Yucaipa, California, USA
WELL... What do I say... Obviously I can't let myself overlook such a subject, I just wouldn't feel right... (And um... Well, As you can see I love those three dots there (what were they called again? Elipias or something?))
Anyway, about Sexual Harassment... I think the whole thing is being blown out of proportion. When one thinks about harassment they (for the most part) think constant, eg. not a one time thing, or even twice, but on a regular basis, and after the harasser has been told by the harassed that they don't like it and to stop. Am I correct? At least that's always been my perception. Today, one can get a sexual harassment suit strapped against them for saying that the opposite sex has a nice body... What the heck? I thought that was a complement! Let's be a little more specific, say a man tells a woman that she's got a nice butt, he's probably just complementing her (Or... Well... the other reason is obvious) and by no means is he meaning to embarass or harass the lady in any way. Joking around today has been blown way out of context. Today, a sexual joke about another person (that's OBVIOUSLY a joke (eg. Stated Sarcastically)) can be a sexual harassment case in a few quick phone calls. Let's ask ourselves... WHAT IS SEXUAL HARASSMENT?
Well... Hmm... Say some guy's at school pants you (supposing your a girl). Is that sexual harassment? IMHO not necessarily... For one thing, the guys are most likely immature still, and curious, and kind of joking around. It shouldn't turn into sexual harassment until several things occur. 1. MAKE absolutely sure that the guys (or even girls... I've seen that once or twice in PE back in Junior High school (heck, it was a regular occurance for both sexes (and carried a heavy penalty, but who cared (((me)))))) Know... Make SURE they know. Sure, it rarely works, but at least they know. Next, tell someone who isn't going to try and pressure you to sue or thow the guy in jail... Someone who will talk to the guy (or girl) and tell them to stop. 3. Be PERSISTANT, if it happens a second time, tell someone who might threaten the guy (or girl) with the penalties of Sexual Harassment, but do nothing. On the third time, then consider it sexual Harassment, you've done your best to get the person to stop, and there is little more you can do.
And PoetDevine... An overheard conversation??? That's private, nobody should be listening anyway! One thing I know a lot about overhearing things as well, when you overhear something, you're probably not getting the whole story... Sometimes a previous conversation comes into play, or an inside joke comes up. Just about anything can be taken the wrong way when you overhear something, so what buisness does someone have pinning this on you. None. And that's the bottom line. Especially if it was simply overheard, and nobody was informed of the offense (thus allowing you to defend the comment, or cease the line of speaking).
Anyway I think I've said my peace (Hmm.. I'm always getting told I don't know when to shut up, or that the only story I can tell is a long one... I think it's true ) Anyway, thank you all for your time, and good luck to you.
-Love is a dangerous emotion,
You can brighten the lives of others immensly with it,
Or You can destroy a person in a way that is unparalleled.