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Janet Marie
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since 2000-01-22
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0 posted 2000-05-13 10:54 AM


**repost for a friend by request.


Its been way over a year, since I've heard anything from you,
do you ever wonder how I am...or what I'm going thru.
Its been even longer since you actually laid eyes on me,
Out of sight and out of mind is the way it seems to be.
Why is it so damn easy for you to just simply walk away,
thru the years you've improved this game, denial is the card you always play.
How does one just erase years of the ties that bind,
how do you justify... your leaving this all behind.
I'll no longer make an effort or excuses for you,
someday you will be alone, then what will you do.
I rarely think about you, very much anymore...
I guess that means my heart has started closing doors.
You made your own choices, I'm not in your plans,
can anyone explain it to me...to make me understand.
How can you completely pretend I was never here...
I've asked some really good questions...
could you please answer me ... "mother dear".

Janet Marie 2/27/00


I reposted this old one from Dark Passions after a conversation with a friend last night who was dreading this holiday because of the pain it brings her.
Not all mothers live up to the image we have of them...for what ever the reasons...
it causes years of pain.
I post this not for "sympathy" or to bring anyone down ...
but to let anyone feeling this way to know there are many others out there...who understand.
I like to call it "quiet comfort" *smile*
thank you to my friend for allowing my words to touch you.
take care, jm



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Danny Holloway
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since 2000-01-15
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Tulsa, OK
1 posted 2000-05-13 11:16 AM


JM, this is a tough one to respond to.  It expresses a reality that many have to accept and let's us know that Mother's Day doesn't hold the same meaning for everyone.
~~Excellent writing~~


 A life isn't significant except for its impact on other lives.


poetFemmeFatale
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since 1999-07-25
Posts 2646
Arkansas
2 posted 2000-05-13 11:47 AM


Oh Janet, this is so sad.  I've never understood how family can let something that's happened drive them apart.  I know at times the pain is too much, and avoiding eachother sometimes seems easier than facing the pain, but still, you only have one family....why is it that some choose to carry their pain to the grave, instead of talking, forgiving, trying to forget, somehow finding some healing so that family can once again be together in this life we have, so short.  Why, why why??  A good counselor can sometimes be the bridge in tough times, but it seems even with that option, some choose not.  I hope this is not a true story for you...It is heartbreakingly beautiful nonetheless.  My prayers are with you this mother's day.  -Gen
SpitFire
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3 posted 2000-05-13 11:47 AM


~JM,...thanks for posting this.  I can so relate.  
Denise
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4 posted 2000-05-13 12:13 PM


That's very sad, Janet Marie. Sometimes I forget that not everyone had a wonderful Mom like I did. I'm sorry that you didn't and for everyone else who didn't. She was such an important influence in my life and in who I would eventually become. I can't even imagine not having had someone so wonderful for a Mom. My only regret is that she isn't here any longer.

Denise

Rosemary J. Gwaltney
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since 1999-08-26
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5 posted 2000-05-13 05:00 PM


Whatever disasters precipitated such a terrible chasm in a family, it would certainly be devasating. I don't know where anyone would begin to shift the gears, or how or if reconcilliation could be accomplished.  But I do imagine that there are a lot more feelings in that mother than the daughter realizes, though I could be wrong.  Thanks for writing this thought-provoking poem.
~ ~



 The spiritual wind that holds survivors aloft, plants the seeds from which bloom new hope ... R.J.G.


netswan
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since 2000-03-28
Posts 1369
Washington
6 posted 2000-05-13 05:00 PM


I came from a dysfuctional home ----
and can certainly relate to this poem.

JM this poem you wrote is a sad one - and
so real for many people ----far more than
anyone could imagine.

But mother's day does not have to be just
to celebrate your own mother, but to your
friends who are mothers and GRANDMA's

and cards to your daughter or daughter
in law on this special day.   There just
has to be one person somewhere that people
can pour a gift of love on mother's day.

netswan

jwesley
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since 2000-04-30
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Spring, Texas
7 posted 2000-05-13 10:25 PM


Well, all I can say JM is you vividly expressed the other side of Mothers Day that most of us pay homage to, and you did beautifully.  But mothers are people too, just like the children they bear, and all is definitely not beautiful in life...much as we might wish it to be.

Great poem...

j.

Kellsue
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since 2000-05-06
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Waukesha, WI USA
8 posted 2000-05-13 10:55 PM


So sad...very well written.  Thank you for sharing this so openly with all of us.

~Kelly


 ~Kellsue

Reflect upon your present blessings-of which every man has many-not on your past misfortunes, of which all men have some. ~Charles Dickens

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give. ~Winston Churchill



MagnoliaBlue
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since 2000-05-12
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9 posted 2000-05-14 03:50 PM


Thank you JM...

Your poem says it all for those of
us who have been there(are there).

I thought I was the only one...now I feel sadder to learn that there are so many others with this same heartbreak.  

Most often...nothing to be done about it either.

Your poem is very well written...Keep writing...it helps to write about all those other people whom you love and get love from in return.

Some mother's** ...Oh what a tangled web we weave.....!

Hang in there!


 

Aimster
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since 2000-02-19
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Charlotte, NC
10 posted 2000-05-14 05:54 PM


Janet--

this hit me just as hard reading it this time as it did the first time! what a piece of work you have here...full of raw emotion and laying it out on the line. its defined by a since of sadness that is almost overwhelming to the reader...however as always your poetic touch lightens it just right so that it leaves the reader deep in thought. i can't imagine a mother "forgetting" their child, even though i know it happens. I am glad that your friend is able to seek comfort from your work, as many of us here at Passions do!

I love you much!
~Amy~

 ~Live today as though it were your last but prepare for tomorrow as though it were here~

JamesMichael
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since 1999-11-16
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Kapolei, Hawaii, USA
11 posted 2000-05-14 07:57 PM


Janet it is true that many love to observe Mothers day and some feel a sadness on Mothers day due to family problems and situations.  Thank you for sharing.  James
WhiteNite
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since 2000-04-09
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Montgomery, AL
12 posted 2000-05-17 09:12 PM


  Familly and/or friends falling apart for whatever reason is so sad.  I've mentioned before how I lost touch with my father for so many years and then we started talking again... God how I wish I could get that missed time back.    But I'm still greatful that I saved our relationship... er... "we" saved our relationship... before it was too late.  I hope that anyone else who's in the same position can manage to work things out.  It was hard, but man it was worth it.  Love ya Jan, hope all is well.  Sorry I took so long to reply. =)  I've been a little "pre-occupied".    --Dave

 "Don't let your character get camoflaged with your environment.
Find who you are and let it stay in its true colors." --Rachel Joy Scott



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