Member Rara Avis
Ron I agree that a good friendship, relationship is a solid foundation to start on.
I think many go wrong when they jump because of what they see, and in turn it's infatuation. That won't last long. I agree that having a deep friendship is a good thing. What better thing to have, than to have a partner (if it works), to be your best friend. And yes, of course,to have a great friendship if things don't go in that direction.
Now, I'm gonna give you something to think about here. For instance, this happened to me. Is there a line when that friendship goes to far into friendship that it can't turn into anything more???
I had a friend, who was a guy, his name was Mike. And we talked, he was always there for me. He was my best friend!! We hung around for many years...now after so many years, this guy became like a brother to me. We were so close. He never let it be known, that he thought of me in any other way, but a friend.
I was in one bad relationship after the other, and even set him up with someone.
(that didn't last too long)...but years later, he did mention how upset he was. That he saw me go through these relationships, and would have never treated me with anything but the utmost respect. I know he would have treated me well. The thing is, had I known maybe sometime earlier that this feeling was there, I might have looked at it differently.
There was something about it when I found out, that he was just way too close, like I said a brother, to think about having any relationship other than friendship. I miss him dearly, and haven't spoken to him in many years. (it's not because of that)
He moved, and I lost touch with him.
So other than building a close relationship, don't you think it should be known that you like this person? I mean LIKE, not love....
Get what I'm saying? I mean to start out on frienship and really get to know each other, is GREAT, but I mean a while after that, don't you think something should be said?
Or do you think that no matter how that friendship goes, there still could be romance there? Just my thoughts here, as screwed up as they are LOL
(of course y'all, this question don't apply to me, it's hypothetical)
JP, I'm sure the point would come across if I liked someone...but I'd probably do the same thing. I wouldn't come out and say it, but forever hold my piece. I don't have to worry about that now, cause I have a hubby...