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Ticklefingers
Senior Member
Posts 710
Louisiana

0 posted 2015-11-21 12:43 PM

Suicide is always an option. That is, if one is intent on taking their life, they make the decision and it may not be possible to intervene.

However,'options' don't discriminate between right and wrong, they just exist and have ever since since the original 'garden party'.

While there is no foundation for my 'hypothesis', from my romantic point of view, Adam was the first 'suicide', having chosen to do so knowing Eve was soon to die for her susceptibility to temptation.

Two of my own family members chose this path for reasons of their own. The first was in 1962 and the other in 2000. I consider it a thoughtless selfish act that does not have to happen. That we who remain not only have to tough this life out ourselves, but also carry an undeserved burden of memories, regret and sometimes, even guilt.

Love is not always convincing. The word comes and goes with such ease many feel it is only said in order to obtain something or otherwise manipulate.

Real feelings don't need to be heard. When someone hugs you, what do you feel? Only if they break your ribs or your pocket watch will you hear anything. If its genuine and performed as an act of love, you know it don't you? That goes for any 'acts' however they may be performed.

These feelings make one feel wanted and appreciated. When one feels this way, they want time to never end, and that is something we all can do something about.

Thanks for reading everyone.

Danny

jjote
Senior Member

since 2002-12-25

Posts 1088
Ontario, Canada

1 posted 2015-11-21 02:39 AM

I don't know where to read the original discussion of this topic (suicide?), but I will just take on from your thread.

First of all, you have said some sensible thoughts on the subject. I have gone through a sad similar experience with a family relative (a 13 year old actually). Sometimes when I think back to it, I wonder if there were signs that we could have seen or the immediate members could have displayed in their actions towards the person (child actually) that could have led or prevented it from happening. There must have been but we were too busy (but not really uncaring) to notice it or failed to show concern on whatever problems he was going through.

That's just my own thought - sometimes the fault could be we are too blind to see it happening to someone, when it only needs caring and empathy towards the problem of the person.

Ticklefingers
Senior Member
Posts 710
Louisiana

2 posted 2015-11-21 02:52 AM

Many thanks for your valuable and insightful reply Miss jjote.

The discussion was between a group of online acquaintances from another board and myself. I slipped my two-cents into it with mixed reviews. Primarily younger folks with much to say.

Many thanks again for reaching into your personal experiences and sharing them with me.

Lori Grosser Rhoden
Member Patricius

since 2009-10-10

Posts 10202
Fair to middlin' of nowhere

3 posted 2015-11-21 05:50 AM

Tf,
My relationship with suicide is unique in that I work at a high school where we have about one or so a year. Often the reason is over a breakup, but there had to be more going on than that. Also having suffered with depression for decades, suicidal thoughts are nothing new to me.
Dealing with those thoughts has become almost a ritual. I have my own "thoughts" to keep me alive.
First, I cannot afford to "indulge" in those thoughts, I know from experience they are temporary even if it feels like forever.
Second, I know the pain I would leave with others would be greater and longer lasting than any pain I am feeling.
Third, I may be feeling worthless, but there are still people that depend on me just to be me.
Fourth, I'm just feeling "sick". It is the depression talking, it is not real.
In all these years I've never attempted. But I have medication and support. Not everyone is so lucky.
Ironically, I believe in a right to die with dignity. So it is okay as long as you aren't in a state of depression but terminally ill.
I guess the Right to Die people are trying to die happy where as that is not the case with suicides. ~L

JerryPat2
Member Laureate

since 2011-02-06

Posts 16975
South Louisiana

4 posted 2015-11-21 08:31 AM

I have lived with the thought of suicide for many years. I have never attempted to carry those thoughts out to fruition, and doubt I ever will. I feel my thoughts on suicide is a long-time feeling of insecurity which I have developed because of the destructive way I have lived my life . . .

~*~ When they give you ruled paper write sideways. ~*~

Paula Finn
Member Ascendant

since 2000-06-17

Posts 5546
missouri

5 posted 2015-11-24 08:12 PM

As a sixteen year old, I "attempted" suicide. I spent the next month in a mental hospital, learning that damn, there were people with serious problems...real problems. And I watched mothers, fathers, sisters and brothers, suffer right along with their loved one. I have to agree that suicide is a selfish act. I never once gave thought to how what I did would affect my family. As a nurse, I know that if someone is serious about taking their own life, they will at some point succeed. And contrary to what most think, there are not always warning signs. Suicide is such a touchy subject, hidden, because if someone you love kills themselves, what does that say about you? Where did you fail?

Bluesy Socrateaser
Member Elite

since 2002-11-07

Posts 2417
In The Mirror

6 posted 2017-12-18 01:43 AM

You said it well when you said it.

...just bein' Bluesy

Bluesy Socrateaser
Member Elite

since 2002-11-07

Posts 2417
In The Mirror

7 posted 2019-01-10 12:26 PM

My annual agreement, TF.
You're missed around the place, boy...

...just bein' Bluesy

Essorant
Member Elite

since 2002-08-10

Posts 4769
Regina, Saskatchewan; Canada

8 posted 2019-02-08 12:18 PM

I think people who have more faith in God are better at not falling into the kind of mentalities that result in giving so much importance to human affairs that they sink so deeply when they turn out horribly. When you believe in God, you can feel more assured and remember you are never alone no matter how lonely you feel, and that despite how disorderly humans can be, there is still someone who is keeping things in order.

bbynams
Junior Member
Posts 49

9 posted 2019-03-09 01:55 PM

It's not always an option, unless you live in a society without walls. Suicide is not a selfish act; it comes from believing there's nothing better to live for.

There's a saying I believe: you can't take it with you. What do you have to say about that?

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