I could write a book on this, actually I am, but I won't promote it right now!
I feel so intense about this subject, I feel that if a person's own life, personal relationship, marriage or whatever is secure, there's less chance of turning somewhere else, whether it be a bar, a nightclub, a church gathering or a peace rally
People take each other for granted, the ones they see every day, they become lonely, disenchanted with life and they do not want to be hurt but the inner desire and need to communicate with another human being is something we all have.
How do you trust someone? As poets, we should be privy to something rare. We should be able to see the words and know beyond a shadow of a doubt that they are real, upon reading them, look between the lines, into the soul. Many still fail at this and a poem can also be deceiving, sad to say.
Read enough of anyone's poetry and they would have to be almost evil (or very talented with words) to be portraying something they aren't, at least this is my opinion.
If you reach out and trust someone online and they abuse that trust, it hurts more and why is this? Because you reveal more this way, it opens you up and if a person is already a trusting person and honest, the results can be devastating.
If they truly want to know you, see you as you are, time will reveal that, if not, then you haven't lost anything but it still hurts and stings and wounds.
There's a lot of innuendo on some of the posts that I read, here on Passions, and I wonder is this true, a joke, or are these people trying to tell us they are leaving or hurt because they really did what the poem said they did and if that is true, why post it publicly for the entire world to read?
Personal issues should be dealt with privately, not put out there to get even, or try to gain some kind of reply, or attention. Our poems should be the focal point.
Online romance is still romance, online falling in love can still happen, can be every bit as real, more deep and more special because it has it's roots in the communication of the soul, as well as the heart but the soul more so because something happens when you are alone, in tears, no one can see you, and you release yourself.
It depends so much on WHO the other person is. If they have integrity, some form of honor, they won't take advantage of you, they'll even leave you if they feel they would hurt you. If they are shallow or vain they could easily abuse and this makes me so very angry I could write about it all day, but I won't, I'm rambling already.
What hurts more than anything is when they draw you into their life, shower you with attention, and then discover you are a real person who could all of a sudden bring their world to an end if you showed up on their doorstep!! You find out quickly that you become a choice, someone to be dealt with.
At that point, if you don't have people right there to give you that attention and understanding and if you don't have any faith, you really are left with nothing.
Pictures are nice, but shouldn't be a prerequisite, as someone may have always wanted to know they alone were enough, things like that, or other reasons they dont want to saddened someone with.
But love is love, and it can happen in any form, it's going to survive if it is real, and unfortunately I've seen first hand both sides of the posts Sharon gave us, they are heartbreaking and I would say to the second post....
"did I fail you? Why are you doing this?"
"did I even try to know you?
because someone in this world WILL if you keep reaching out.
The saddest thing in all of this, is sometimes a person misses an opportunity to know what it feels like to be loved simply for who you are and maybe they never had that before, maybe no one ever knew who they really were.
[This message has been edited by Irish Rose (edited 10-12-2000).]