This is good. It can be really difficult to stick with this attitude but in the long-run it usually ends up being best...otherwise you get burned or hurt over and over again. Once you come to this realization atleast once... I mean fully come to this realization...it makes it a bit easier to tell the other person to "go away" with more force and strength which usually leads you to feel better about it. It makes the whole situation a lot easier to deal with (atleast that's what I've found, though it may be different for you). At any rate, good luck James.
-molly aka sam
"Thus shall ye think of all this fleeting world:
A star at dawn, a bubble in a stream;
A flash of lightning in a summer cloud,
A flickering lamp, a phantom, and a dream."
-from the Diamond Sutra, translated by : A. F. Price -- found in Teachings of The Buddha, edited by Jack Kornfield