I just started reading this thread today, and in light of Tuesday I must comment. I'd be willing to bet that some feelings on this matter have changed drastically since last week. We all are going to die. Some of us will be remembered thoughtfully, some of us will be eulogized by strangers, some of our stories might end up somewhat sensationalized in the paper. I hope that when I die, some people who are close to me will remember me well. I will also hope that in contemplation of my death, someone else, friend or stranger, will feel closer to someone in their life. All I am trying to say is that people react to death in different ways and should someone react inappropriately, well...that is irrelevant. As far as the impersonal responses, who cares as long as someone had something positive to say. I guess if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say it at all. Maybe some people who died in the World Trade Center or the Pentagon were jerks, but does it matter? I hope someone says something about each and every person that died. I hope that they are remembered as heroes simply because they were a living breathing imperfect soul. I suppose I'm not following the rational argument but I guess I'm emotional. Maybe I have been a jerk, but does that matter when I die? The truth is most of us are just trying to make it in life the best we know how. The people who are left behind when someone dies are only trying to remember, to comprehend, to deal, and to sympathize the best we can. When I go, I would rather have someone make an attempt, botched or not, at honoring my life rather than simply saying nothing. The large scale tragedy on Tuesday just makes it all too clear that All that matters is, people live, they die, and no matter if they were "normal", less than that, or more than that, they were heroes to someone.