Truly it is a hard thing to cope with. I understand both sides of this struggle. I met a young lady last summer that I really liked, at first. We enjoyed one another's company dearly. Held each other and danced and cuddled. Then one day I realized that she just wasn't going to be able to go where I am going in life. It was hard, b/c my feelings changed for her, but I still desired to be with her. To hold her hand and to touch her. I just didn't want that long term committment. The hardest thing was just ending it. I did though. I mean we are still friends, but it is still hard sometimes, b/c I don't want to say anything to lead her on or make her think that I want something more. Truly you will be in my prayers. I hope this all works out well.
Escondido, CA USA
Jfreak, It is very hard. It would be much easier if it just ended, but it doesn't. I just don't understand the "hanging on" thing that's happening. In my eyes, either it is, or it isn't, not somewhere in between. Me2, Yes, I am aware, as much as I don't want to be. Denise, Thank you. I AM trying to let go. It's hard, but I know I have to!
Tulip, after all the games played on me, I find the direct approach works. Find out how he's feeling, tell him what you are feeling and go from there. One way or the other, you'll know, then you can go from there. I hope it works out for you! By the way, great poem! -SEA
Kapolei, Hawaii, USA
Very nice tulip. The line that always works for me is "will you just leave me alone" and I say it with lots of emotion. And they do leave me "alone". Now all that is left is the sadness and the loneliness. So yes, its a hard but sometimes necessary road. New opportunities always come along. James
WOW ANOTHER PERSON TELLING MY STORY! I'M IN LOVE WITH A GUY. WE HAVE HAD A VERY RUFF PAST. WE WERE FRIENDS AND THEN I BECAME HIS "SECRET". I LET IT SLIP OUT AND WITH THAT IT WAS OVER AND WITH A QUICKNESS WE WERE ENEMIES. HE KNEW THAT I STILL LOVED HIM THOUGH AND WHEN HE BROKE UP WITH HIS GIRLFRIEND HE CAME TO ME AND OF COURSE I FELL FOR IT ( NOT KNOWING IT WAS A GAME TO GET BACK AT ME)AND THAT HE WAS ACTUALLY WITH WHAT I THOUGHT WAS MY "FRIEND" (SHE WAS IN ON THE GAME) WELL THE GAME ENDED BUT OUR LOVE FOR EACH OTHER HASNT. ONCE AGAIN IM HIS "SECRET" HE CLAIMS TO LOVE ME MORE THEN N E THING BUT AT THE SAME TIME HE WONT LEAVE HIS GIRLFRIEND BECAUSE " HE DOESNT WANT TO HURT HER". HES GOING TO VISIT HER IN MARCH AND ITS ABOUT KILLIN ME. I WISH I COULD LET GO BUT I CANT DO IT IVE ALREADY TRIED. I LOVE HIM TO MUCH TO JUST GIVE HIM UP ...IF HE WOULD GIVE ME UP IT WOULD HURT A LOT BUT I THINK IT WOULD BE EASIER 4 ALL INVOLVED.I UNDERSTAND HOW HARD THIS IS 4 U PEOPLE GIVE YOU THERE ADVICE BUT REALLY IT DONT HELP BECAUSE YOU KNOW WHAT IT IS YOU SHOULD DO ITS JUST THE DOING IT THAT IS SO HARD AND NO ONE BUT U CAN DO THAT. GOOD LUCK GIRL I FEEL YOU ON THIS ONE A LOT
just, I'm sorry for what you're going through. It sounds miserable. Breathe, If the commitment has been made, it would be black and white, and a little more simple. I agree, figuring out which hurts less is key here. It hit me hard when I read that. Thank you! Hoot, Thanks for the response!