Glen Hope, PA USA
You know how deeply this one touches me my friend. Having been there, I know how it can be, the blame, the fear, the hurt. As I said, the best you can do is be there to support her and offer help, she is the one who has to make the final decision that things must change. Hopefully she comes to her senses much quicker than I did. Seventeen years is a large portion of ones life to lose, although I don't regret what those years have made me, I do regret the loss of all I could have done those 17 years. I will keep her in my thoughts and prayers.
Hugs and Love my dear friend,