I have learned that here at PIP, and else where for that matter, when you state your opinion and thoughts and leave them open for debate, just that may happen. People will debate and not always agree with you.
I have posted things in the past that I found were “hot topics” to others. I felt attacked and disliked at first. But, I quickly realized that others were stating their opinion, just as I had done in the originating post.
Everyone has a right to their own opinion, thoughts and beliefs, and when you put your thoughts/feelings/beliefs out for all to see, not everyone is going to agree with you.
I have learned to listen to what others are saying, you never know, maybe they have a good point.
In fact, here is a perfect example. I posted something the other day that really bothered me, and two of our PIP members raised question about what I was feeling and why I was felling that way.
Now, I could have taken what they said and been defensive, upset and angry about it. But instead I thought about what they had to say. And ya’ know what, I think they are both right and I ended up leaving the forum feeling better about the ill feelings I had when I first posted.
Anyway, what I am trying to say is pretty much what Severn said. Just because someone is voicing their opinion or feelings, doesn’t mean they are mad at you or attacking you.
Try to listen to what they are saying. Doesn’t mean you, I or anyone else has agree, but you never know, we might, and it could make a difference.
OK, I hope that all made sense! I felt like I was rambling!
"Don't wait for your ship to come in ...
Swim out to it"
[This message has been edited by Irie (10-11-2002 12:52 PM).]