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0 posted 2010-10-31 01:29 PM



I guess I need some prayers because I have cancer. That's all folks.

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1 posted 2010-10-31 02:10 PM


ma'am... of course you will be in my thoughts and wish the best for you...


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2 posted 2010-10-31 02:20 PM


Oh I am so sorry to hear that.... all of my heartfelt  thoughts and prayers are with you, dear...  
~Amaryllis (Sharon)

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3 posted 2010-10-31 05:50 PM


Where? What stage? What treatments have you considered? These and many other questions cross our collective minds. I know, because I've recently assisted my husband through his colon cancer. There are vast options of treatment and if you have some specific questions, email me, and we'll talk.


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4 posted 2010-10-31 07:40 PM


it's breast cancer and I can have it removed but I don't want to go through all that

no treatment

*smile*
love you

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5 posted 2010-10-31 08:26 PM


I won't argue with you. But if you change your mind? For all the of the good that you've given to this world? We'll walk and talk then.

My prayers and subsequent other familiars will be nudging you.


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6 posted 2010-10-31 10:37 PM


I'm sorry you would rather die than take treatment, Dixie.
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7 posted 2010-11-01 12:12 PM


oh no Mike, I'm not gonna die, but I'm not gonna walk around with no hair and one boob either.

Mama K, thanks so much. I might talk later but just don't want to now.

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8 posted 2010-11-01 02:02 AM



     Depression is one of the symptoms that come along with some kinds of Cancer.  It can skew judgement very badly.  You haven't made it clear that taking the whole breast is your only option, when a removal of the tumor itself may do the trick.  Even if it doesn't, and if for some reason you want to avoid reconstructive surgery, I would imagine that you are more valuable than one of your breasts, or even both of them.  Perhaps you'd counsel your daughter or your mother to do the same thing, I don't know, but I suspect you'd find them more important than that in the scheme of things.

     Sorry for my disagreement with your point of view here.  I really do know it's your decision in the end; it simply feels to me as though you're letting your shock and depression make it for you.  Feel free to tell me to take a long walk off the proverbial short pier, of course.

Sincerely, Bob Kaven  

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9 posted 2010-11-01 07:20 AM


Such distressing news, Dixie.  You don't strike me as the kind of person who "gives up" but you do strike me as an intelligent enough person to make a wise decision.  My thoughts and prayers are with you.


Helen  

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10 posted 2010-11-01 07:59 PM


The piptalk safe version:

If it were me Id lop em both of in a breath. You have people you need and love you. It's your decision, but remember people love you Dixie.

Juju

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11 posted 2010-11-02 09:50 AM


I won't pretend to understand what you are going through.. or why you say you won't have treatments.

I'll only tell you that there are those who care, and would want you to be around as long as you can. I hope that what ever your final decisons are, that you do take into account the ones who care for and about you and that you find peace.



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12 posted 2010-11-02 02:09 PM


hi everyone.

thanks for the prayers and comments...I am going on Friday to have them make a small incision in my armpit to remove this lump so they can see what it is. What happens after that, I don't know.

Radiation and chemotherapy are super scary words. Just keep praying.

thanks

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13 posted 2010-11-02 07:26 PM


I am glad to hear you are dealing with it, and investigating all your options.  Keep us posted, and of course prayers, and good thoughts will be coming your way.
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14 posted 2010-11-02 10:38 PM


Radiation and chemotherapy are super scary words.

and 'death' isn't?

Keeping you in my thoughts and even more if you go for treatement. Go for it girl and you might have a long life ahead of you.

Like scattered leaves...my words will flow

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15 posted 2010-11-07 01:20 AM


hi everyone. Thanks for your prayers and thoughts.

I have decided to wait, maybe get a second opinion. I can keep monitoring this myself for awhile.

This was one of those "Get a 25 cent cup of coffee and a free mammogram while you're here" type of things. I just don't believe it.

I had one done in February by my own OBGYN and there was nothing there. I don't know why I let these people scare me...just to be able to look at a lump and say it's the same shape and size of a cancerous one is ridiculous. My doc said that most lumps are not cancer.

So that's where this situation stands for now.

Thanks for the support and prayers. But still keep me in your prayers every now and then?



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16 posted 2010-11-07 09:02 AM


Hi, I'm the late Whtdove's mom.  When she was undergoing her treatment, I had a lot of thought, self analysis and prayer.  Since her death, I've rerun it all over again.  Were she with me today saying she may have breast cancer, I'd advise:

1. Pray. Be aware that God is in control.  
2. Get two opinions, as she did.  
3. Neither rush into treatment, nor     procrastinate too long.
4. Ask every question that comes to mind..it's your body.
5. Change your mind if you want to...it's your body.
6.  Get a loved one to oversee your medications, help you research, etc., so you can spend time living like it's your last chance.
7. Listen for God.  Tune in to what He wants you to do.  It's Him you'll face ultimately.

Make your decisions based on what you'd advise your dearest one to do in the same circumstances, knowing God is the final decision maker.

God bless you.  I pray something here is helpful.

Warm hugs.
  Rae
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17 posted 2010-11-07 12:33 PM


You're in my thoughts, Dixie.  Keep us posted.
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18 posted 2010-11-07 06:32 PM


Dixie, honey I'm so sorry to hear this news. Please know I am with you in thought and prayer. May God watch over you, protect you and grant you health.

Hugs and loves, Marti


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19 posted 2010-11-08 05:55 PM




     I found a lump in the breast of a girlfriend once when I was in graduate school.  It scared both of us blue.  She had a biopsy and it turned out to be a fibroid tumor, which was not cancer and which was benign.  It was about the size of a small lemon, and was excised under local.

     There are a lot of women with fibrocystic illness, which needs to be tracked, and which needs occasional surgery but  which is not in the same league as breast Cancer.  Sometimes these tumors show up very quickly, so your experience with your regular Doc in February isn't unusual.  Get the biopsy done, then deal with the issue you actually do have rather than with all the issues you don't have plus whatever the issue you do have may be.  It's simply less frightening; since you've already got yourself thinking its cancer, the only down-side of getting the biopsy is that you get yourself a better chance of survival.

     Survival isn't such a terrible thing.  Survivors have options.

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20 posted 2010-11-09 02:14 AM


thank you friends

I will consider all you have said here

with love,
Dixie



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21 posted 2010-11-14 02:01 AM


Dixie,

I am a person who likes to bury my head in the sand and hope things go away.  Some things have to be dealt with.  I am sure you have read all these messages and understand that.  I don't want to patronize you.  However, I had a biopsy a couple of years ago - it scared the hell out of me.  I didn't know how much until after the biopsy and I found out what was seen was a cyst.  I did know that was something not to put off and hope would go away.  

I don't really know what your situation is - I just hope you do what is best for you.  And for those you love.

Alison

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22 posted 2010-11-19 10:57 AM


I heard those words once and I was terrified! My doctor then reconsidered and decided tat it felt more like a cyst and thank goodness he was right. It disappeared without any surgical intervention. I'm forever doing self-examinations of my breasts so that if could detect any problems before they got out of hand, so to speak.
Wishing you good luck and peace of mind! You're made of strong schtuff and you can overcome anything that comes your way in life.

Wishing you only the best,

Linda

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23 posted 2010-11-22 06:30 AM


Dixie my mom found a lump years ago, she just got into the shower one day and poof it was there where there had never been one before.
Thank GOD she found it, and it had appeared, it was stage ONE...breast cancer, we prayed and she went back to the doctors, and she was cancer free, and is now cancer free...her hair fell out, and had a few treatments but hey she loved the new wigs they have now, just like the stars wear now when they want to change their hair...looks real.
Her real hair grew back even more healthy, shiny, thick...
You have a grand baby that needs you, and a daughter, how you handle this, someday may be how they handle this, I know I now have to have test regularly because my mom had it, and she taught me strength and how to conquer it, with prayer and the lord.
Now two of my aunts on my dads side of the family has breast cancer too...so I am very
genetically high risk, but I have precautions and the lord on my side.

I will be praying for you and hope the best for you!

Hugs

[This message has been edited by A Romantic Heart (11-23-2010 04:17 AM).]

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24 posted 2010-11-22 07:00 AM


I just went through what you are facing (not the same kind of cancer though). I must tell you, I would give up both breasts and be bald for the rest of my life to have more time with my family and friends. Everyone is entitled to their personal decision about their body - but sometimes you have to look outside yourself to see how YOUR decisions affect others. It looks to me from the replies that you would be missed if you don't get treatment and you die.

Remember White Dove(Becky)? She fought so  hard to live but it wasn't meant to be. At least give life a chance.

I still shed tears over Becky's untimely death.

Choose life!

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25 posted 2010-11-23 10:07 AM


Dear Dixie, scientific progress in treatments for cancer are a blessing I would say and deserve our trust. I also am one who tends to procrastinate check up and analysis, but we must face the truth that prevention and early discovery of anomalies can make all the difference.
Good luck and strength in this delicate moment.
Love and hugs.
Margherita

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Here I am, up all night again
so I decided to pop on in

Thank you all for the thoughts and words and prayers. I had an appointment with my doctor but something came up so I had to reschedule. I go in on the 6th.

Yes, Rebecca has been on my mind quite a lot lately. I still have tears too. Over the years, we have lost many good people from PIP and the world. I think of them all.


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27 posted 2013-01-06 09:15 PM


PoetDivine

I'm ashley, rebecca's youngest daughter.. and sandgrains (rae) granddaughter.. i don't really know what i'm doing here.. i guess i'm just looking for my mom.. anyways.. i remember her speaking so highly of you Shannon or maybe it was Sharon? I believe you called me Ethel.. anyways.. Hi..

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28 posted 2016-11-09 02:24 PM


my favorite lady, a shadow of love and life, light and love. missed you.

My spirit will rise
above the sea~
There will be no drowning
of my soul or me~

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Ashley,

Just thinking about your mom.

Alison

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