Regina, Saskatchewan; Canada
Do you ever wonder why who in a saying such as she is who I love, is who instead of whom? This may seem confusing, because it looks like the who should be acted upon by the verb love. In the saying it is that that I love there are two that's, the first to answer the main verb "is" as the subject and the second to answer the verb "love", being acted upon as the object . Grammatically, the saying she is who I love is equivelant to having two who's as well, as if it were: she is who whom I love. The trick is that the who that you see is the one that goes with the main verb is, while the whom that goes with love is actually omitted and therefore invisible: she is who (whom) I love. The object (the whom in this case) is grammatically necessary and should be thought of and recognized even though it may sometimes be omitted.
But in most examples with other words, the whom may either be invisible or visible. For example, she is the one I love or she is the one whom I love.
[This message has been edited by Essorant (02-08-2009 05:06 PM).]