcement on the PA about it, the principal was stumbling and searching frantically for the words to "appropriately" give the news. "As you all know she was a wonderful person, who loved to laugh and had a great smile and bla bla bla" and a bunch of impersonal crap about her. He didn't know her at all... so why is everyone like that? She even got a library fund named after her. Did she like books? I'm not sure exactly. But still, would it even matter?
Similarily, just recently a cab driver in Winnipeg died, and after this the cab company created and named some sort of award after him. Because he died?
Some people work very hard to be recognized in such forms as these, to be praised with kind words. Half of these people we DON'T recognize, we turn away from or we just neglect to examine carefully. There are two sides to this, really... people who DON'T deserve any special recognition, but get it simply because they are dead... and people who DO deserve special recognition, but it takes their death to get people to finally recognize them.
The bottom line is... if you appreciate someone, tell them before they die. If you dislike someone, don't lie about it at their funeral.
I'm really, really sick of people being so different, but funerals all being the same. When I die, do me a favour and remember me not in the form of general praise... remember the things you loved and hated about me, please. I don't want to be remembered so thoughtlessly.
And please, don't name any awards after my death. If I deserved to have something named after me, do it while I'm around to see it.