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Nicole
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0 posted 03-28-2001 03:47 PM       View Profile for Nicole   Email Nicole   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Nicole

Within the past week, I've run into three people whom I went to high school with. (we won't say how long ago THAT was!)  My school wasn't huge, by any means, but it was big-ish - and these three were people that I only knew of, and didn't really "know".

What was strange, or rather more upsetting than strange, was that all three (in their own words, of course) said the same thing:  "I wish I would have known you then, but I never wanted to talk to you because I thought you were snotty."

SNOTTY!  

I was so shocked!  I mean, I can think of words to describe myself; like, shy, somewhat reclusive, quiet, introverted, always kind...but never snotty.

Needless to say, I felt absolutely terrible.  How awful that I came off that way to them. Then it got me to thinking:  What if a LOT of people see me that way now, becasue I'm really not one to start conversations with people I don't know?  Not for any lack of a desire to get to know people, but more like a social ineptitude problem.

SO - that line of thinking brought me here, to PiP, where I spend a lot (lot lot) of time.  Again, I realized that I only "talk" to a small handfull of people...sigh.  I'm too shy!

There is a point to all of this - I've made a resolution, I'm going to be more outgoing!  So for everyone that I've never talked to, that reads this... HELLO!  

-Nicole
(the snot-less, shy person)  
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1 posted 03-28-2001 03:58 PM       View Profile for Acies   Email Acies   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Acies

~*gives Nicole a big hug*~  

"So long as men can breathe or eyes can see,
So long lives this, and this give life to thee." W.S.

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2 posted 03-28-2001 06:04 PM       View Profile for Sven   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Sven

Hi Nicole!!!!  

And, for the record. . . I've never thought of you as snotty. . . those people are obviously brain damaged in some sort of way. . .  

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3 posted 03-28-2001 07:17 PM       View Profile for Poet deVine   Email Poet deVine   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Poet deVine

How anyone could see you as snotty is beyond me!!

Sometimes people just 'label' us for their own purposes. They may not have wanted to get to know you because you weren't in their 'crowd', so they found a way to justify that - thus YOU must be snotty not to want to hang out with them.

Shyness is VERY hard to overcome. I personally hate crowds. I avoid them like the plague - even parties (don't invite me because I won't show up!)

It's not that I don't like people, I do. I just don't think they'll like me!!

I think it's time to stop taking the bad rap for being 'reserved'..sure all those outgoing people are 'popular'..but shy people can be nice too.....................

ok..rant over.

So, Nic - how's life?
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4 posted 03-28-2001 07:18 PM       View Profile for SpitFire   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for SpitFire

~Hey there Nicole! I don't believe we've ever said HELLO to eachother! So Hi! Hi Hi Hi! (I never thought you were snotty either). (EVER). *Peace you. ~Alicia.
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5 posted 03-28-2001 07:28 PM       View Profile for Sven   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Sven

quote:
I just don't think they'll like me!!



deVine. . . how could anyone not like you????

It's beyond me. . . and you too Nicole. . . how anyone could call either of you snotty. . .

Sometimes, it's just that people don't take to time to actually (God forbid) go up to someone and say "HI!!"

It's easier to "label" people rather than get to know them. . . sad. . . but true. . .



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JOY 14
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Nicole, I don't know you. But we are very similar in one way anyhow. I'm shy as well. And know exactly what you're talking about. Right now, I'm just joining a theater troupe and hope I already haven't come off snoty because I feel like I don't belong yet and won't say too much. But I'm NOT! And I'm sure you're not either. Sometimes people just don't bother to take the time to think beyond a set of lables they give to people..such as..
The Jock, social butterfly, or Snot.
It agrivates me as well. But don't try to change yourself. Becoming more outgoing is a goal of mine too. I'll never like large social gatherings though I'm sure!

Joy
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7 posted 03-29-2001 07:41 AM       View Profile for Lakewalker   Email Lakewalker   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Lakewalker

Hi (I am snotty, but only cause I have a cold right now  )

"Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle"
"Life's short. If you don't look around once in a while you might miss it."
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8 posted 03-29-2001 09:31 AM       View Profile for Christopher   Email Christopher   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Christopher

What a snob!  

But a cute one!  
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9 posted 03-29-2001 04:28 PM       View Profile for Elizabeth Cor   Email Elizabeth Cor   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Elizabeth Cor

Nic, I got the same thing all through high school... it seemed like anytime I made a new friend (and being a professional "new kid" this happened often), they would tell me "You know, before I knew you I always thought you were the biggest snob. But you're so nice." Uh, gee… thanks? I can’t tell you how many times that happened. (and, yes, friends have called me nice *wary eyes to certain individuals**g*)
I think it's a combination of shyness, and an introspective face. *grins* Whenever I'm deep in thought, people tend to think I'm upset or pissed.

So, cheer up, sweetie… it just means you’re quiet and smart. And if people have a problem with that, just whip out your tortilla cape and offer them some SuperSalsa.  

*SHROH*
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10 posted 03-29-2001 04:29 PM       View Profile for Nicole   Email Nicole   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Nicole

Aww, acire!  

Sven - Thanks!  That makes me feel better..

Sharon!!  I know exactly what you mean, about parties and groups.  *gasp*  I'm terrible, sometimes even when my family or closest friends ask me to do something...I actually have to gear myself up to going.  "I know I'll have a nice time, once I get there.."  Shyness is so hard to overcome - and I do not like big crowds.  

Alicia - Thank you!     

Joy - That is so true, and good luck to you in your new theater troupe!  And I agree, we should never try to mold ourselves to others' lables - just for the sake of 'fitting in'.

I hope you feel better soon, Lakewalker.  

Okay POT.  Thanks a lot (sheesh, coming from someone who actually knows me personally)    You're a brat, but a cute one!  
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11 posted 03-29-2001 04:36 PM       View Profile for Nicole   Email Nicole   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Nicole

Beth!!  We replied at the same time - sigh.  How could anyone resist my cape, it's so soft. (here feel)     You're right, of course - and too, you understand me better than most (better than myself sometimes).  "Introspective face" heh - I like that!  Thing is, I'm positive that on my home planet, I'd be adored!  

*S.H.H*  
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12 posted 03-31-2001 07:00 AM       View Profile for Nan   Email Nan   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems   Click to visit Nan's Home Page   View IP for Nan

There'S NOT an easy way to overcome this feeling - Ya just have to get out there and say "Hello" to folks... and even after years and years of work, those silly feelings can creep in when you least expect it...

HEY NICOLE... How's life treating you????...
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13 posted 03-31-2001 03:21 PM       View Profile for Acies   Email Acies   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Acies

~*Hugs Nicole again*~  

"So long as men can breathe or eyes can see,
So long lives this, and this give life to thee." W.S.

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14 posted 03-31-2001 07:14 PM       View Profile for Dopey Dope   Email Dopey Dope   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Dopey Dope

*hugs nicole better*
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15 posted 04-04-2001 05:47 PM       View Profile for Acies   Email Acies   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Acies

wait your turn Dopes  

"So long as men can breathe or eyes can see,
So long lives this, and this give life to thee." W.S.

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16 posted 04-04-2001 09:29 PM       View Profile for Dopey Dope   Email Dopey Dope   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Dopey Dope

*waits his turn*
Nicole
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17 posted 04-05-2001 12:40 PM       View Profile for Nicole   Email Nicole   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Nicole

Hugs you both!  
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18 posted 04-05-2001 02:20 PM       View Profile for serenity blaze   Email serenity blaze   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for serenity blaze

Hi Nic! Very happy to meet you!  
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19 posted 04-05-2001 02:58 PM       View Profile for Dopey Dope   Email Dopey Dope   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Dopey Dope

got a hug!
*does the happy dance*
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20 posted 04-05-2001 09:00 PM       View Profile for Acies   Email Acies   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Acies

She hugged me first  

"So long as men can breathe or eyes can see,
So long lives this, and this give life to thee." W.S.

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21 posted 04-06-2001 12:01 PM       View Profile for Dopey Dope   Email Dopey Dope   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Dopey Dope

She hugged me better
Christopher
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22 posted 04-06-2001 02:34 PM       View Profile for Christopher   Email Christopher   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Christopher

guys... careful. you're hugging all the snot out of her!
Acies
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23 posted 04-06-2001 05:05 PM       View Profile for Acies   Email Acies   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Acies

That's Serenity Dopey, not Nicole  

"So long as men can breathe or eyes can see,
So long lives this, and this give life to thee." W.S.

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24 posted 04-07-2001 02:13 AM       View Profile for Dopey Dope   Email Dopey Dope   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Dopey Dope

Serenity.....Nicole....whateva whateva....they both got snot....and they both love and hug me better....so HA!
 
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