I'm gonna have to side with Martie, love isn't immoral, in fact I'd say that immoral love is an oxymoron. If what to people are doing is immoral that it ain't love but is probably a close relative like lust or greed. I also think that even when two people are in love that even though their love is not immoral, the relationship may be immoral or unethical. I don't think I would date one of my mother's friends even if I was in love, not because of an age difference, I have no quams whatsoever about that, but rather because I think it would bother my mother deeply. The love I would have wouldn't be immoral but the relationship could probably be labelled as unethical. Now look at the story Lolita...I forget the character's names but the older guy might have been in love with her but there is a case where I think the relationship would be immoral. Why, because a relationship usually deals with more than just love but sex as well...which can often be an extention of love but not necessarily always the case. It may not be immoral to love a parent's best friend, but it may be unethical to sleep with them. It may not be immoral to love a 16 year old, but it is most likely immoral to sleep with them.
Then you get into what type of love, is there more than one kind of love or just more than one way to express it? You can love your parents when you're 18 and they're 45. Is that immoral, no of course not, but it would be to have sex with your parents...but I think its safe to say the vast majority of 18 yr olds don't want to sleep with their parents. If this is true than I think its somewhat accurate to say that a person of the age of 18 can love and does know love without it actually having to equate to a sexual thing.
A really good book to read on the subject that covers a lot of different points of view on love is "The Synposium"...I think it was Aristotle's interpretation of a Plato's discussion with some peers...I could be wrong, been a while since I read it but I'm pretty sure that was the book.
"There is a world of difference between falling in love and just getting laid!
...not when you're 18 sharon."
Okay, I'll bite, if not at 18 then when can one fall in love without it just being getting laid? 19? 20? 21? Does that just apply to guys or does it include women as well? Just thought I'd throw that out in the open.
"It sounds like the two perfect ages for a future meltdown and destruction of all they had as friends."
I can't tell if you're describing that particular relationship or all of them in general
"I think any affair is immoral, no matter what anyone else thinks of it. The point of marriage is to attach yourself to one person for life."
I think the point of marriage differs quite a bit. Some marry for love, some for sex, some money, greed and so on. Marriage, unfotunately, isn't always about love. Also, is it really an affair if the husband is consenting? What about in a situation where a spouse is "trapped" in an abusive relationship...would it be immoral to have an affair then? I dunno, just something to think about.
I guess that's about all I can offer to this discussion, thanks everyone,
[This message has been edited by Trevor (09-13-2002 02:48 AM).]