I don't think whatever happed to this man is romantic, may not be a public display, but simply a story that people put together about him...b/c he chose to be silent about it...????
Whatever, it is his choice...to do with his life as he wishes...doesn't make him sick or morbid...and until that man sits down and tells his entire story, its rather wrong for us to assume...and judge...some people, believe it or not, are better alone then they are with someone else...
God, I've made so many mistakes b/c people, loving friends thought I had to be married to be successful, and pushed me into dates, etc...NO...No...No...I do not have to be with someone to be successful or to gain approval from society...of what "they" deem to be normal...and I'll be d--- if I'm going to latch onto someone simply to have them take care of me...or fear of being alone....that wouldn't be fair or right or compromise who I am, or what I believe just to have someone in my life?
Who decides if this man is happy...him and him alone, be it by our ideas of what happiness is, or his...we do not have the right to judge him for his aloneness....or wanting to be alone, or wanting to morn...
Ali, there are some people who are so darned co-dependent on having someone in their lives, it doesn't matter who it is...just b/c they are afraid of being alone???? So they jump from one relationship to another, to another, all their lives????
Maybe some of us say, I've had enough, don't want to be hurt again...or hurt anyone else...don't want to live up to someone elses' expectations....I can't be that person...I want to be myself...moods, faults and all....????
Maybe that is how this guy felt...maybe he didn't have such a good relationship with this gal...????
I dunno, but what I do know is, he has every right to live his life the way he chooses, without being labeled, judged...doesn't he?
I'm thinking out loud here, not attacking anyone for their belief...but also, respecting this man's lifetime secret and decission. I've got enough on my own plate to make assumptions of someone elses life style...????
But maybe, their love was so special, that no one else could ever take her place, and if he felt that way, he has a right to...regardless of how we do not understand his decission, we must respect it, as long as he hurts no one, and it doesn't seem as if he had?
[This message has been edited by LeeJ (07-21-2005 10:48 AM).]