Pursue....hmmm...sounds so predatory!
sigh...okay--here is the story of how I got together with my former boyfriend who is now my current brother-in-law (sometimes I feel like Jerry Springer is going to come looking for me!)
First of all, there was always an attraction there. We were really good friends who shared a passion for, oddly enough, Harley Davidson motorcycles and gardening. (see? I couldn't possibly make this stuff up!) We all have at least heard about an "electric" connection that sometimes happens between friend--I assure you it does happen. But anyhow, he had a girlfriend, whom I ran into at the local pub. We commenced to er, commiserate, lol, until about 2:30 a.m. whereupon during the course of conversation as she was complaining about HIM, it became apparent through my continued defense of him that I had feelings for him. So, she decided to GIVE HIM to me! We went to his house, which was locked up tight and all the lights out, and proceeded to use her keys to toss against the second story bedroom window to wake him. Well, the keys got stuck on the ledge. There we were in his driveway, laughing like the possessed, when a call of nature struck me, and it suddenly wasn't so funny anymore. Miraculously the window opened and we saw him grab the keys. When he opened the door, I ran into the bathroom to tend to nature's business and I could hear the yelling begin. He was furious. So I took my time. By the time I summoned the courage to go back out there I found her picking up her clothes which were strewn all over the place. When he saw me he said,
"Good. Now get the hell out, both of you."
She turned to walk out of the door but I had sat down in the chair. I said.
NO???? They were both looking at me like I was a lab experiment.
"I'm not leaving here until I know you are no longer angry."
"Well, you might be here awhile then." He went upstairs and back to bed.
She and I discussed the situation then, and she did finally leave me there. I will spare you the details but I ended up staying there for three days--finally going home to get a few things and return. He wasn't angry anymore.
Now. I'm not quite sure if that's "pursuing" but it was certainly effective.