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Skyfyre
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0 posted 2005-01-13 04:03 PM


... to have a mid-life crisis?

Maybe it's the fact that I finally got married (after being convinced since - well, forever - that it wasn't for me), or maybe it's the thirties kicking in (31 in March, sigh).

No, I'm not out in a red convertible cruising for 21-year-old boytoys - I have four children and that's enough, thanks! - but I have been having the most bizarre dreams of late about people I haven't seen in over a decade.

Specifically, people from high school.  Most of whom I haven't thought of in years except in passing.  Moving 3000 miles from where you grew up has a way of disconnecting you from your childhood friends ...

It's not as though I have a reunion coming up, or got in touch with some chum that brought back the memories.  I haven't broken out the yearbooks (in fact, I'd have no idea where to look for them even if I wanted to), or dug through the old boxes of pictures, heaven forbid.

The worst part is that these dreams are almost universally BAD.  I almost called my high school sweetheart's mother the other day to ask if something unspeakably horrible had happened to her son ... and believe me, he and I parted on less than savory terms, so it wouldn't have been a comfortable call.  The dream was just THAT BAD ... and that real.

So many others that have come up in these nightmares ... whose parents don't still live at the same address with the same phone number, so I'd have no way to get in touch ...

I can deal with the slowing metabolism and the gray hair, but someone please tell me how to lose these awful dreams!

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Sunshine
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1 posted 2005-01-13 04:05 PM


What did you eat before you went to bed?
Skyfyre
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2 posted 2005-01-13 04:44 PM


Heh, nothing out of the ordinary really.

Also it wasn't just once.  One bizarre dream I can shrug off - but this has been several, often sequential, high-school-age theme dreams.  With horrible things happening to my old friends.  


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3 posted 2005-01-13 04:58 PM


You know, turning thirty needlessly worried me more than turning forty....or turning fifty. There, I said and I can't take it back...groan. Could it be that this reunion is constantly on your mind, whether you realize it or not? That would certainly cause strange dreams. Bad things happening to your old friends might just mean "change" and not really something terrible. You have changed .... and so have they.
   Now, getting back to being thirty. Wow....I felt and looked great throughout my thirties. Probably because I was divorcing my first hubby and my daughter and I were out on our own to discover the world and ourselves. Don't fret about age ... it really is just a number as they say. It's up to you how you enjoy each and every day of each and every year. Be well, stop worrying and have a great time at the reunion. Wow them Skyfire!! hugs, Chris

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4 posted 2005-01-13 05:56 PM


I went through this a couple of times, the first one happened when I was going to my 10 year reunion. The second time was when a co-worker was having a conversation at work about getting in touch with her old friends and having dinner. She hadn't seen them in years. I had dreams that I was having dinner with friends I hadn't seen since high school. From ones I hated to the ones that I hung out with for years. I was about 30 at the time but I never linked it to that. I am now 33. Which this leads me to asking my own question in this.
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5 posted 2005-01-14 02:16 PM


I am so paranoid.

I told this story to Nan, and now I'm picturing ya'll giggling behind the glass, saying "c'mon, tell us about the chin hair."

That's right. I grew a chin hair. At first I thought it was a patch of chin hair(s), but no, it was just naturally curly. (yeah, I know, I know)

So anyhoo...I happened to be talking to Nan when I was pondering this, stroking chin hair thoughtfully, I then stopped and typed, "Is this where I decide to fight it or celebrate it?"

she typed back: "PLUCK it"

But I thought no, and suggested I could like, I dunno, go for "interesting" and tie a bell or a tourquoise bead to my chin.

I decided to give it an afternoon to think about it. What the heck, yanno?

So I sat here, and I was reading poetry and such, and as obsessive as I am, yep, I grew fond of the chin hair. In fact, I prolly smoked less cigarettes  that day, as instead of compulsively lighting stogies, I was compulsively stroking my chin hair.

Just when I decided to keep it--the durned thing fell out!

(I couldn't find it anywhere either--I was going to tape it to an index card as a memento or something.)

But I typed back at Nan what had happened, and after a little thought I added:

"Yanno? As compulsive as I am, if I were a man? I'd be, well, wickless."

What she doesn't know, is that after I gave that further consideration, I looked down at my crotch and thought:



"Oh no!! Maybe I was!"



Well. I used to have a chin hair to prove it.

*grumble*

*  *  *



Oh my dear friend, it just keeps getting better and better--who wants to break the news to her about those little woolly moles ya grow on your neck, I think the dermatologist calls 'em "skin tags"?

You have my most sincere screen hug, Linda.




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6 posted 2005-01-14 02:48 PM


Oh Karen !!!
    Just as I was trying to be so upbeat about the aging process....
  But, then again, the gaining and also the losing of bodily hair can be quite entertaining might I say. I'll just leave it at that as my arthritic fingers are complaining about my typing. Hugs!!

Susan Caldwell
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7 posted 2005-01-16 04:48 PM


*horrified look*

what?

chin hair and skin tags?

I need a drink.  

"cast me gently into the morning, for the night has been unkind"
~Sarah McLachlan~

Nan
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8 posted 2005-01-16 05:54 PM


I bet it grows back!!!!...
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9 posted 2005-01-16 06:23 PM


Yep.  I only have a chin hair now and then.  Like serenity said, they're rather comforting...I find myself playing with the one I get, from the same spot now and then...until it decides it doesn't like me playing with it...and grows irritated.  So when it starts arguing with me, "pluck" with thumb to first finger, and voila, the little pleasure gone irritant is poofed.

Now, Sky...I'd like to thank you for this thread.  In the past three nights, I have been visited with dreams I never EVER thought I would have...and they follow me throughout the day, too.  So much so, they could all become "new novels"...LOL...but they are putting me in the most surprising places!  Oh My....I may have to adopt a pseudonym!

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10 posted 2005-01-16 07:12 PM


Good grief I hope I absolutely, positively never grow up!  

However the dream thing - been there and do that all the time.  See that other thread, tell the dream to someone you don't like and I swear it will stop, honest!  I think it is a matter of knowing life is slipping us by and subconsciously we regress to various periods in life, and dream them again, with our now seasoned and smarter conscience.  Perhaps we wish to do it again differently?   It really sucks doesn't it?  

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