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Copperbell
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0 posted 2005-06-22 01:03 AM


I was looking at some pictures of my kiddo with his best friend thinking I wonder how long they'll know each other.

I know two ladies who've known each other forever -
over 40 years.  They raised their kids together, they became widows together and they still do stuff together.  They argue and razz each other but its pretty neat to see two people have a friendship so long.

So the question is about your oldest friend. Since when did you know them and if you feel like it - what interesting trails did you travel together?

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1 posted 2005-06-22 05:05 PM


You don't want to even get me started, but here goes...

My oldest, and dearest friend died a few years ago.  We met as neighbours when we both either 3 or 4.    
From the instant we met we became "sisters," and are still joined at the heart.  We insisted on being in the same classes all through school.  We even took non-academic classes together like Celtic dancing and ballet.  She became known for her dancing, and started a fantastic school as well.  We went to camp together, (man are those fun memories we were really devils,) then at we attended University together.  I do believe we made some Manitoba history. We even had our kids about the same time.  I am the one on the right who gave birth 3 weeks after Willow had her first born in this picture.
Actually we both went on to have fantastic careers, families, etc. and encouraged, and supported each other by phone once a week on every single Sunday for the rest of her life until she died.  She travelled worldwide and never forgot to call me. To this very day, I still wait for that phone call every Sunday.  Just a habit I can't break, and jump out of my skin when the phone does ring!

She had flaming red hair, and a temper to match, and taught me to be everything strong and good that I may be today.  It is because of her I learned the difference between want and need, that the true way to get love was to give it, and most importantly of all to always stay true to yourself.  I have in my home, plaques with all her favorite sayings like, Carpe' Diem, Be True To Yourself, Believe In Your Dreams, Count Your Blessings, etc.  A few of the folks here at Passions have been here and seen a lot of this lady around my humble abode!  LOL.


I was with her the second she died, and our friendship on this plain spanned was over 50 years, but it sure isn't over yet either!   We made a pact to raise a little hell in heaven too.    

There is not one day goes by she is not in my mind.  I wear her cross around my neck and every time I touch it, I can almost feel her.  Thank you for asking; you literally made my day to even utter her name!  One thing I know to be true is:

Friendships never die
They just take new form.



Copperbell
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2 posted 2005-06-22 08:26 PM


What a story!  You are some lucky to have a friendship like that.

Thank you for sharing Sharon.


Larry C
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3 posted 2005-06-22 09:25 PM


Dang! 40 years is forever? Guess I've lived my eternity already.

If tears could build a stairway and memories a lane, I'd walk right up to heaven and bring you home again.

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4 posted 2005-06-22 10:30 PM


WOW - great question

I have had a lot of friends over the years and one of the best friends that I have ever had (and still do) is a girl that I met about 10 years ago.  We both worked in management at Wal-Mart and at first we didn't really like each other, but then one day... we just hit it off.

It's been lots of stuff since then.

We have never been mad at one another and we always tell the other one the truth no matter what.  I love her like she grew in my moms belly with me.

She helped me cope when I lived in a bad marriage, and then she helped me get out and STAY out when it would have been so easy to go back.

I helped her through her bad marraige and divorce and we went on to see each other find our soul mates and get re-married.  

I directed her wedding for her, and she helped me pick out what shirt looked best with my blue-jean shorts that I got married in.

Our children have grown up together, and she was holding my hand 5 minutes before I gave birth to my last child just 9 months ago.

We cry, and man do we laugh.  Mostly at ourselves and we have sooo much fun together.  She is my heart, and I know that I am hers.  We share a bond that even time doesn't take away.

She calls me, or I call her everyday.  And, if something happens and one of us don't hear from the other.. well, we get in our car and we find out why.

She is my right arm, and I am her left pinky finger.. thats something that we have always said.

And besides... we are the only ones that can tell each other when we are being a pain in the butt - and have a smile on our face and in our hearts when we do so.

Thank you for making me remember just how special she is too me.

Think I will make that daily phone call now just to tell her that I am glad shes my friend !!


littlewing
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5 posted 2005-06-23 01:49 AM


good topic:

my oldest friend is MaryEllen, my soul sister, true blue, no matter how many times we moved away from each other we picked right up where we left off and everytime I see her, it is as if we are 8 years old again.  Most times I don't see her for like 2 years or so . . . but that's ok.  I told her to NEVER say goodbye to me, cuz that don't work, just say, see you soon . . .

LeeJ
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6 posted 2005-06-23 08:41 AM


One of my oldest friends, I've known since 7th grade...she lives in S. C. now, and works on Hilton Head.  She is a cherished friend, and ironically, in a lot of ways we are two extreme opposites...but our indifferences always manage to give us belly laughs and amuzement...
Matter of fact, her's in the hand on my shoulder in my pic posted here.  

We both became with child right around the same time...went thru divorces, loves, childhood problems, you might say, we both savored life together, both raised wonderful sons....always met at the shore every single week end....cooked together, have cried together and experienced extreme happiness...and together, had even endured, Mrs. Brown, our 7th grade home ec teacher...hehe...

She's a peach, and there isn't anything we can't say to each other, disagree, yet sill remain friends...I am and was, always blessed in her, and have learned from our friendship...we've come a long way...together, regardless of distance, we will always share a very unique and lovely friendship, one that I'm very blessed and proud to own...and perhaps Mary Ann, this winter I'll get down there for a visit, like we've been planning....love to you and yours, and thanks always for your devotion, do diligance and love.

We've come a long long way together.....

Sharon, Loved the pics, and your story, very precious and a joy to read, as well as all the other stories posted here.

Many thanks for pulling us in this moment in time, to take time to be greatful for what we've all had and known...friends are a very priceless commodity, which carries us through the dead of night...unconditonal love.  



Cloud 9
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7 posted 2005-06-23 01:02 PM


I have a couple of friends I've known for a while.

One I have known since I was 8. When I was 10 she moved away, so we lost contact. I would think about her every now and then when would go visit home. I remember when I was in my 20', I went to a "grandparents day" school function with my boyfriends mom. She asked me if I would go with her to see her granddaughters. The library was selling books, for fundraising, so we decided to go buy some books for the girls. As I was looking around I saw this girl that looked really familiar. Finally after 15 minutes we came face to face around this corner. We knew exactly who each other was. We cried and tried to tell what was going on in our life in a matter of 5 minutes. It was as if the whole world stopped. We were so excited and had so much to say, I don't even think we made sense to each other. For years we lived 25 minutes from each other. Its amazing how things happen the way they do. We have remained friends ever since.

I have two other friends. One I've known since 9th grade and the other since 11th grade.

I only have a handful of friends, (maybe that is embarrassing to admit) but with life and kids, we never lost contact. But with all the good times and bad growing up people can lose contact easily. Its been fun looking back on teenage years, partying and boyfriends TO being married, kids and work. No matter what, we have always been there for each other.

serenity blaze
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8 posted 2005-06-23 01:20 PM


This is one I'll have to think about a bit.

But I did one to say that Mystie-Sharon's story is a very touching one, and I was captivated by the photo, my friend.




Copperbell
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9 posted 2005-06-25 08:32 PM


Larry ;P


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10 posted 2005-06-25 08:39 PM


Timothy's Angel - Kinda of makes you think how would life have been without your friend - maybe we wouldn't be where we are without them

Little wing I have a friend like that - 5 minutes is all is takes to get right back into our deep conversations that I can't really have with anyone else

Lee - In my books, cooking with your friend is the best!  

Cloud 9 - neat story - I ran into one of my best friends from school little sister - it was so cool - I couldn't yak fast enough to catch up!

Serenity - I look forward to reading your thoughts

He is so fool who gives what he cannot keep to gain what he cannot lose - Jim Elliot

latearrival
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11 posted 2005-07-07 03:29 PM


I am very fortunate to have a lot of good friends,  not acquaintances.  Real close friends whom I feel I could call at any time. My friend Marion, (whom I mentioned in another forum, about dying  a few years ago by taking too much Dramamine while on a gaming ship), and I were friends since pre school. The next oldest, closest friend I met in fifth grade and she married my cousin so now our "kids"  are cousins. I named my first daughter Janet after her. The third  closest is  Ello, whom I met in 1970 at a new job where later I met Fran , whom I also keep in touch with and have stayed at her house when I was in Ct. a few years ago. We went to Foxwoods together on that visit.  Berdella, who moved across the street from me in 1973,  is a dear friend and I have stayed there on home visits. I am going to Ct. where I came from in a few weeks and I would love to have a luncheon for all of them but it would be the ladies  and some of their husbands, so I am hesitant because of the cost. Might become too costly. Am thinking maybe a picnic at my daughter's.  
    I met Gene in 1950's and we moved to another in  town in 1969  and built houses next to each other. We each had five kids by then and each had our sixth while there!  One of my sons and one of hers were always together and managed to get their photos in the local newspaper while they were ice skating together. They told the photographer we were one big family and had to built two houses to house us.  They were listed in the paper with the same last name! One of the neighbors called the builder to confirm the story. Needless to say it left us all with a lot of explaining to do!  Lee and I met when we were the two youngest housewives in our cul-de- sac , in the early fifties. We  had a ball together while our kids grew up. She is in Maine and we are both working and e-mailing each other to stay in touch.  Etta, I met when I was 11 and she and I have gotten together a few times since my move to Florida.  She has come here and I of course go there. We e-mail every day and keep in touch. Georgiana and Jane I met at the same time along with Lee.  I will see them all   (except Lee who is in Maine) in two weeks. I feel extremely fortunate to have these friends and the newer ones I have made in Florida.
Patti I met over the internet when she wrote in to my son's local website here asking about the area. I was the only one who answered her and I went to her home while it was being built and took pictures and e-mailed them to her. When they came back to check things we met in person and have been friends since, that was in 1996. I usually take a while to make a friend but all of these have been close and when I go to Ct. I am able to pick up where we left off. One year I stayed at four different houses and my daughter and  son took turns picking me up.  What fun.
  I met Becky  while working in Guilford Ct. and we started to roller skate together at a close by skating rink when I was fifty eight.  She is still skating, recently fell and broke her arm  at age 76! I have not  skated in Florida except once when Becky came and we went to Buena Vista  near Disney World and had a blast, because there is not  a rink  near enough to me with wooden floors. Marge Tindale told me she once owned a rink I had checked out with Becky when she came that year.
   There are two others I met here, Barbara and Maria, have been wonderful and reliable friends.  Through Maria I met Nobi and I introduced her to my brother and they at the ages of 75 and 72 are a steady item since. He sold his house in Homosassa and moved here. He had told me whoever he went with had to be willing to ride motorcycle with him and she finally told me she was willing to after she rode with Maria's step son. They ride all the time and go kayaking often too.
     I am constantly amazed that the shy young girl I once was,  has made and kept so many really great friends.  I feel rich  when ever I think about them. If any of you braved this long  tale,  thank you for allowing me to share them all with you.  martyjo

Justbleu
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12 posted 2005-07-09 12:29 PM


My oldest friend, Sheryl, I've known for 23 years.  She was 9 and I was 10!!!
Then my friend Tracy I've known for 20 years.  We were both 13.  My friend Brent I've known for 19 years.  My friend Josh for 18 years.  And my friend Jeannine for 9 years.

Bridgette

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13 posted 2005-07-09 01:44 AM


My oldest friend is a guy that I met as a Sophomore in high school. Followed very closely by the Third Stooge/Mousketeer/Whatever. There are too many stories to tell, however through them all, we have 4 marriages, 2 divorces, 8 kids, life-threatening auto wrecks, shared girlfriends, and 2 military careers... not to mention the odd almost legal activity.
G-d, I love those guys!!!
lol

I'm drowning, choking
   Falling deeper into this
   Black hole we call living
...Fates Warning

Copperbell
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14 posted 2005-07-09 09:49 PM


latearrival - thank you for sharing your story - you have been blessed

justbleu -

Ringo - that's awesome!

The thing with old friends is you never could have guessed where life would have brought you.


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