Between the Lines
I was reading your discussion and had some thoughts I wanted to express, but it is so hard sometimes to be understood just by words, without hearing them spoken and knowing that someone is not being sarcastic or condescending.
SO I thought maybe I would mention a few points. First of all I am of the generation of flower children, etc...
I don't write about those mushrooms or drugs or any other kind of mind altering chemicals or even use innuendos about them, because I didn't like that period in my life and I never did any of those things (I don't hold it against anyone If they wanted to destroy their lives or affect them in that way, it was up to them)
I am saying this in a kind way I hope, I don't know how long you have actually been on this site, including reading poems before you became a member, but I *think* members are very sensitive to new poets (if you are one) who take a stand or an opinion before getting to know others on here and their personalities.
Some of us write what appears to be "fluff" to others but in actuality we are wishing, hoping for a taste of love or friendship or understanding in our lives again.
Some over use cliches...and I overuse these >.........'s in my responses Forgive me Ron
But realize if they are a young poet or new to writing, then the cliches may not yet seem be overused.
Some use faieries because they write only in that theme, just as I write as Alicethruglass when confronting myself,and Lady Ollyne when writing medieval style for a friend, as if waiting for my Knight to come for my hand in marriage.
Many also write to the challenges and the theme may need to be in a particular format that newer and younger poets may not prefer( for example rhyming). Then again some only write free verse or actually seem to be writing as if conversation and others may not see that as poetry.
What I am trying to say is there are almost 5000 poets (give or take the multiple handles) on here and some are daily contributers and some occasional only, but read many poems and respond.
Some have favorite poets and they may respond to them more than to you or I.
Others see the need in someone for support and you may see them receive a larger amount of responses. It has no bearing on whether a poem is more outstanding than another since all of this depends on interpretations.
I, too, notice some respond in a flowery way. It is their way to let you know they think they understand your words, or maybe just to show you they care and can relate.
I don't think they are trying to "best" anyone and many times are read wrong, or I should say are receiving a different message than I intended, but I thank them for their time and words.
I hope I am explaining this clearly to you. I sure am trying. And I don't think Ron misunderstands you at all. I think you may know this but in case you don't, this is Ron's forum and site and he is very knowledgeable in the runnings of this place and how we behave and react to one another.
He is very tolerant and even excuses much of what others may not agree with, if it doesn't harm or hurt another and that each has a right to our opinions.
Believe me when I say I have had my battles when I was first on here, too. But I have learned that there is more freedom to disagree, yet more comraderie on this site than any I have ever been on in 5 years...
Some poets leave, as I did after a disagreement, but most always return and have grown from the experience of learning how to get along with so many minds.
I guess all I am trying to say is...post, reply, respond and enjoy...some of us learn, some of us think we have nothing to learn or want to teach others. No matter what,
know that there is room for all on here.
And if you see hugs and other warm ways of showing caring, it is because many of us email or chat with one another, have met or feel a closeness to some because of the events in our lives.
I hope you enjoy Passions and can understand why some answered the way they did to your discussion..
Hugs of welcome
oh and Ron... sorry about these....
I try not to use them in poems...but I use them in my responses when my thoughts take a pause, which you can tell is way too often.
[This message has been edited by nakdthoughts (11-10-2002 10:35 AM).]