Member Rara Avis
Sven, you don't want a piece of me!
If you want my honest, serious opinion, you might not want to start saying things like "women want..." and "men do..."
You know, women want our love and respect, but when men like me give it, we're looked upon as men that can't be taken seriously. . . just because we're not like most men. . . just because we don't think that women are good for only two things. . . just because we're "Too good to be true". . . and because of this, we're not taken seriously and we're shunned because "how can we possibly care about women?" Men aren't supposed to care about women???
And what is a "man like you," Sven? You are a unique person. How can you even categorize yourself? Each person on this world has something that makes them who they are. You are different from me, as I am from Jeffery, as he is from Sharon as she is from Doreen, etc., etc. I think one of the most dangerous thing is to blithely categorize anyone, much less yourself. Be who you are, and don't worry about what other people are like.
Because, I have found that pretty much everything you say here is completely untrue. I think it's not unrealistic to say that people want love and respect. Honest love and respect. But, being so different one to the next, what that love and respect entails is just as diverse. How I see a relationship is almost certainly different in at least a small part from the way you view it. Of course that doesn't mean one way is right or wrong, just different. I've said it before, I'll say it again, the world would be a boring place were everyone the same!
BUT I think that a common factor I've seen is that people do want, need, love. Some people view it in different ways. Everyone loves differently. I know I at least do not view a man who cares, is open and honest with anything less than respect. I think that anyone who achieves this is to be respected. It's hard sometimes to go beyond yourself and to feel for another person. If that is how you feel, I will take you seriously.
I don't segregate women into a category separate from men. "They" are just as capable of doing the same things as men, just as well or better. Heck, considering some of the ladies I've known, I even have a hard time accepting the fact of physiological differences!!!
Now let me clarify this, before anyone misunderstands. Here, I am am talking about ability, LOL, and what women are "good for." I love the difference between men and women! If it weren't for women... well, I'd probably have kept myself out of trouble a lot more in life, but that's neither here nor there! ;o) But I view the differences in much the same mind as I view a difference between you and I. I do my best not to see it as a "gender" difference. Obviously that difference is there! But when viewed as people women are in the same boat as men in my book.
As to this post... well, that's just me. I had a ready answer before I even posted the statement! (Contrary to popular belief, I am not a fool!!! ) In reality, I expected a little more vehemence in response! And I'm glad to see that most people took it in the humorous manner it was intended to be. Those that do know me, know this is not my viewpoint! This is another shining example of me pushing people's buttons. I love to "mess" with people! I think that it does good to get their blood heated up every once in a while, get that ol' grey matter working!
In closing, Sven, I can understand a little where you're coming from, but unless your side of the world is completely different from mine I don't think this is true. For the rest of you who put up with me (yet again) thank you for your kind hearts and funny comments!
[This message has been edited by Christopher (edited 07-09-2000).]