Speaking of need versus want is an interesting perspective. I think the greatest need for both men and women is good communication, especially before a serious relationshiop is established, and certainly before marriage. I believe that expectations are usually there but open communication is not, in many cases.
Men and women are very different, physically mentally and emotionally. So often, I think, a couple charges forward in a relationship based on emotion and as time passes, other issues develop that present different views by each person, and maybe causes conflict in the relationship.
Just thinking out loud. I have no hard facts that support my position, just one man's opinion. (for what it's worth)(a smile)
Anyway, enjoyed this piece.