Member Rara Avis
Dear lady, in response to your title, I was going to reply that I'd already lost it! But this was before I read your post.
I believe you've come across an important issue to our society as it now stands.
Brains -vs- beauty.
As most people will tell you, the idealized version of "beauty" has stemmed from an ever callous media, prone to perpetuate heroin addicts and anorexics. It coldly puts across these "beautiful" women as the goal for all women. Girls are brought up, with these women as role models, so in turn, they are led to believe that if not like them, they are somehow inferior, or ugly.
And this ideal has transferred itself across all parts of society, extending even (as you note) into the workplace.
Now, I would say if that woman were a model, then perhaps her appearance could have some dictation as to her aptitude. But I don't get that impression. So all I have to say in response, is that the man who hires the women solely on their appearance, is probably a man who isn't as concerned with doing his job properly, as he is with gawking at women who he believes to be attractive.
On a personal note, I don't believe in this whole beauty thing, as it pertains to a physical plane. I have see the most physically attractive woman turn grotesquely ugly before my eyes as soon as she opened her mouth. And I have in turn noted that a woman of unremarkable physical presence turning beautiful as she speaks.
beauty is in the eye of the beholder, is the statement. Yet I believe it is not in the eyes, but rather the ears and the heart.
I would much rather work with an "ugly" woman, who had a good head on her shoulders, than a "beautiful" woman, who was as dumb as a box of rocks.
So for yourself, look not at the mirror, for the answer to your beauty lies inside!
Ok, I'm done now!