Munda & Kit ...
thank you both so much for taking the time to reply to me and give me the benefit of your experiences. I'm sure the good does outweighs the bad, and it is worth it. Frankly... after reading all this and thinking about it, I'm not sure I will worry about it...if someone is intent on it, let them live the lie, I know they are my words. No one can take that from me ... naive perhaps, but then I'm sure until it ever happens to me, I dont know how I'd react. I'll hope I wont have to find out. I did some Google searches and was overwhelmed by how many pages of results come back to wade thru. I only did a few and so far anything that turned up were things I had given my permission on. Mostly friends here who asked me if they could put something on their webpage. I already spend way too much time on this computer, I cant imagine chasing down all this info.
Anyway...thank you for sharing and listening.
I believe this is one of those things until it happens to you, one cant know how it will effect them.
peace and poetry