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Sunshine
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0 posted 09-10-99 02:39 PM       View Profile for Sunshine   Email Sunshine   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems   Click to visit Sunshine's Home Page   View IP for Sunshine

I know I've not posted here much
for off-hand flaming, I've not the touch
but one thing really gets my ire up
is really witchie women, and their pups.

Why is it you can smile and do
all things that are expected of you?
But to this brand of "woman" I 'spect
we're all just here to create her "heck".

And how is it they get in the last word?
You'd think they were some honking bird.
So how do you react to them?
That's the question for your answer to pen.

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Ok folks, tell me how to deal with this rabid woman who is totally unhappy with herself, and manages to make everyone around her upset with her self-fed bitterness.

All comments welcome.

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Sunshine
Words will always express our feelings true. ~~~ KRJ
Look, then, into thine heart, and write ~~~ Henry Wadsworth Longfellow


Saxoness
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1 posted 09-12-99 09:31 PM       View Profile for Saxoness   Email Saxoness   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Saxoness

well, being like that myself sometimes, I'd say, just agree with her, and tell her if thats the way she demands to think, no one will change her mind, till she decides it.

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"Glory remains unaware of my neglected dwelling where alone
I sing my tearful song which has charms only for me."

-Charles Brugnot


Ron
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2 posted 09-13-99 12:02 AM       View Profile for Ron   Email Ron   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems   Click to visit Ron's Home Page   View IP for Ron

Tough call. There are few things in this world more depressing than a negative person, but Saxoness is absolutely right - ain't no one gonna change them but themselves.

My solution has always been simple - RUN!! As fast as I can. I just refuse to be around people like that. Unforunately, I realize that solution isn't always practical...

Tough call.
Julie
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3 posted 09-13-99 02:53 AM       View Profile for Julie   Email Julie   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Julie

Words of Wisdom: Sunshine
We can either change the complexities of life...or develop ways that enable us to cope more effectively. (Herbert Benson)
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No matter what has happend act as if nothing has happened. (Arnold Bennett)
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Things are in their essence what we choose to make them. A thing is, according to the mode in which one looks at it. (Oscar Wilde)
p.s. In short...it's up to you. Good Luck!
LngJhnAg
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4 posted 09-13-99 04:47 PM       View Profile for LngJhnAg   Email LngJhnAg   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for LngJhnAg

We could make a bad thing better,
If we can make her understand,
That being a female puts her in a fetter,
She be better off being a man.

Now I'm not saying men aren't bad,
But we don't crave our chocolate bars,
And a pinch on our bottom makes US glad,
And we love it when you go too far.

We're never catty when another guy
Has a body much better than ours.
We recognize we're the same type,
We just hide our super powers.

So, tell her that to be better off,
Changing her sex is a must.
Become hard instead of being soft,
And become a regular guy like us.
Sunshine
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5 posted 09-13-99 04:51 PM       View Profile for Sunshine   Email Sunshine   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems   Click to visit Sunshine's Home Page   View IP for Sunshine

LJA, terrific reply!

Thanks everyone...you know I was probably having "one of those days" and it never fails that as you are on the way out the door, someone decides to be a bore!

I appreciate all of your comments, and trust me, I haven't done her in...yet!
PhaerieChild
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6 posted 09-14-99 02:23 AM       View Profile for PhaerieChild   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for PhaerieChild

LJA...great response
Sunshine I know it's hard to deal with people like that sometimes but she may be having personal problems that she's tryin to mask or maybe she's just a quart low on estrogen. You being the person that you are can rise above this bitterness and just go on being yourself and being happy in it. Or you can take her to your heart and be her friend. Could be that she has no one in her life to confide in. I know that sounds trite but I used to be really bitter towards everybody cuz I was afraid to let anyone get too close. Close meant pain for the longest time and no one was allowed near me. It may just be her defensive walls. At the very least I think you should just continue to be a positive influence on those around you. Light eventually drives away the dark. Enough of my diatribe. Hope I could be of some help.

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Words lay dormant in the recesses of the mind til called forth to a labor of love. By WildChild

doreen peri
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7 posted 09-14-99 01:23 PM       View Profile for doreen peri   Email doreen peri   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for doreen peri

Ignore her. Do your job and laugh in the face of negativity.

OR...

Everybody pitch in and send her flowers from a secret admirer and have them delivered at the office..... do this once a week for a month, then ask her out to lunch and let her know you all did this to let her know she is a good person despite the fact that she doesn't appear to like herself much....

OR.....

Change jobs. Quit and open your own business. That way you can pick and choose who you want to work with.

OR....

Send an anonymous letter to her home letting her know that her bitter, nasty attitude makes people uncomfortable and that she has the potential to actually enjoy life if she'd just lighten up.

can't think of anymore
Sunshine
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8 posted 09-14-99 01:39 PM       View Profile for Sunshine   Email Sunshine   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems   Click to visit Sunshine's Home Page   View IP for Sunshine

Do you folks know exactly how terrific you all are? Unfortunately as to your comments, with the exception that I refuse to leave this place as I have a wonderful boss to work with, I've done most of the rest.

I just had to get that little ditty off of my chest last week. However, seeing these responses only deepens my resolve to know that "G" wins over "E", and if not now, then later!

Hugs to all............

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Sunshine
Words will always express our feelings true. ~~~ KRJ
Look, then, into thine heart, and write ~~~ Henry Wadsworth Longfellow


Nan
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9 posted 09-14-99 10:43 PM       View Profile for Nan   Email Nan   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems   Click to visit Nan's Home Page   View IP for Nan

get a good set of earplugs - and just nod your head and smile...
Toerag
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10 posted 09-15-99 09:25 AM       View Profile for Toerag   Email Toerag   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Toerag

Don't they still make Pamprin?....Midol?.....Valium?........Hmmmm?
LongJohn's answer was great....after all...it worked for her, um, er, I mean...him?
Sunshine
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11 posted 09-15-99 10:07 AM       View Profile for Sunshine   Email Sunshine   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems   Click to visit Sunshine's Home Page   View IP for Sunshine

Supersonic earplugs in place
I'm smiling right in her face
I've laced her coffee galore
with Xanax, Pamprin, Midol and more;

All of the other efforts we've done
she's affected others, I'm not the only one;
and you know what? I've discovered I've really won
'cause each and every day, she has to see the SUN!!!!

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Sunshine
Words will always express our feelings true. ~~~ KRJ
Look, then, into thine heart, and write ~~~ Henry Wadsworth Longfellow


LngJhnAg
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12 posted 09-15-99 11:20 AM       View Profile for LngJhnAg   Email LngJhnAg   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for LngJhnAg

Sunshine

I know you've worked really hard at brightening up her day, but, let's face it - she probably needs a good lay, which is the only thing a lot of women need. Right? < smug look of male-centered superiority over being the real answer for most women's needs >
Sunshine
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13 posted 09-15-99 11:26 AM       View Profile for Sunshine   Email Sunshine   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems   Click to visit Sunshine's Home Page   View IP for Sunshine

LJA, if you saw her, you'd

(1) Lose the smug look and
(2) Run so very, very fast, in the opposite direction...

LOL!!!
WhtDove
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since 07-22-99
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14 posted 09-15-99 11:41 AM       View Profile for WhtDove   Email WhtDove   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems   Click to visit WhtDove's Home Page   View IP for WhtDove

Kill her with kindness,
She won't know what to do.
Maybe then she'll turn and run,
And stay away from you!

Or maybe you'll have a new friend!
Sunshine
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15 posted 09-15-99 12:39 PM       View Profile for Sunshine   Email Sunshine   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems   Click to visit Sunshine's Home Page   View IP for Sunshine

Whtdove,

I am a passionate, loving, caring creature that cries over dead birds. My heart is so very large, sometimes it takes over. My mother and father raised me right, and to stay away from arguments that are fruitless. "Be the better" and "be a lady" were ingrained from birth. So, I think you can imagine, I've given it my all.

I've been dealing with this person 8.5 years. I'll survive. I just had to get this off my chest. However, I think I'll give her my regular dose of kindness, and double it on all others.

Hugs.
DreamEvil
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16 posted 09-15-99 02:52 PM       View Profile for DreamEvil   Email DreamEvil   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems   Click to visit DreamEvil's Home Page   View IP for DreamEvil

Delicate situation to advise anyone one on. My advice would be simply go your way and let her follow hers. It is no one's place to change another person nor is it anyone's place to judge so if you find her offensive, simply do not respond.

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Pain is life, life is short, I will endure.
DreamEvilŠ


DreamEvil
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17 posted 09-16-99 01:24 AM       View Profile for DreamEvil   Email DreamEvil   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems   Click to visit DreamEvil's Home Page   View IP for DreamEvil

Strike most of the above statement as I had a migraine this morning, as I do now. It has been my experience that any recognition given to those that are intolerably abusive will only fan the flames. If you tell them you don't like it, they continue. If you listen to them, they continue. Ignoring those that offend you seems to be the best reaction all the way around, though I admit sometimes it is hard to keep my wit from cutting at them. In short, be yourself and be as tolerant as you can. 'Tis the best answer I can give under the circumstances.

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Pain is life, life is short, I will endure.
DreamEvilŠ


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