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Friendship...for my husband's ex-wife
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Friendship...for my husband's ex-wife |
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Madame Chipmunk Member Rara Avis
since 2001-12-05
Posts 8296Michigan 
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when two lives together, interweave we sometimes find friends in unusual ways in some of life's nebulous passageways how beautiful that my husband's ex-wife has become a friend I will cherish for life a relationship which could have been too complex has become instead, one of mutual respect at the crossroads of life, relationships form unusual pairings, not made to conform A person I thought I'd be most unlike carries my tune and harmony strikes a delightful surprise, drawn outside the lines a friendship of chance and not of design through unusual channels, we were introduced now a wonderful friendship has been produced we sometimes find friends where we'd never expect in spaces and places we'd never suspect it was only through love that we chanced to meet we now share a friendship, just a little offbeat some may see this as odd, there's supposed to be stress instead, with a new friend, we've both been blessed its strange how relationships interweave your friendship's a valuable gift I've received  copyright2001 Lyra Nesius |
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serenity blaze Member Empyrean
since 2000-02-02
Posts 27738 |
MC...laughing but loving it...I too, have a very strange guest list for the Holidays (I've heard Jerry Springer is interested) I appreciate your poem! thanks for the smile! and? Heartwarming! |
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Lady Lost Member
since 2000-07-13
Posts 470 |
wow. This is touching for me.. I just today met my son's fathers girlfriend. Of course I hated her for no reason for a long time (jealousy rearing its ugly head).. but dont you know she turned out to be the nicest woman! We had a great talk and it feels incredible. Its nice to know that we all can get along when there is an effort! |
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~lewisone~ Member
since 2001-11-23
Posts 91Virginia |
Very nicely put....I find it wonderful you have sparked a beautiful friendship, life is to precious to waste time and energy on hate....Bravo, for you!!Beautiful poem... ~lewisone~  |
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GenXer Senior Member
since 2001-12-15
Posts 583USA |
Lyra- Does Dave get worried when the two of you get together?lol I can't imagine you disliking to many people. Heck you like me and I try to put down your beloved state of MI every chance I get. By the way, MI pizza truly does stink   , but your writing certainly does not. It is always excellent. Dave [This message has been edited by GenXer (12-30-2001 11:51 PM).] |
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Larry C
since 2001-09-10
Posts 10286United States |
Lyra, A rare blessing driven in large part by depth of character. My ex-husband-in-law doesn't want anything to do with me...his loss!  |
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Victoria
since 2000-08-12
Posts 5869 |
Enjoyed Madame..my daughter is also friends with her boyfriends ex wife...nicely done ~Victoria~ "To love and be loved is to feel the sun from both sides." |
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Sunshine
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Member Empyrean
since 1999-06-25
Posts 63354Listening to every heart |
Think it odd? I think not! Civil is more like it, as it should be, so set it in motion, and we will pray that more follow suit... just because two cannot get along doesn't mean that three's a crowd! LOL... good for you! |
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strbbux Member Elite
since 2001-12-19
Posts 3859 |
This is a wonderful poem and how lucky for you all that it turned out this way. I have heard some nightmare stories and I like this one so much better. strbbux |
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Mistletoe Angel 
since 2000-12-17
Posts 32816Portland, Oregon |
 (smiles) Oh Lyra, this is sooooooo beautiful, friendship is such a beautiful gift to have and I'm so happy to see you're happy to find this special gift of love! (sigh) May this relationship forever shine as pure as gold, we all love you so much, sweet friend! You have such a beautiful heart, sweet Lyra, thank you for sharing!  May love and light always shine upon you! Love, Noah Eaton |
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Martie
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Member Empyrean
since 1999-09-21
Posts 28049California |
Madame Chipmunk--I love this poem..the sweet intent behind it is something that I live with too...friendship with my x husbands wife...yes, and even my x husband. Happy New Year! |
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RosePetal
since 2001-08-26
Posts 2985South Florida |
Ooooh I would've never guessed that you are married! You look very young (i mean that as a compliment ofcourse) I love this poem, you can meet friends in situations you never expected! I'm glad you two became friends are accept one another! Happy New Year!! RP |
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Balladeer
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Member Empyrean
since 1999-06-05
Posts 25505Ft. Lauderdale, Fl USA |
Actually, you both have the same taste in men, which means that you both value the characteristics your husband has...that alone would indicate you could be friends. If the jealousy or cattiness does not exist, then it is logical you would like each other. Unfortunately, many times, keeping those factors out is very difficult. I applaud the two of you for your civility, understanding and mutual respect  |
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Madame Chipmunk Member Rara Avis
since 2001-12-05
Posts 8296Michigan |
Serenity...thanks and I will look for you on the Jerry Springer show...maybe our family will be next!  Lady Lost...don't lose her friendship, it will prove to be very important for your son to have both of you getting along.  Thanks, lewisone...but it isn't only my doing. The friendship really comes from both of us and also from the fact that my husband and his ex are very close friends...almost like sister and brother. They have been divorced for almost 6 yrs and she is now engaged to someone else.  Thanks Dave, I don't think he worries about it anymore, but the first time we were really together....Mary and Terry (her fiance) and David and I were cleaning out their old storage bin in Indiana before he moved here.....and Mary and I went to the store to get something to eat together....I think he was a bit worried for a while. But it was a bonding experience for Mary and me...and I learned a lot about David. I learned that even his ex-wife didn't have anything bad to say about him...and that she was very happy that we were together. Now...about that pizza!!!!!!!!!!  copyright2001 Lyra Nesius "poetry is life distilled" Gwendolyn Brooks [This message has been edited by Madame Chipmunk (01-01-2002 03:24 PM).] |
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Madame Chipmunk Member Rara Avis
since 2001-12-05
Posts 8296Michigan |
Larry, you are right.....it certainly is his loss. David and I consider ourselves very lucky to have "spouse-in-laws". Not everyone gets to have real "spouse-in-laws", and that is what the relationship has evolved into. We do lots of stuff with them and it always feels like an in-law type of relationship.....the good kind!  Thanks Victoria, Your daughter is a smart lady.  Thanks Sunshine, Actually they had a very amiable divorce. They went out to dinner afterward to celebrate, and they have been like sister and brother, ever since.  Floria, I agree...I too, like it much better this way. It would be awful to have to deal with a hostile ex-wife instead of a sisterly friend.  Thanks much, Noah....This has turned into a really close friendship. Mary is a professional cake decorator and baker and she is the one who made our wedding cake.... or should I say she engineered it. Its pretty hard to hold up chocolate buttercream frosting with angel food cake...and since those are my favorites, thats what she made the cake out of...and she did a real special job of it too!  copyright2001 Lyra Nesius |
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Madame Chipmunk Member Rara Avis
since 2001-12-05
Posts 8296Michigan |
Good for you, Martie....Its so much better to be friends than waste time fighting with someone, to no avail....and a Happy New Year to you also!  Thanks Joanna, for that HUGE compliment! the one about me not looking old enough to be married! This is my second marriage. My first husband died almost 3 yrs ago after 34 yrs of marriage. David and I have been married for only 2 months and we have 4 grandaughters and 1 grandson between the 2 of us. Two of the grandaughters and the grandson are his and the other 2 grandaughters are mine...but now they are all ours!  copyright2001 Lyra Nesius |
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Madame Chipmunk Member Rara Avis
since 2001-12-05
Posts 8296Michigan |
Thanks for imparting your wisdom, Balladeer, and also for your applause I think we probably would have liked each other even if we hadn't had the same taste in men because we both just enjoy each other for each other. We are very different and therefore have taught each other a lot....and both of us felt drawn to each other as friends right from the first time we met. Women's friendships are very important to us...almost as important as our romantic relationships. copyright2001 Lyra Nesius |
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dgvarner Member Elite
since 2000-05-13
Posts 3552High Springs, Florida |
this is awesome...much applaude from me on the relationships at hand.. my ex and i are very close friends as well..i hope that when we find our next 'significant others' that we will all be able to get along in the same manner of friendship that you have found... this is the way life and love should be.... hugs, g ~dgvarner/fallen rain~ |
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angelbear Member
since 2001-05-22
Posts 139North East, USA |
Wonderful. And a point so important to be made here. "some may see this as odd, there's supposed to be stress instead," It need not be this way at all. I relate to this. My ex husband and my husband have become friends, play football together. My children have never known the strife that many children have to know dealing with tensions of this sort. I feel blessed by that. Loved the poem! :} I can't control |
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Opeth Senior Member
since 2001-12-13
Posts 1543The Ravines |
I think that you show much class, Lyra. |
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suthern
since 1999-07-29
Posts 20723Louisiana |
I can definitely relate to this excellent poem. *S* For though I've never remarried, I have no doubts whatsover that my ex would be wishing me every happiness if I ever found another partner... he and my replacement have been my valued friends (and loyal cheerleaders *S*) for many years. *S* I applaud your poem and salute your civility. *S* Well done! |
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Apachecat906 Member
since 2001-09-04
Posts 217Michigan, USA |
I love the poem, and I love the courage you have for liking his ex. My parents are divorced and remarried, and the four can share each others company quite civily and I've thought that was great on many occasion... but when it comes down to my life, I guess I would rather punch her in the face than be happy for them. Good thing we never run into each other. Anyway, good poem and lesson even if I dont listen to you. |
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