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iliana
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75 posted 12-24-2005 12:05 PM       View Profile for iliana   Email iliana   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for iliana

Hugging you all.  Merry Christmas to each and every one of you beautiful souls!  jo
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76 posted 12-24-2005 08:29 PM       View Profile for Sunshine   Email Sunshine   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems   Click to visit Sunshine's Home Page   View IP for Sunshine

The First Married Christmas

They say time allows us to look back and laugh at ourselves.  My first year of marriage to the first husband has always lent me a chuckle…in the aftermath.  In fact, I look fondly upon that time as one of the reasons I have grown so far…I couldn’t be that remiss in my actions, forever.  But God smiled…and left me moments that I will never forget.

God does have a sense of humor.

I won’t go into grand detail of the first three months prior to Christmas – let it be said I was married in September, in California, and moved outside of the state for the first time ever that same September, and by December, I had gone from a warm home life…to a wonderment of stages.  I had also been blessed with mononucleosis, so I went from the married 115 pounds at 5’7” [and believe me, folks, my appetite was always that of a horse…so it was genetic!] down to 90 pounds.  By Christmas I think I was topping about 100 – maybe 102 pounds.

I had already been in Illinois all of three months, and had lost one job due to my catch of the virus, and had been employed at a small time insurance agency in early November.  The boss seemed to appreciate my attempts at taking on the dull and mundane workload, and when Christmas Eve rolled around, I was surprised when he asked me, and my husband, to join him for a Christmas drink.  We were to go to my in-laws house some 30 miles away to attend [my first ever] Midnight Mass [although not Catholic, I was looking forward to this sober celebration of joy] and apparently my husband felt, at 5:00 p.m., that a drink [or two] wouldn’t hurt before we were to leave for the family’s gathering around 10:00 p.m.  That would give us time to gather, then leave for Mass, etc.

Talk about plans of mice, and men.

My husband was a man who enjoyed his drinking.  He was four years older than myself, but the drinks I had experienced in my lifetime up until that point where innocent in kind.  Oh, I had a couple of orange and rums before dinner of my senior dance [illegally, I might add, but it was 1969, and I ALWAYS looked much too old for my age…so have, as yet, never been carded, and hardly expect that to happen NOW… ] and then at graduation [still was 17, but Mom tasted  my drink beforehand, and proceeded to allow me to drink in their home] and of course, when we were engaged later that year, I had one celebratory drink; and at the wedding in September 1970, tasted my first champagne, courtesy of my grandmother’s grand friend, Tracey.  So suffice to say?  I was not a “drinker” of any stage.  But I knew my grandmother enjoyed her Scotch; my husband downed his beers liberally when we had money, which had been quite spare from September 1970 through that Christmas Eve….

and I think you can see where this is going….



My then-husband hit it off with the boss who was pouring something rather sweetish and liberally over ice.  I have NO clue as of this day what it was that I was downing…but it tasted good…too good.

Our bad.

I am not sure exactly what time it was that my husband went the few blocks to our apartment over the bar which was across the street slightly north of the Hospital, and directly east was the blasted pink Dunkin’ Donuts’ space….oh!  You can imagine that neighborhood.  Sorry about that.  

No wonder it took until just recently for me to appreciate pink again.  Hmmm…hadn’t thought about that until just now.

ANYWHO….

I had not eaten all day, hoping to get off early on Christmas Eve, which of course, didn’t happen.  So the drinks had literally “done me in” and my husband wasn’t doing too well, either, so I suspect [although hadn’t thought to ask then] that he had probably downed a few something-elses prior to coming to pick me up.  I remember telling him it was about 8:00 p.m. or so, and I needed to lay down in my natural altogether and would dress AFTER I got done being sick and tired, and he would wake me, yes? Well, he got down to his au natural state as well, unbeknownst to me, and ended up hugging the porcelain queen.

What’s that lyric…I could have danced all night?  Well, THAT night I could have SLEPT all night…after having done some few thousand turns of the stomach….

But what I remember most was being abruptly awakened by my very irate father-in-law who had a key to our apartment [which we had failed to take away from the in-laws after my illness, when they were checking in…and bringing chicken noodle soup and such] and I am not sure what he was more upset over…seeing me in the altogether in my bed, or seeing his son, who was still hugging the porcelain queen.  OH, he was SO insistent that we quickly dress and get our mutual behinds down to the proper daughter-in-law who was attending Midnight Mass, and had called to find out why we were so late!  [Yes, we were still SO poor we didn’t even have a phone….]

Fully chastised, extremely embarrassed beyond anything I had EVER experienced, I obediently scurried to dress and wasn’t at all too sure that I shouldn’t take the steering wheel, as my hubby as FAR from sober to be driving some 30 miles in the dark.

But Dad was a short, balding, stout German who one obeyed, when he demanded. And he didn’t demand a whole lot.  

I still wonder just what all he saw, and how long he stood, looking.

I’ll never know.

But I think he might have felt he had been gifted that night, and then the genetic strain of his upbringing took over…and he was just mad he couldn’t have looked a bit longer…

As I look back on this, my cheeks still burn a soft pink…but not quite for the same reasons as before.  Now, it is because I let a good man down…and I had never intended that, at all.

Merry Christmas, everyone.
iliana
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77 posted 12-26-2005 12:32 AM       View Profile for iliana   Email iliana   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for iliana

SIL, blushing for you.  I would have died right then and there.   Oh, the things we remember and how we see them now!   ....jo
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78 posted 12-26-2005 04:29 PM       View Profile for Poet deVine   Email Poet deVine   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Poet deVine

Reflections

At this time of year I begin to reflect on the events that shaped the last 12 months. To take a phrase from ‘A Tale of Two Cities’, ‘it was the best of times, it was the worst of times’.

On a personal level, there were so many ups and downs I thought my life was on a roller coaster. There was the sudden and unexplained death of my former boss who committed suicide. Then the loss of my dear friend Becky to cancer. My job here has turned into a routine, boring data entry job – and this year I made ten thousand dollars less than when I lived in Arizona. But on the up side, my family is healthy. I have a beautiful grandson and granddaughter in Illinois and in July became grandma to twins, Joshua and Samuel. All four of them will be with me in May for a family vacation. My relationship with my daughter and son couldn’t be better – they are magnificent adults – I am proud of them and the choices they’ve made in their lives.

I survived two hurricanes with minimal damage. Others were not so fortunate. Katrina lingers in my memory as a natural disaster that touched so many lives and caused so much destruction to a unique city and culture. There were fires, tornadoes, earthquakes, torrential floods and enough natural chaos to assume that Mother Nature is going through menopause.

It happened to everyone. Rich and poor. Beautiful and ugly. Well-known and unknown. Black and white. Yellow and brown. Old and young. Fat and thin. The religious and the agnostic. The literate and the uneducated. The wise and the foolish.  The good and the evil.

Perhaps it’s time we all stopped and took a breath. For a moment, together, find a quiet space to let go of the hurt, the pain and the frustration. Let go of old hurts. Heal old wounds. Make peace with opponents.  

Perhaps it’s time we looked forward with a clear vision. Devoid of prejudice and bigotry. Seeing not the exterior of a person, but the inside – the soul. We are all alike there. In the darkest night when the winds are howling outside, we are all a little afraid. We share so much! We need to get past our differences and find our similarities.

I am not making a list of New Year’s resolutions this year because we have no way of knowing what we’ll be dealing with as the months unfold. So I will keep only this, which I’ve tried to live by: “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”

Perhaps in that way 2006 will be a golden year.
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79 posted 12-26-2005 07:28 PM       View Profile for Midnitesun   Email Midnitesun   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Midnitesun

love what you wrote, Sharon
and may you have a very kind and gentle, happy 2006!
littlewing
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80 posted 12-26-2005 08:14 PM       View Profile for littlewing   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for littlewing

Kari?

I still wonder just what all he saw, and how long he stood, looking.

amazing story, I loved that - made me smile and am still smiling . . . see?  You are a Good Samaritan!  I always told ya . . .

littlewing
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81 posted 12-26-2005 08:16 PM       View Profile for littlewing   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for littlewing

Sharon?

THAT is the most beautiful wish anyone could hope for.

May it be so  . . .
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82 posted 12-26-2005 08:29 PM       View Profile for Enchantress   Email Enchantress   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Enchantress

Beautifully said Sharon..
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83 posted 12-27-2005 06:53 AM       View Profile for Sunshine   Email Sunshine   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems   Click to visit Sunshine's Home Page   View IP for Sunshine

Perhaps it’s time we all stopped and took a breath. For a moment, together, find a quiet space to let go of the hurt, the pain and the frustration. Let go of old hurts. Heal old wounds. Make peace with opponents.  

~*~

Exactly.

Because I too, feel that 2006 is going to be a golden year for so many of our family, and friends.  I've been calling it the turn-about year.

As for the Mother Nature comment? Had I been sipping coffee, it would have ended up all over my monitor.

Thank you, Sharon.
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84 posted 12-27-2005 09:39 AM       View Profile for littlewing   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for littlewing

agreed . . .
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85 posted 12-27-2005 10:09 AM       View Profile for Nightshade   Email Nightshade   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems   Click to visit Nightshade's Home Page   View IP for Nightshade

amen ...
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