Santa Monica, California, USA
Hi Bloodfairy: One quick suggestion is that other people's opinions aqbout gays and god are irrelevant right up to the point where the god business is used to justify harassment, persecution, exclusion, expulsion, and, disgustingly true, beatings and murder of gay, bisexual, transexual, and transgendered individuals. Then, opinions and god stuff get personal and relevant in a REALLY big way.
A way to think about it: If god exists (and I'm following your lower case reference) it's quite possible that god is not particularly concerned about our individual circumstances. If god does not exist, god is not particularly concerned about indivdual circumstances either.
Consider that if the he/she god business might at least be open to debate, he/she may not have made you in any particular way. With the god/sin/hell business set aside, particularly the sin/hell part, you can look at the notion that biology has a lot more to do with things sexual/intellectual/height/color of eyes/fitness for sport/ ad infinitum.
Consider that Biblical condemnation of homosexuality in a line or two represents thinking that could be 3,000 years old. Consider that current condemnation of homosexuality by various religious sects is not much more than a continuation of age old ignorance.
Two more thoughts: 1. If you want religion in your life, check out the closest Universalist/Unitarian congregation. There, you get to be gay, cherished by people for who you are, and god isn't presented as being judgemental.
2. Check to see is there is a G/B/T/T support group in your vicinity, or check out Ann Yellott in Tucson on the web. She's a darned smart (gay) lady with a PhD in psychology abd an advocate for acceptance of everyone as they are.
Best, Jim Aitken