How fascinating... you write/compose your work in such a total departure from what I am familiar with! Kind of like synesthesia~? `Hearing` the poem before you even choose words... wow. Myself, it goes something like this: (and maybe much more boring, but it works): 1, I am smitten with an idea, be it a word, an image, a concept, whatever. Poem begins to rattle around upstairs. 2, I work a rough draft~ using the first words that come, get the poem out & on to paper. 3, revision~ here I begin to play with sonics, word choice, language, line-break, etc... usually spending the most time here in this process (and, for me, it`s the most fun.) If I hit upon a better metaphor, or a way to condense & tighten the piece, more interseting word choice; it will all be done at this phase. Here I will choose a title, too. Occasionally I like to ask for help and critique at this stage, also. If I don`t plan to submit it to a print magazine, I may put it up on the internet at this phase, also. (Am starting a blog, to compile my web poetry.) And 4, polishing... making sure spelling, grammar, syntax, and punctuation are all in place. Well, that`s it in a nutshell!
Anyhow, I really adore the poem you shared above: it is wistful, tender,.. you truly do have a gift, unique to yourself, Ron. Thanks for sharing it.
Best to you~