»
Archives
»
Teen Poetry #3
»
Changing On Me
| Teen Poetry #3 |
|
Changing On Me |
|
|
Erin Member Elite
since 2000-06-15
Posts 2527~Chicago~ 
|
Ok heres the deal on this poem: Me and my boyfriend have been togeher for 7 months...But before anything happened between us he was my best friend...I was having problems with all my friends...I dont know what I would call it with them maybe World War 3...Well I gave it time and they all came back around...But something weird with him is going on...Heres the scoop:For the past couple days hes been acting kinda strange towards me...I dont know how to put it in words even...Like hes all distant on minute then the next its like oh I do have a boyfriend...In the past he has talked about wanting to "explore" but then he said it was only a stage...If anyone can help even you guys (since I am talking about the male brain here) please do so...But I dont want to hear the words "get rid of him"...I love him way to much to want to do that...Cause it just might be his "hormones" acting up...LOL...Thanks much!!!  What is going on, inside your head? Did I do something wrong, or was it something I said? You are acting so different, as if your hearts in the wrong place. Do you want to give up on us, or give each other some space? Would you really want to end it, and have this good thing die? Give it some time, we both need to try. Lets take things slowly, and give it a fresh start. Please just dont do 1 thing, dont break my heart. ~*~TrUe LoVe Is ThE cLoSeSt ThInG tO hEaVen~*~ |
||
| © Copyright 2000 Erin Erbs - All Rights Reserved | |||
|
Deranger Member
since 2000-05-10
Posts 498Somewhere, between here and there |
Hmm, the male mind? Ahahaha!!! A scary place! (Twitching violently) yessss, very scary! But fun, very fun… Having purring problems? Hmmm, my male mind says…wait, what were we talking about? Well anyway, I have to go find some girls to ogle. Hehe, just kidding…. Wow, seven months (Deranger’s small mind is in total awe), maybe he’s scared of a commitment? You know, a lot of guys are (We may act tough, but girls can scare the hell out of us…). Lalala Parentheses are fun!! Blah blah blah! I wonder how much sugar these Altoids have in them…lala….2 grams? Maybe I shouldn’t be eating them by the handful then? Allala ahahha! I suggest (DON’T EVER LISTEN TO MY SUGGESTIONS) you sit him down and be like “Hola, como’ este mi mijo Enrique! No te gusta Erin?” Uh, my spanish is a little (Extremely) rusty, maybe you ought to ask him in ingles… Hasta luego!  ---------------------- Spreading insanity, one post at a time “Writing about darkness comes easily for me. I just close my eyes and write what I |
||
|
Jacman Member
since 2000-06-27
Posts 291Dwight Il, US |
Ok, well now. Umm advice is pretty tough to give on this one. Even though I am a guy I have a hard time understanding how my sex's brain works. Could be hormones here but with very little insight its tough to say. It seems futile, but maybe you could try asking him. You'll know by his body language if your getting a straight answer. And if you can't get a straight answer out of him, give him some space cause chances are he really may not know and he'll need some time to figure it out. I hope that I helped. jason Just as soon as I belong, then it's time I disapear... -Metallica- |
||
|
Erin Member Elite
since 2000-06-15
Posts 2527~Chicago~ |
Man how could I not love you to??? Deranger~~~I think one altoid is good enough...Are you trying to kill yourself by to much sugar intake???LOL I dont think that he is scared of commimtment...I dont know what it is though... Jason~~~I dont know how to bring it up...Its just hes been acting strange...I wrote him a letter and Im gonna give it to him...And when hes done I am gonna find out whats going on...But I just may try and talk to him instead...I will get quicker answers!!! Thanks you guys so much I really appreciate it!!!  ~*~TrUe LoVe Is ThE cLoSeSt ThInG tO hEaVen~*~ |
||
|
Salooma Senior Member
since 2000-01-28
Posts 781 |
Hey Erin, this seems like a pretty rough spot your in....hopefully you get it worked out. I don't really know how that male brain functions either, but my girl advice....let him know how you feel. Maybe he's planning something big for you and that's why he's been weird. You never know, is your birthday coming up? Salma |
||
|
Erin Member Elite
since 2000-06-15
Posts 2527~Chicago~ |
HI there Salma!!!Well I wish I could really control the male brain...Then they would do what we want and all that good stuff...Well no I wouldnt, I wouldnt want all the guys to be like robots...No my birthday is nowhere near...But I did say something to him yesterday...I told him if he doesnt want to be with me then just tell me...He said if I didnt want to be with you, you think I would be here...And that made me think...So maybe he is just going through a bad time right now!!! |
||
Dopey Dope
Moderator
Member Patricius
since 2000-08-30
Posts 11132San Juan, Puerto Rico |
I like my male superior brain. Not superior to women, but just superior in general. Yes but anyway MWHAHAHA!!! The fact that he wanted to "explore" means that he obviously doesn't take the relationship as seriously as you do. Now think a bit, i'm sure you're thinking "OH YES HE DOES YOU STUPID CHILD, DOPEY YOU!" Yes but would you ever think of "exploring"? Believe me, I know a lot about keeping a relationship going. I've only had one girlfriend in my life and i been with her for 2 years and 2 months. I can tell you right now that at no point in my life have I wanted to "explore". NOw if he's been distant with you it could mean one of two things. He's going through this "stage" to push you away and make you realize that he just wants his SPACE or that he has already cheated or is cheating on you and feels guilty. Now don't take my word for it, im only text eh? Yes but thats worse case senario. Anyway, i hope things work well and the male mind is so much more uh....i dont know....how do you say *french accent* magnifique! adios! I was born myself, raised myself, and will continue to be myself. The world will just have to adjust. |
||
|
Erin Member Elite
since 2000-06-15
Posts 2527~Chicago~ |
Dopey~~~First of all, my boyfriend is not cheating and hasnt cheated...He spends all of his free time with me...About the exploring part...That was just a phase he went through and I bet you went through that at one point...And as for things working better they already are!!!And next time I want help dont try and talk bad...Like you said oh hes cheating on you or he already did and feels guilty about it...What are you trying to say anyways...Dont give me your opinion im just saying that!!!< !signature--> ~*~TrUe LoVe Is ThE cLoSeSt ThInG tO hEaVen~*~ [This message has been edited by ERIN (edited 09-02-2000).] |
||
|
Dopey Dope
Moderator
Member Patricius
since 2000-08-30
Posts 11132San Juan, Puerto Rico |
WOoooooaaaaaahhhhhh geez, hey i'm just giving you information on what I have seen from other couples throughout my life. GOD! Anyway you said i went through that exploring stuff.....NOPE....never did. Anyway i strictly said that it was worst case senario. I never said he was doing it. Anyway obviously i dont know the whole story, i dont know anything about you. But about me not giving my opinion.....hey....you ASKED for one....so i GAVE you one. What is it with people and getting mad at me? I WAS TRYING TO HELP. You should at least be appreciative to the fact that I took my time of day to maybe try and help you out. Im VERY VERY VERY happy things are kickin butt for you in your relationship. Why would i want otherwise? You seem to think im some sort of monster. C'mon Erin........ you cant deny i was only trying to help in the simple nature of GOOD. I was born myself, raised myself, and will continue to be myself. The world will just have to adjust. |
||
|
Lone Insomniac Junior Member
since 2000-08-05
Posts 45 |
hey it's a great poem and it says a lot about you !!! and uhm thanks for your comment on my poem anywayz !!! greetz robin |
||
|
Lone Insomniac Junior Member
since 2000-08-05
Posts 45 |
hey it's a great poem and it says a lot about you !!! and uhm thanks for your comment on my poem anywayz !!! greetz robin |
||
|
StarPryncess17 Senior Member
since 2000-05-31
Posts 932Colorado |
Go Erin Go Erin!! sorry I just loved the reply to Dopey. I too disagree with him! The best advice I can give you is to talk to him. It's so redundant I know, but it's the best way. If something is bothering you, you need to talk about it (the almighty communication factor) or it could hurt the relationship! Just be careful and keep workin on it ok? Best of luck my dear! Love Always ~*~Jessica~*~~*~Why is it that love always starts with a HuG grows with a kIsS and ends with a TeAr?!?~*~ |
||
|
Dopey Dope
Moderator
Member Patricius
since 2000-08-30
Posts 11132San Juan, Puerto Rico |
hahaha ok great! Now i have this whole womens movement against me. Look know what? Just forget about what i said .....haha i was only trying to help. But WHATEVER. Look erin, if you care to discuss on a more personal level then icq me. The number is right there and i think i could get you to see my point a bit clearer....but hey, million bucks says you dont care to hear it, which would be close minded but.....id like to get to know you. You SEEEEEEEEM to be cool, at least in prior posts until ME trying to help you got yelled at for it. I'm but an innocent child caught in a cross fire. HELP! I was born myself, raised myself, and will continue to be myself. The world will just have to adjust. |
||
|
Erin Member Elite
since 2000-06-15
Posts 2527~Chicago~ |
Dopey~~~Its not that I am getting mad at you but you are trying to tell me that my boyfriend is cheating on me...I asked for help not for excuses why he is acting this way... Lone~~~Thanks for the reply...What can I say I wrote a book in the beginning of it... ~*~TrUe LoVe Is ThE cLoSeSt ThInG tO hEaVen~*~ |
||
|
Erin Member Elite
since 2000-06-15
Posts 2527~Chicago~ |
Jessica~~~We talked things out and it is good now...But seriously how would you like it if someone gave you a reply like that...Thanks for the reply girl!!! Dopey~~~Watch the words you say...Then all the girls would like you...You would make friends...I thought we were cool but then I see what you are writing...And it just makes me mad... |
||
|
Dopey Dope
Moderator
Member Patricius
since 2000-08-30
Posts 11132San Juan, Puerto Rico |
i am not TRYING to tell you anything. In fact, i am not telling you anything right now. I was just THINKING..but anywayz....sorry if you got the wrong impression. I was born myself, raised myself, and will continue to be myself. The world will just have to adjust. |
||
|
Dopey Dope
Moderator
Member Patricius
since 2000-08-30
Posts 11132San Juan, Puerto Rico |
First off, you said you werent mad. NOw you say you see what i write and you're mad. OKKKKKKkkkk then ......i dont need all the girls to like me. Its not my intention to get anybody to like me. I am just trying to give my opinion and receive others on mine so i can better my writing. I NEED constructive critisim, praise, and just plain trash talk. I am a SERIOUS writer. It's all i do. It will be my career. But you know what? It just seems that people don't like a person who is FUN, yet BLUNT at the same time. I do filter my thoughts for you, not enuff i guess. MAYBE i'll key down a bit. Maybe i wont even post up what i think about the...uh...not so good poems? Ok so yea, thanks for the advice I was born myself, raised myself, and will continue to be myself. The world will just have to adjust. |
||
|
Erin Member Elite
since 2000-06-15
Posts 2527~Chicago~ |
Dopey~~~I could honestly careless about criticism in my poems...If somebody doesnt like my work oh well...Its my work...and if they dont like it their loss...So next time I ask for help, advice, Not your opinion of what could or is happening...Give advice!!! [This message has been edited by ERIN (edited 09-02-2000).] |
||
|
StarPryncess17 Senior Member
since 2000-05-31
Posts 932Colorado |
ok I am feeling way too much tension in the air...Open your heart and feel the love. Ok, Dopey, you gave your opinion. Most writers..or at least I would call it "editorializing" Erin asked for advice not your opinion. However, Erin, You did ask for advice and some people take it to their own personal and emotional level. I totally understand where you both are coming from. (damn I feel like Sister Love or something or other) How about the two of you just keep it to a minimal communication factor until you figure things out. I truly do not like to read harsh words between two very cool people. ok? ok love ya bunches! Love Always~*~Jessica~*~ p.s. sorry for playing mediator...I just felt compelled to after reading the replies to eachtoher. ~*~If aLl My FrIeNdS JuMpEd OfF a BrIdGe, I WoUlDn'T JuMp WiTH ThEm BeCaUsE I'd Be At ThE bOtToM tO CaTcH ThEm.:)~*~ |
||
|
Nikkisweet Member
since 2000-02-14
Posts 183Tx, Dallas |
Dopey & Erin---> ya'll are totally cracking me up^. I think that this was a really good poem and I honestly can't give you any advice. My boyfriend and I broke up because we both were getting too serious. Mabye ya'll should just slow down and don't get too stressed out over it. It's just a guy. And it's not like ya'll are going to get married. Have fun with it. If he doesn't suit your needs, move on to the next guy---> read my quote. ~Guys are like stars, there are millions of them, but only one can make you dreams come true~ |
||
|
Jeremy Halstead Senior Member
since 2000-06-01
Posts 569Morris, Ill. U.S.A |
Well...I didn't exactly appreciate the comment about the mail brain, but that's not hte point here. The best advice I can give you is to not start making a big issue (towards him) out of how you're feeling about this. He'll feel smother or bothered by it eventually and that will just drive him away whether there's anything wrong or not. Just make sure that he's aware of how you feel and let him deal with the situation. If he doesn't start acting any different or try to do anything about it, then he obviously isn't as concerned about your feelings as he once was or you once thought. I'm not trying to strike fear into you, I just want to break this down to the honest reality of the situation....like I said, just let him know how you feel and give him space and understanding about it and everything may be just fine and I sincerely hope it is...luv ya. Jeremy< !signature--> "Time is the matter, and in a matter of that all wounds will heal and all scars shall fade." [This message has been edited by Jeremy Halstead (edited 09-03-2000).] |
||
|
Isabel Galaxia Senior Member
since 2000-06-18
Posts 733 |
Alright, I'm gonna start off by saying I'm walking into the line of fire to give some advice. First, I'm definetely not taking sides on the Dopey vs Erin thing. I know when to stay out of things. Ok now seriously, I think you should definetely talk to this guy. If you really love him and he really loves you, then you should at least be able to talk like mature people. This could be a phase that he is going through. Maybe he has a lot on his mind, or maybe something is distracting him. But whatever it is, you should definetely talk to him about it. I know that's easier said than done. I've got a bf too, so I know how it goes. Believe it or not, sometimes instant messenger is the way to go, but that's definetely up to you. Well good luck, tell me how it all goes. keep your chin up Bel Beautiful is empty Beautiful is free Beautiful loves no one Beautiful stripped me -"Beautiful" CREED |
||
|
Jacman Member
since 2000-06-27
Posts 291Dwight Il, US |
Erin, I'm sorry that I am bringing this all up again but I just feel that I have somethings to say. First of all, It's great that you talked to him and that things are a bit clearer now. Well I was going to write a little rebuttle to Dopey, but this is'nt the place for it. Peace out. Jacman Just as soon as I belong, then it's time I disapear... -Metallica- |
||
|
Erin Member Elite
since 2000-06-15
Posts 2527~Chicago~ |
Jessica~~~I was gonna have one of the moderators close this if when I got on right now there were more arguements...But there wasnt...Jessica I was asking for help...Not asking what do you think my man is doing you know what I mean... Nikki~~~What do you find so funny that you are cracking up???As I sit here and write this reply I have a smile on my face...But god only knows what you are thinking!!!And what I am thinking...I have read your quote before and it really makes you think!!! Jeremy~~~I wasnt trying to be rude about saying that...But I mean I asked for guys opinions because my boyfriend is a guy...And yous should be able to tell me what may be going on...You know what Im saying...Im mean me being a girl I have no clue what is going on... Isabel~~~We talked things out...Hes just aggravated cause of work and all... Jason~~~I am glad that things are working out too!!!I wouldnt want us to break up on bad terms!!! ~*~TrUe LoVe Is ThE cLoSeSt ThInG tO hEaVen~*~ |
||
|
Chel Senior Member
since 2000-07-01
Posts 511Baltimore, MD, USA |
Erin sorry I haven't been around, but I am sure you will be glad to hear from me. Anyway, this poem was very well written. I know this feeling all too well. All I can tell you is that you have to do what is right. I understand that you love him, and I am sure its just a phase, but think about it. You have been friends with him for a while you add it all up. Well good luck and I hope everything works itself out. Chel "True friends stab you in the front" "True love last forever" |
||
|
Jenn Cirrincione
since 2000-07-02
Posts 2107Fl |
Wow. I see Dopey has caused conflict with more than one of us chicas. Erin your poem was great, I understand where you are coming from. Men can be a little nutso sometimes, but we can't live without them! Can we?? Well Luck to you....Jenn |
||
|
Acies
Moderator
Member Rara Avis
since 2000-06-07
Posts 7665Twilight Zone |
not all males are the same up there. you have the male playa brain. you have the male hater brain. you have the male mature brain. etc......... you're the only one who can solve this. I guess the best advice is TALK...CONVERSATE...DiSCUSS...ETC... The above is different from ARGUING... I know I responded too late but just incase you need it in the future. hopefully not though As i wake up in the morning I ask myself, "Is life worth living or should I blast myself" TUPAC SHAKUR |
||
|
Pixie-Babe03 Member
since 2000-08-29
Posts 387Central Maine |
Erin*~ This poem is SO GOOD!!! i LOVE it! you are a great poet, keep up the good work ~*Pixie*~ |
||
|
Erin Member Elite
since 2000-06-15
Posts 2527~Chicago~ |
Thanks so much for all the replies!!!I really appreciate it!!! Jenn~~~Yeah he caused a little bit of commotion here too!!! < !signature--> ~*~TrUe LoVe Is ThE cLoSeSt ThInG tO hEaVen~*~ [This message has been edited by ERIN (edited 09-05-2000).] |
||
|
Pixie-Babe03 Member
since 2000-08-29
Posts 387Central Maine |
Erin*~ another thing, i relly hoe everything for you and your boyfriend works out and it is just a stage he is going through, i htink you just need to talk to him about it and tell him your feelings, but guys can be so confusing at times... good luck ~*Pixie*~ |
||
|
Dopey Dope
Moderator
Member Patricius
since 2000-08-30
Posts 11132San Juan, Puerto Rico |
As if commotion was bad. I come here to write and you can't help but admit you all appreciate my contributions, so HA! Anyway, im not this kid who comes here to minipulate you or piss the shi-zit out of you all. I think you're all pretty cool. It was a misunderstanding that blew out of proportion. Enuff already...sheeeeesh!! I was born myself, raised myself, and will continue to be myself. The world will just have to adjust. |
||
|
Erin Member Elite
since 2000-06-15
Posts 2527~Chicago~ |
Pixie~~~Thanks for the help...I really appreciate it...But I dont really think I need it anymore...We talked everything out and its all good now!!! Dopey~~~What are you talking about???Can you just drop it???If its about what Jenn asked me just drop it...OK??? ~*~TrUe LoVe Is ThE cLoSeSt ThInG tO hEaVen~*~ |
||
|
Kit McCallum
Administrator
Member Laureate
since 2000-04-30
Posts 14774Ontario, Canada |
Erin noted in an earlier comment that she might request a moderator to lock this thread if this continued, and since this is Erin's post and she responded last with a comment, I will lock this thread at this time. It appears that this blew somewhat out of proportion. The problem appeared to begin with the definition of advice. To be accurate, the dictionary notes this as: "an opinion given for the practical direction of conduct; information given by letter, counsel. As always with real-life situations, advice tends to come from each person's own unique experiences. Each of us are different, with our own backgrounds, learned behaviours, perceptions and stories. Sometimes this may fit well with another's situation, and sometimes not. The interesting and good thing about seeking advice/opinions of others, both online and off, is that you can choose to take the advice ... or leave the advice, depending on how it fits within your situation. That's the beauty of it. In a general sense, you will find that you will hear both advice/opinions that you agree with, and advice/opinions you do not. It is our choice to make that determination based on our own individual circumstances and conclusions. For now, advice/opinion was asked for, and given, however I feel something further got tangled into this at some point, so the thread will be closed. Erin and Dopey ... you both seem to be terrific individuals, and indeed talented writers. I hope to continue to read more of both of your poetry and responses. This is a great group of individuals with a wide variety of backgrounds. Each has interesting experiences to grow and learn from. I hope we can now move forward from here. If either of you have any further concerns, please do not hesitate to e-mail me directly. Best wishes, /Kit |
||
|
|
⇧ top of page ⇧ |
|
| All times are ET (US). All dates are in Year-Month-Day format. | ||
