Member Rara Avis
I guess that telling someone it don't flow very well, can be viewed as rude. Maybe their etiquette is off, and perhaps could be stated in a better way. I personally, if my poetry is that off, and someone has a difficult time reading it and is stumbling over the words, I would rather hear they did, than for them to tell me how wonderful it was, when it really wasn't!
If it's not being done to your work, then I think if it's upsetting the person who it is done to, as much as you, I think they need to email the person who's doing it, and let them know how they feel. Or, they can post it in a reply under the other reply. Stating, I don't like my work, critiqued, please don't do it any more.
I guess in a way, we're always willing to accept praise even if it isn't true, than to accept what could be wrong, and try to fix that. But to each his own...you certainly never have to accept a critique on a poem.
When put as you put it there, I don't find it rude, but I see someone trying to help.
I'd rather someone told me, than to not say anything at all, by not replying. Then of course we'd have another problem. If the poetry recieved no replies, we can gather 2 things...
1. My poetry is bad, no one reads it.
2. People don't like me for some reason and therefore won't reply to my work.
Yep, we have grown larger, and now we do have a CA forum for that. I agree...
I don't think saying it didn't flow well, is a big critique, but is a critique nonetheless. I think an indepth critique, unless otherwise said it was wanted, would be better suited for CA.
But hey that's just my opinion, and you know what they say about those