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Alison
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25 posted 11-14-2010 02:04 AM       View Profile for Alison   Email Alison   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Alison

I don't like when people respond to an apology with "No worries." ~ it sounds so dismissive.  I also am trying to break myself of using the word "hate" instead of dislike.
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26 posted 11-14-2010 09:45 AM       View Profile for serenity blaze   Email serenity blaze   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for serenity blaze

Agreed, Ms. Alison.

"No worries" --I don't like that one either. You are entirely correct that it is dismissive, and the implication is that "our" worries of hurt feelings are disproportionate to the feelings which are probably not returned.

So? No worries? Drop it like it's hot.

They are not worried, and therefore your energy of love and caring is wasted upon someone who is obviously, painfully, not returning that energy. I'm sure I've used the same words, too. But if nothing else comes of this thread, may we all learn to type lightly.

And I'm nodding in agreement with you too regarding the use of the word "hate". I've said it many times, but hate requires passion. The opposite of love is not hate--it's apathy. So I do agree, that to use the word with some sensitivity and accuracy, requires a sharper and more insightful pen than I happen to own.
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27 posted 11-14-2010 10:13 AM       View Profile for Sunshine   Email Sunshine   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems   Click to visit Sunshine's Home Page   View IP for Sunshine

Check yer mail.
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28 posted 11-14-2010 02:51 PM       View Profile for Mysteria   Email Mysteria   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Mysteria

Balderdash - unfortunately, a family favorite.
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29 posted 11-14-2010 03:28 PM       View Profile for Balladeer   Email Balladeer   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems   Click to visit Balladeer's Home Page   View IP for Balladeer

I strongly disagree. The opposite of love IS hate. Both are incredibly strong emotions. Apathy is lack of strong emotion. You don't have the opposite of a strong emotion being lack of a strong emotion. You have it being a strong emotion which is the opposite of a strong emotion. The opposite of apathy would be something like caring...

Mysteria...the title of my website is Ballads and Balderdash....I am wounded!!!!!
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Serenity, "curmudgeon" sounds to me to be more kindly than the other words that can be used in it's place. kind of a friendly crouch.kind of cute. LOL  It has a more pleasant ring to it. jo
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31 posted 11-14-2010 09:25 PM       View Profile for latearrival   Email latearrival   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for latearrival

Allison, I had a habit once of saying "I hate this" or "I hate that" until a good friend told me I sounded too negative.I stoped saying it and was happy she pointed it out to me. But she was so positive that  she "Loved every thing". Do you know how frustrating that can become? I could not really  know what was terrific to her or what was so so. We went to a strawberry festival and I had my mouth watering for  a nice freshly made strawberry short cake, like we used to have on the Guilford Green when they were in season. But this was so large a festival that the berries were frozen and the whipped cream was from a can. She raved so much what I bought a few large boxes of fresh strawberries and made the  biscuit fresh and put fresh whiped crean on it and  invited her to please sit down and taste a real serving of strawberry short cake. The problem was, when she raved over it,how was I to tell she really liked it or was being her regular positive self? I guess over use of any word can become tacky. LOL
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32 posted 11-14-2010 09:52 PM       View Profile for Sunshine   Email Sunshine   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems   Click to visit Sunshine's Home Page   View IP for Sunshine

Jo?

I've known them.

But...continue to give them real...
and they will come to know the difference!!



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33 posted 11-14-2010 10:17 PM       View Profile for Balladeer   Email Balladeer   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems   Click to visit Balladeer's Home Page   View IP for Balladeer

I have a similar story, Jo. I was living in South America and spent an evening with friends from different countries, England, Ireland and Scotland, all working down there. The Miss Universe pageant was on tv and, when Miss Ireland came up, I remarked, "I love her!" The Irish gal there said, "You Americans are crazy. You throw around the word 'love' so much that, when it comes time to use it the way it's supposed to be used, you don't have a word for it!"

She was right.....
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34 posted 11-14-2010 10:44 PM       View Profile for Mysteria   Email Mysteria   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Mysteria

She sure was right!  It is just a word used way too freely, now give action any day over words.
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35 posted 11-14-2010 10:54 PM       View Profile for latearrival   Email latearrival   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for latearrival

Yes, Mike I agree with her on that one. jo
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36 posted 11-25-2010 08:28 PM       View Profile for Stephanos   Email Stephanos   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems   Click to visit Stephanos's Home Page   View IP for Stephanos

They shouldn't have named that yellow vegetable "squash", at least not if they wanted kids to want it.  If you can't imagine how it might sound to a child (for whom everything is new), ask yourself whether you would like to eat some unfamiliar yellow stuff called "squish"


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I don't remember if anyone mentioned it but I dislike when someone prefaces a statement or opinion with "The  reality is..."

it has almost become as common as when people/kids  say  "like" all the time as in

I went to  a party and it was ...like...so cool.

Both are so unnecessary and the first is over used...the second one, not even proper usage.
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Jo, along with your reply, I am tired of hearing the phrase "baby bump" used for pregnant with all the celebrities or anyone on TV.
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M., I do not care for "baby bump" either.
I do not hear it here though. And as for using "like", EKE! I once sat in church and listened to a  preacher say "like, you know" over 24 times during the sermon! To be fair he did  teach a youth class also. But makes you wonder who is teaching who. Even in schools I hear the oddest words coming from teachers lately.  LOL  Are they all trying to prove how "Kool" or "Kewl" they are? jo
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     In poems I have some words that drive me up a wall.  "Beauty" or "beautiful" have always seemed to me to be a way of dodging a description.  They're like Mike's comment about use of the word "love."  All of us have the feeling at one time or another, but it's a cop out to assume that other people agree with us about what it means.  "Just" in a poem, as a synonym for "only" drives me nuts.  it's almost always padding.  "Crystal" is another.

     I once had a friend who used the word "Honcho" as a verb, as in, to "honcho" the bill through committee.  I would almost scream when I heard her do that.  The word "proactive" also makes me loopy.  What's more active than "active?"  If you're proactive, does that mean you're manic or something?  It's only made its appearance within the last thirty years or so, and unfortunately it looks like it's going to stay.

     If I dig into my outrage file, I'm sure I'll come across others.  
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41 posted 11-29-2010 01:09 AM       View Profile for latearrival   Email latearrival   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for latearrival

When did everyone start saying "it's so fun?" Isn't that a different way of saying,  It was so much fun? Or it was a lot of fun? Or we had fun. It just looks and sounds strange to me.

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There are some words that I find inappropriate or offensive, a few that I think are trite or cliché, and many more that I believe are over-used or badly abused. All of them, however, can be useful. Words you would never hear come out of my mouth might well be spoken by characters I've created to tell a story. The young girl who swears like a sailor has led a very different life than the slightly older man who thinks everything is beautiful or awesome, and the words people choose will reveal a lot about their respective histories. Words are tools. As wordsmiths, we need different tools for different jobs.

Or, to badly paraphrase Will Rogers, I reckon I never met a word I didn't like.  
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43 posted 11-29-2010 04:05 PM       View Profile for Capricious   Email Capricious   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Capricious

The word "proactive" also makes me loopy.  What's more active than "active?"  If you're proactive, does that mean you're manic or something?

I usually hear 'proactive' used to distinguish an order of events, or intents ... ie, one decides to be proactive in one's life (putting forth an effort to make good things happen) rather than reactive, where you are essentially just responding to a stimulus.
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44 posted 11-29-2010 08:36 PM       View Profile for serenity blaze   Email serenity blaze   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for serenity blaze

I can see everyone's point of view, as long as I read the explanation in context--which proves Ron's point.

I have a new one, that's on my "undecided" list--

"cremains"

and as for love? I can't get enough of it.

Really.
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Can't get enough Love?  Fortunately, one can always try.
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46 posted 11-30-2010 03:01 AM       View Profile for Amaryllis   Email Amaryllis   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Amaryllis

"To be honest.."  Hah? So up to this point you were NOT being honest?   That one raises my eyebrows.

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47 posted 11-30-2010 03:08 AM       View Profile for serenity blaze   Email serenity blaze   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for serenity blaze

"to be honest" does indeed provoke connotations, but it also insinuates promise that one will try harder in the future.

It indicates that desire that "the unexamined life is not worth living."

To me, anyhow.



To be honest means that I will, from this point on, abide by a troth to examine my motivation.

Life is painful, when examined.
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Agreed, Serenity... hmm, I think I meant to type 'to be completely honest'...! Oops, heh  

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BUT...

I don't want to insult you, BUT.. (here comes the insult)

I don't want to offend you, BUT..(offense comes next)

I don't want to complain, BUT...(then the complaint)

Need I go on?  I don't want to bore you, BUT...

.
 
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