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nakdthoughts
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25 posted 12-15-2005 06:38 AM       View Profile for nakdthoughts   Email nakdthoughts   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for nakdthoughts

sending prayers and hope Beki.


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May God and His healing angels
be with Caleb and his family.

I will keep him in my prayers.

Love & Healing Light,
Linda
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27 posted 12-29-2005 03:22 AM       View Profile for Beki   Email Beki   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Beki

Thank you all fo ryour continued support and prayers. I am sorry I have not posted anything in so long, we have been busy with the holidays. Christmas was difficult, trying to balance family needs to have some sense of normalcy with Calebs need not to be alone on christmas. Thanks  to the friends who came to visit that day.....

Last week we received the devestating news that the new tumor is inoperable. At the beginning they told us the only way to fight this cancer was to cut it out, and keep cutting it out when it returns. To tell us they cannot cut this one out pretty much took all our hopes and dashed them on the floor. It was a very difficult week for all of us.

This week he is doing pretty well. Yesterday they removed the catheters for dialysis so he is officially through with that.....(happy dance time for the felling of the dialysis machine). His numbers (its always all about the numbers) are all coming down...white blood cells, calcium, etc - all the things they have been concerned about the last two weeks.He has had no fevers, positive blood cultures, infections etc for several weeks now and his kidney function continues to improve, as of yesterday it is working at 60% (after only 20% last week but that number does fluctuate a little based on what he eats etc). He is moving himself around in the bed pretty well even without the trapeze. SO, if you disregard the fact of his cancer, he is oding pretty good medically. He does still suffer the pain in his legs and feet but he says it is slowly getting just a little better. I confess to being concerned about the fact that he says part of his legs ar e numb, I will ask the docs about that friday when I am there.

Tomorrow he will have the PET scan we have been fighting for. It is essential to knowing exactly how widespread and where the cancer is. He is anxious about the ambulance ride he will take to the diagnostic center and about the needle they will use to inject the necessary dye. I confess I am terrified about what they will find out. But I also believe we really have to know, especially in order to make the best most informed decisions we can about his care, now and down the road.He i sjust finishing his second week of radiaiton treatments and so far the only side effect is complete exhaustion...the treatments themselves are not too bad and only last about 20 minutes but it is a huge ordeal to go there and come back. He must transfer to a gurney, be pushed through an underground tunnel down the hill to another building. be transferred to the hard cold steel radiaiton table, and then do it all in reverse to get back. He is usually 90 minutes away from his room.

He is suffering some pretty heavy depression this week and rightfully so, he has much to be depressed about. He needs support more than ever....

That's where we're at -- his radiation treatments will last about 6 weeks - he is getting 28 days but that does not include weekends and holidays. So far he has had 7 days....25% done. If he were up and walking around I am confident they would send him home and do radiaiton as an outpatient. I believe the only thing keeping him in the hospital  now is the fact he is not ambulatory. Oh yes, i fyou do come to see him, be forewarned he has lost a lot of weight, he is down to 159,. less than half what he used to weigh. They told us at the beginning every dau you lay in bed you lose 3% of your muscle mass, and I can se eit is true. He has virtually NO muscles left in his legs...he is so thin his shin protrudes and his calf skin hangs form his bones......his hips are bony and thin.,.....it is very discouraginf to see him this way. I don't know how anyone expects him to stand when there are no muscles in his legs to hold him up. I fear if he catches the slightest cold he will not be able to fight it.....I am trying to ge thim to work on some muscle building exercises with me and to eat more protein to build muscle...mostly he does not want to dealw ith it. ENCOURAGEMENT folks - that is what he needs this Christmas!
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Beki~
We so appreciate you coming in and keeping us updated on Caleb~
Our prayer vigil is steadfast ... continuing for Caleb and all of you~

*Huglets*
~*Marge*~

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30 posted 12-30-2005 10:52 AM       View Profile for Enchantress   Email Enchantress   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Enchantress

And the prayers will continue~
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31 posted 12-30-2005 12:58 PM       View Profile for Mysteria   Email Mysteria   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Mysteria

I am SO sorry I missed this entire thread, and Beki I wish you all a healing through this.  What an incredible outpouring of love and support, which helps in his recovery.

I will of course add you and your family to our prayer circle, and wish you all a very Happy New Year.  May God bless you all.
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Brave Beki, I believe in miracles because I have seen them time and again up close and personal! He needs a miracle and I am praying with all my might that Caleb will get one!

May you all hang onto the angel wings that surround you so that you might be lifted above your troubled waters ~ physically, emotionally, ~ and financially.

God bless,

Love & Healing Light,
Linda

[This message has been edited by Earth Angel (12-31-2005 01:25 AM).]

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33 posted 12-30-2005 07:47 PM       View Profile for sandgrain   Email sandgrain   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for sandgrain

I was so happy to know an update had been posted, but so sorry to learn of the dashed hope.  Miracles do happen and my prayers ask for Caleb and family to receive one.  My heart aches for each of you.

God bless

   Rae
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Please add my daughter Charity to your prayers..she was supposed to bring my little granddaughter Gracie to visit her Uncle Caleb for new yearts today and stay the weekend.....she never made it because she ended up in the hospital herself with a  blood clot in her lung. Now she will be hospitalized at least 5 days and I have to drive all day and night tomorrow to bring my granddaughter to stay with us...I swear I don't know how much one family is supposed to be able to take but I know I am very near my limit...I cannot be in two states with two kids in the hospital and looking out for my granddaughter and still working so I can make sure Ihave a place to sleep.......much prayer needed and appreciated my friends....
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OhBeki~
To be sure we will add Charity immediately to our prayer vigil~

How much indeed, dear lady .... may God be with you all and give each of you the strength to endure all you have to go through~

May the New Year karma quickly turn about to bring you and those you love some peace and health~

Sincerely with *HUGLETS*
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36 posted 01-01-2006 10:12 PM       View Profile for Mysteria   Email Mysteria   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Mysteria

God never gives you more than you can handle they say, but I know it sure feels like it sometimes, and this would be one of those for sure!

May you find the strength and help you also need to accomplish this family task right now Beki, and I sincerely hope the year will soon be so much better for you all.  Prayers being said for you all.  Take care.
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Becki....you have so much on your shoulders right now...I admire your strength.  Love is what makes the biggest muscle, and that's what you've got plenty of.  My prayers are with you and all of your family during this difficult time.  
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May angels surround you and yours with strength and healing light. Prayers continue. hug, Chris
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39 posted 01-02-2006 02:09 PM       View Profile for Trillium   Email Trillium   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Trillium

I'm sorry to be late reading this post and what a sad story it is!  You have too much to bear Beki and I am praying that God will be with you every step of your difficult road!

Love
Betty Lou

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Oh my!  The seeds of faith need watering now more than ever.  The only advice I can give you is to pray your way through and when someone asks if there's anything they can do to help you, say, "Thanks, there is."  Whether they can make you a meal, babysit, do a couple loads of laundry or whatever, ASK them, please.  How I'd love to gather my bits of time and be there with them to relieve you somehow.  God only means for us to be one person.  Prayer will continue here and include each of you.  Thanks for allowing me to be a part of the prayer chain.

God bless you,
   Rae
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Dear Marge, Beki & Caleb
I only just found this thread today and Marge knows I've been away from here for such a long time, so I'm sorry I'm only sending my thoughts and prayers now.

Dear Beki~
How is Caleb now? I hope he is doing well and have they sorted everything with the cancer, sounded terribly worrying for you both. You are in my prayers.

my winged ~hugs~ floating your way
Tracie

sorry Beki I didn't see the second page and your latest messages. Caleb is certainly doing it rough, I hope the radio goes well for him and that you stay strong, read how your daughter is in hospital as well, can't be easy for you at all. know that you are all in my prayers and I'm thinking of you.
~hugs~
Tracie


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I wanted to share a few updates form the last week or so.....caleb finished radiation on friday and we are waiting to begin chemo soon. These ar ethe updates form his blog the last week ---

It has been a very very difficult week. On Monday we heard for the first time a realistic, honest prognosis for Caleb. It was devestating but even so I made them tell Caleb what they told us. They have been sugar coating the facts for him and it was time they recognized he is an adult and were straight with him. They say without chemo or if chemo does not work he has 4-6 months --and if chemo does have some effect the best we can hope for is 6 months more.Caleb does not accept this and of course wants to fight with anything he can so he wants to have the chemo. He finishes his radiaiton tomorrow, Dr Hafer cut it short by giving him higher doses all this week when he realized how crucial it is he begins chemo very very soon. And there in lies the current crisis - finding a place for Caleb to get the chemo..I have been running in circles all week as has our friend Rosie while we tried to make it happen.Tomorrow I have an appointment with the doctor medi cal considers his primary care provider and hopefully he will help us put all this into motion.

It seems City of Hope is not really an option anymore as they have changed their contracts for the new year and no longer accept his insurance. We are looking at ST Joseph's in Orange I think for chemo now. We will see how that works out. The whole medi cal system is very frustrating to work with. Caleb is progressing well with his physical therapy, as soon as he can walk we will take him home from the convalescent home where he absolutely does not belong. I think he is doing so well with his therapy for 2 reasons, first, he is highly motivated to leave that place, and two, he has no pain in his feet anymore......because they are numb. This would scare me except he seems to be able to move around pretty good. But because there is no longer pain he can stand a little and beging to walk. Amen for that! This week they had him walking the parallel bars a few times (they are about 6 feet long) and that is the first he has walked since he had his surgery.

It appears since City of Hope did not work out due to a change in their insurance contracts for the New Year that Caleb will have to receive chemotherapy here in Orange County, and his particular brand of Medi-Cal seems to point to St. Joseph's hospital. So while we were waiting to get that approved through proper channels we hatched a plan to expedite things a little. A friend who knows someone on staff there was told the best way to expedite it would be to get him admitted to the hospital, probably through the ER - then as a patient they would get him whatever doctors or treatment he needs. So we called his "treating" doctor at the nursing home and told him our grave concerns about his kidney (which were very real, I have been worried for days his kidney is shutting down - his urine output is significantly reduced, his urine dark and concentrated, like when he needed dialysis which he had only been off of for 3 weeks, and he was throwing up everything he ate) and he agreed it sounded like there was a kidney function problem so he would send him to an ER. We then suggested since he had to send him to an ER, could it be St. Joseph's...we explained our plan and he thought it was a great idea so he wrote the order to send him only to St Joseph's for possible renal failure. As it turned out, his kidney is doing ok, there is a slight problem but they think it is because of dehydration from throwing up, which means we still don't know why he is vomiting. But they did admit him to the hospital after the ER doctor spoke with his main doctor back at Hoag at length, and promised to a team of doctors would address his needs, including chemotherapy. So we will see where we stand today with all of that. They might not keep him in the hospital but at least we have paved the way for the chemo.

Today 1/15 - SInce being admitted to St Josephs caleb has had many tests scans and iltrasounds but he has yet to see the oncologist - they say he will se eus tomorrow. His problem seems to have been severe dehydration and since being poumped full of fluids in the hospital he has not thrown up even once. They want his kidney to be back up to speed with how it was and so will watch him a fe wmore days for that. In the meantime his heart rate jumped to 160 so they put him in a telemetry unit to keep track of that.  It is a daily guessing game what will come next but for now he is in the right hospital to get the chemo treatment we seek and we have to trust that part will work out too.

I do apologize for not being around but my whole time and energy is focussed on him.
I have to confess I am having a really difficult time - it is so hard just to go towork every day when all I want to do is be with him and hold him close. I thank you all for your support -
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Beki, we can understand why you might be unable to post often. Sheesh, talk about having too much on your plate! Your resilience and strength is amazing.
It isn't much, but I shall light a healing thoughts candle for the whole family tonight.
hugs, Kacy
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I offer my humble prayers to the almighty that he might heal Caleb and give you strength Beki to come thru this ordeal...Paul

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Becki...You are so strong!  I admire you and understand how hard this is.  My thoughts are with you and Caleb.  
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Words fail me. I am overwhelmed by simply reading about what Caleb and the rest of the family is going through! I cannot even imagine actually experiencing it!

How is Charity doing? Is she home from the hospital now? If it doesn't rain ~ it pours!

Just know that there is power in PiP prayer! ~ And weeza prayin'!


Linda
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thank you all - yes Charity went home from the hospital after 5 days. We made an overnight trip to poick up my granddaughter and keep her the wek then another overnight trip to take her home after Charity was released. We had great fun with Gracie while she was here. Charity is still fatigued but doing ok, she will have to be on blood thinners for about 9 months and can never take birth control pills again which did not make her happy but now they know she is at risk. I am sure she will be ok.
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Beki, your hands may be full ~ but so is your loving heart.

That was a close one for Charity! Thank God she got through that one unscathed! ~ Mind you, she going to be inconvenienced by frequent blood tests while she is on anticoagulants. It is unfortunate, but as her doctors advise, it is prudent that she no longer use oral contraceptives. However, using a combination of other means, can be very effective in preventing an unwanted pregnancy. btw, some of them can be quite entertaining! Flirty 2

Your grandaughter, Gracie, sounds like a little ray of sunshine to brighten your days with her grace-full ways!

I send my love and comforting hugs to you all!
Linda
P.S. and I'm keeping a steady stream of prayers on the wing!
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My prayers and heatfelt offering of support for you and your family.
If there is anything I can do, I know sounds stupid for offering, but I mean it.

Hugs Fee

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